r/AdultADHDSupportGroup • u/mixerlinehan • 5d ago
ADVICE & TIPS Relating to other people
M32. Coming into this age I’m amazed at how different I feel from people who don’t have some form of ADHD or non typical way of thinking. Not necessarily in opinions on specific topics but more so in approach.
Is it normal to feel like you can’t DO anything yet all the people around you who CAN DO often miss the forest for the trees?
I feel like this in so many areas of my life where for me to feel confident in something I’ve to understand it upside down, inside out but could see the big picture the second I was introduced to something.
It’s frustrating as hell 🤣 like watching insane potential float by but you can’t do anything about it.
Or is this that a lack of attention inevitably leads to a Dunning Kruger like confidence where everyone else also gets that initial big picture but that fades away once they get stuck into something?
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u/thegracefulbanana 5d ago
M32 here. See I’m probably the opposite, where my greatest strength (probably tied to my ADHD) is my ability to absorb information, understand the contexts and nuances and apply that information into action. I would definitely say I’m a jack of all trade and sometimes that’s viewed as a bad thing, but I’m the best cook in a room full of engineers and the best engineer in a room full of cooks.
Or I feel like I have a very hard time, though is maintaining real connections to people. Ironically, I’m a sales rep by trade so I am very good at speaking to people and reading the room but have a really hard time feeling “a part of” the people around me. Almost like the beat my drum is slightly off rhythm. I have my close connections but making close, real friends is tough for me. Unfortunately I feel I’m cursed to be in this world but not of it.