r/Advice 20h ago

Advice Received I need advice. I have nowhere to go and everyone hates me.

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u/neonangelhs Helper [2] 20h ago

You should search for local Illinois shelter information and get assistance there. They have counselors and resources that can help you.

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u/Longjumping_Lie_8144 20h ago

try volunteering for an ngo. they can offer you food and accomodation. if they have any

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u/Lopsided-Beach-1831 20h ago

Please call 211. They will set you up with a social worker who can tell you what programs are avail to get you on your feet in your area.

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u/Lucky-Individual460 Helper [2] 20h ago

How old are you?

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

I’m an adult.

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u/Lucky-Individual460 Helper [2] 19h ago

Can you contact an organization that helps people? A shelter is an option but I find the volunteer organizations do a better job of helping people with life skills.

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

Thanks. Helped

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u/AdviceFlairBot 19h ago

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u/usurperok 19h ago

Job corp.

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u/poweredbypineapple 18h ago

I’m too old

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u/Complete-Durian-6199 20h ago

How old are you? Do you have any savings? Do you have a car?

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u/poweredbypineapple 20h ago

I have a car. I have 7 grand in savings.

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u/Akoth_Odhiambo 19h ago

That sounds terrifying. You need immediate support

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u/Weekly_Access948 20h ago

You have a boyfriend so not everybody hates you. You don’t say what made your dad so angry.

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

Does it matter why?

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u/unaccomplished_idiot Helper [2] 20h ago

What your dad said BEYOND sucks and is unacceptable. I’m sorry. :( Is your boyfriend upset with you for being there, abusive, or asking you to leave? Why not just stay there? Can you give us more context?

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u/poweredbypineapple 20h ago

My boyfriend yells at me.

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u/unaccomplished_idiot Helper [2] 19h ago

I’m so sorry. Google domestic abuse shelters near me. Go to a local community page on Facebook and post anonymously asking for recommendations for the best shelters and support networks for abuse victims in your area. I believe others have suggested dialing 211. If you can take a walk to do that discreetly, that sounds like a great option. Not everyone hates you - there are people right here in this sub who care. Keep reaching out if you need support! We’re here! You got this.

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

Thanks. Helped

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u/AdviceFlairBot 19h ago

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u/unaccomplished_idiot Helper [2] 19h ago

Quite welcome! Glad to do it.

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u/tightbluesack 19h ago

If he yells at you, then he’s not your boyfriend, he’s your master or your boss. Dump him and find a mellowed out guy.

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

No

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u/tightbluesack 19h ago

Then stay abused then and quit complaining about how bad your life is going!

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u/poweredbypineapple 18h ago

Because I HAVE NOWHERE ELSE TO GO.

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u/tightbluesack 17h ago

Get off of Reddit and find a place or a new boyfriend then. Your life won’t change if you don’t change. I’m not trying to be harsh or mean, but only you can project the direction of your life.

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u/poweredbypineapple 17h ago

I’m asking for advice. It isn’t as easy as finding a place and just finding a boyfriend.

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u/Ill_Illustrator_6097 19h ago

Join the Air Force

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

I have a traumatic brain injury. I was in a coma. I’ve tried to join all of the military branches and they will not accept me.

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u/Jaysmyname1174 19h ago

You have 7k then you have enough for an apartment. Get another job no excuses!

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

An apartment needs you to show consistent income. I am trying to get another job. I’m not making excuses.

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u/InitiativeOne5255 15h ago

Try renting a “room” in a shared house. Facebook groups etc

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u/Lucky-Individual460 Helper [2] 19h ago

Seven grand is good! Can you go to an extended stay inn and look for another job?

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

I have an interview on Monday and I’m nearly certain I’ll get the job, but I don’t have a place to keep my clothes, keep me warm, sleep safely, etc.

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u/Lucky-Individual460 Helper [2] 19h ago

Air bnb or extended stay hotel?

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u/poweredbypineapple 19h ago

Those are so expensive. I don’t have that kind of money right now.

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u/Lucky-Individual460 Helper [2] 19h ago

Rent a camper and stay in a camp site?just until you can get the first few paychecks and get something better?