r/AspieGirls • u/MaryTeiichi • Feb 10 '25
Valentine day, and parents around
Hello everyone. Like I wrote in a post yesterday, me and my boyfriend just bought an House (still work in progress because at the moment we live just in half of it because the rest is still not ready). My parents came to help with some works and moving, they are here since more then 2 months now. They will go back to their place with plane in basically 3 weeks. In the space where we are living now we are really packed, we don't have a kitchen yet, and the room organization is just improvised for now. We have just 2 bedrooms (ours and a guest room where my parents sleep) , bathroom and a room with literally EVERYTHING (at the moment is a dining room, a office, a living room, and a lot of boxes and packages )
The two bedrooms are really close and I feel really uncomfortable having any interaction that is more then the goodnight kiss with my boyfriend. And I already feel this is really bad for the relationship. Expecially because we don't have "time for us" since 2 months. The parents don't have a car, and their presence is being really "invasive"... Because they are 24/24 h with us basically.
Now in a few days is valentine day and we can't plan anything. I'm working until 21.00 and the day after too. Restaurant and nice places here closes at maximum 22.00, so we have no time to go out. The only thing would be doing something at home. But we don't have any privacy at all. And this hurts me so much...
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u/Klutzy_Interview2251 Feb 10 '25
How about a hotel for the night? Either for you2 or your parents?
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u/MaryTeiichi Feb 10 '25
I thought about that. But hotels are really expensive here. And we are really tight with the money right now, with the house and everything
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u/Klutzy_Interview2251 Feb 10 '25
Would they be willing to go and pay for one night? If you told them you are planning someting with your SO?
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u/MaryTeiichi Feb 10 '25
It seems so unpolite T.T I'm,so confused
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u/Klutzy_Interview2251 Feb 10 '25
Hm. Maybe if you remind them how they were young once. And in love
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u/Brave_Bug7811 Feb 10 '25
I mean, this would feel invasive for anyone even people not on the spectrum… your parents should book a hotel with their own money for the night at least
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u/LilyoftheRally Feb 10 '25
Postpone Valentine's Day celebrations until your parents can leave. I remember suggesting advice for you yesterday on having them leave sooner.