r/BeAmazed • u/UnitedLab6476 • Jan 23 '25

Miscellaneous / Others Caring And Determined Wife Goes Above And Beyond To Help Husband Recover From A Stroke

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u/Broad_Quit5417 Jan 23 '25

I can explain since I've seen this firsthand:

It's really important to understand realistic expectations in a situation like this, lest you come to believe that your loved one in a similar state is being "failed" somehow if they don't recover in the same way.

I've seen this within my own family that the stupider ones expect, literally, a TV like super diagnosis and immediate recovery, anything less and the doctor is a moron and the system sucks.

So yes, great story, a lot of very lucky / random events that are unlikely to be repeated in a case like this.

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u/jakej9488 Jan 24 '25

Right, but this isn’t “r/BeRealistic” — this is “r/BeAmazed” lol.

Literally the point of the subreddit is to show something amazing, out of the ordinary. So everyone saying “well ackkktually this isn’t a normal result…” are kind of missing the whole theme of the sub.

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u/[deleted] Jan 24 '25

They have a really valid point though. As a brain patient myself, it's been enormously frustrating coming up against all the misinformation and unrealistic expectations people have because of sensationalism in media, whether legacy media or social media. No one reports on cognitive deficits or neurological weakness that persist even after rehab, even after you're walking and talking. It's not a fun, exciting, feel-good story. Everyone has the mistaken notion that you can have massive strokes or lose parts of your brain, and with enough gumption and nEuRopLasTicIty (I've come to loathe that word) everything will be fine. Nope. Even people who make good recoveries tend to suffer from the most common brain injury symptoms afterward, sometimes forever: stuff like fatigue, personality changes, sensitivity to light, lower emotional resilience, headaches, trouble with memory or multitasking, etc.

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u/Winsconsin Jan 24 '25

I read one of the side effects as "mustaches" in my haste and was taken back for a second. Jokes aside, I sympathize with your plight. I had a girlfriend of three years who suffered brain damage and didn't make it. Her organs were donated to a bunch of people in need, but her loss left a hole in my and her families lives that we'll l never really recover from either.

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u/[deleted] Jan 24 '25

I'm really sorry to hear about your girlfriend; I can't imagine losing someone like that. My brain cancer is incurable so one day I'll be donating to a bunch of people too. It's one of the small comforts I take from this.

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u/Broad_Quit5417 Jan 24 '25

Amazing things generally.... aren't the norm. Like, by definition.