The owner had depression and I cleaned her home for free

[u/CleanwithBarbie]

[u/BrewerBeer]

Try to get everyone out of the home first. Cleaning is easier for me when nobody else is there.

[u/IndividualHorror6147 → u/BrewerBeer]

That’s the problem. The wife needs help, and almost everyday we have have tons of aid like the doctor or therapists or whatever comes over the floor.

That why we’re looking to get her to daycare for a couple of days in the week so she gets all the help at the daycare.

If I have a couple of days in the week I’ll manage.

Also since it occurred I’m very chaotic, I know it’s best to clear everything room by room, I’m all over the place.

I need to self discipline.

[u/BrewerBeer → u/IndividualHorror6147]

I have the same ADHD issues (I hope your wife gets better, I'm sorry) and I definitely shut down hard when horrible stuff happens. Usually when its just normal stress stuff a little actually helps me clean (like if I need to clean before someone comes over). But I definitely am terrible about cleaning unless I am alone and in a good mindset. The funny part about cleaning is that once you actually get going, you'll be way more efficient than you think you will be and it never takes as much time as you initially think. But it especially helps if you've experienced it and have a plan, so that first leap is the most important. I always focus on organizing objects off surfaces and the floor before I start worrying about dirt on the floor. Objects are trip hazards. Dirt on the other hand can accumulate. Once you get to it, it will be gone with no difference in time required.

Personally I know my self discipline issues are based on the ADHD and lack of routine. Sadly Im still waiting on the doctors appointment to get medicated for it (signed up for a new doctor 6 months ago). I'm tired of this mental bullshit getting in my way. Its effected my mental state and academic progress for way too long.