"Alpha" is a myth anyway, the researcher who spent time studying wolves and is known for establishing the hypothesis spent the rest of his career trying to undo his initial conclusions.
Iirc, the male and female wolves considered to be the alphas were later found to be the parents of the pack, they're in charge because they literally created the pack.
I always love to read this information, poor researcher who even when they accepted their mistake the mark was already there for delusional idiots to use as excuse for being shit.
Even then, language has shaped humanity's social specialization in such a way that trying to compare any animal to us in terms of hierarchy is like comparing an etch-a-sketch to the cockpit of a jumbo jet
The idea of the "Alpha" in any context is bullshit peddled by the kind of assholes who want to be in charge without having to do the emotional labor of actually understanding or caring about the people they want to be in charge of. It's a demented form of sociopathy, and I choose that word very carefully, and the good thing about human beings is we typically reject the "Alpha" out of hand
There's a reason people look at Andrew Tate and see an ugly, chinless cocksneeze deserving of neither time, nor respect. The only people who fall for the "Alpha" nonsense are almost entirely 11-16 year old boys, or the mental equivalent of such. Humans are entirely too complicated for so simple a "theory", pronounced the same way you pronounce "tapeworm", as Alpha bro jackassery
Yeahh, about the Gorilla thing ... A gorilla alpha is more of a "wise grandpa" thing, and less of the big tough leader.
If you put the average alpha male into the body of a healthy adolescent gorilla, that moron would trynna jump the weak and old "alpha" and be mauled by the other Gorillas for beating up the nice grandpa that tries his best for them lol.
no its not a myth. the idea of alphas for humans is just another way to say likable and social and attractive men. if youll deny that some people arent more socially successful than others then youre stupid
I have a group of male friends that are pretty tight. We are all in our fifties. Known most of them for at least 10 years, some as long as 20. We usually give each other a “bro hug” when we are leaving get togethers. About 2 years ago I told one of them “love you bud” and he responded in kind. It’s become our normal now, with all our male friends. You never know when it’s gonna be the last time you see each other. What I am getting at is to remind your friends you love them.
That sounds like a beautiful friendship and beautiful words too, always remember that you never know what will happen tomorrow so it's much better to not get angry for stupid shit, laugh and smile a lot and telling each other how important and amazing they are.
I feel like we've grown past "that's gay" being a blanket insult. Especially with me and my friends eyes, race and orientation are hardly a foot note. I'd like to imagine as a society we've hit that point were gay no longer has negative connotation. Even your comment has this internalized expectation/fear for some bully straight police to come around.
So I don't say this with any malice, is this not kinda gay? Especially that last one...
To be absolutely honest I believe any good same-sex friendship has a tiny bit of "gayness" just due to the fact that you enjoy spending time with this another human because you like them and are happy to see them doing well. Kinda gay if you ask me (and I'm all for it, gotta love my friends and seeing them always brings a smile to my heart).
Something being kinda gay or not is just a way we use to try to categorize natural reactions that fall into a spectrum (as most things do).
Also sadly some people still use gay as an insult but it's a dying rot, and the new generations are being born in a world where being who they are honestly is a possibility and that they aren't alone in this, even if the governments try to say different there's people out there helping.
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u/ADuckWithAQuestion 19d ago
"Alpha" dudes would call this gay.
Normal people recognize this as a beautiful expression of love for a friend.