When you're in your late 30's and have lost all of your childhood friends with 0 new friends and feel like no one likes you anymore, this shit made me cry like a bitch
40s here. Grass was always greener in my 20s and 30s… so I was never satisfied and looking for the perfect dream girl. And that’s when all my friends settled down and started having kids. Like every single one of them… a huge group of like 20. And now I’m the odd man out. I’m still in their orbit. But it’s different. I’m living a different reality than them. They’re all growing their families and my new friend pool has shrunk.. in fact it’s pretty much grinded to a halt. Been an… interesting time in my life.
You know that guy in the wedding singer… who talks about being the older single dude and how it sucks? That finally makes a whole lotta sense.
Bro there are TONS of fantastic women in their 30s and 40s who are looking to connect with someone and build a genuine relationship. You can definitely find an awesome partner if you try! Don’t let self-doubt and regret eat up your middle years. You have the time and the opportunity to create something great and the only thing stopping you is you.
I’m 30 and I’ve probably made 3 close friends in the past decade or so. Sadly most of my childhood friendships have drifted. Keeping a tight group is nice but I do envy the large friend groups that still do everything together
Keeping a small, close-knit group is definitely meaningful, but seeing those big friend groups who still take trips or have regular hangouts can spark a bit of envy.
I thought it was one of those things that couldn't happen to me, but here at 31. No friends. Try to make new friends but they just end up more aquantices. There isn't a human being that would react like this to seeing me. Shit made me shed a tear as well.
Not even my own family would act like this. I've pretty much accepted that I'm not very desirable and actually pretty stupid. I wish I was better, been trying to be for so many years but I'm now accepting my shortcomings. I'm just not cut out for this world. I think eventually my depression will get the best of me like it did my father. It's like this inescapable feeling like sinking into a dark abyss constantly nagging in my subconscious and I try to fight it but it's hard... The only thing that really helps is smoking weed and God have I been! I wanna take a break from it but I'm scared.
You’re only 31, you have plenty of time ahead of you to create friendships with this type of connection. Consider joining a recreational sports team or something similar where people regularly meet up to engage in the same activity. Chess, quilting, whatever. Consistently attend, and boom - you’re making friends.
I definitely meet plenty of people. I do lots of sports and recreational activities. Talk to people at work and when I go out. I see the same people every time I attend them. It's always a fun time, and we hug and greet and talk and laugh and catch up. But it never leaves that space. I'm not hanging out with anyone outside of those activities. And when I try to, it gets shut down. So, it's hard to want to keep trying and consider those people friends. Even though, I my end, I care about them. It's just not always reciprocated.
Same exact boat. Turning 30, any of my “friends” in my current city are flakes at best, even when I make an effort to hang out. Havent heard from them in ages
Got 1 or 2 close friends from the military in different states, havent seen them in years, we speak maybe once a year at best
Definitely makes me realize I’m the common denominator. I made peace with aloneness (but not loneliness)
That's why I don't watch these videos. Pretending like these relationships don't exist is much easier. I know damn well I'm not capable of making these kinds of friendships for many reasons, so watching this shit is just basically self harm. Same reason I can't watch romantic movies.
I've dove headfirst into the "dealing with symptoms" philosophy. I'm autistic and the dating and friend-making scene has advanced way farther into the fucking incomprehensible enigma of stupidity. I just don't want anything to remind me that deep, meaningful friendships and romance is even a thing anymore so I don't feel like I'm watching my life fly-by.
I feel that, I moved across the country 12 years ago. Left all my childhood, teenage, work, friends and family behind, it's hard to get back down to see them. But hey, that's life, the friends I've made since, I love them all, but it doesn't compare to what I left behind. Tears everytime!
Please listen to The Mel Robins Podcast episode “why making friends as an adult feels impossible and what to do about it” this had a huge impact on me and I hope it can help you too
this but it's obviously my fault. never kept up with friends in the area, never really tried to make new ones and most people I meet annoy the shit out of me. still sucks
I have exactly one person I can even remotely call my friend at 23. Shits fucking lonely man. At least I'm getting practice in for the inevitable, I guess.
Dude you have so much life ahead of you to make friends! I didn’t meet my best friend until I turned 30. 39 and still going strong. You don’t need to be alone, I promise. Your friend making days are not behind you!
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u/Sufficient_Mango_115 19d ago
When you're in your late 30's and have lost all of your childhood friends with 0 new friends and feel like no one likes you anymore, this shit made me cry like a bitch