Feeling pretty lost and behind so could some positive stories from strangers.

Sometimes, the only way is THROUGH. There’s no going around, above or below your destiny. There’s no cheating your way out of it. There’s no “doing the bare minimum”. There’s no “giving it a try”. If it really means everything to you that you see what you’re really made of, then the only way is “Through”. If you really want to fulfill your potential in this world, then the only way is “Through”. Through the “doubt” and uncertainty. Wondering whether you made the right decision. Through the early mornings and late nights. Through the silent battles that nobody sees. Through the loneliness, when nobody understands what you’re going through. Through the hard work and dedication, that seemingly bears little fruit. On this journey to self discovery, the only way is through it. It will demand more out of you than you ever thought you were capable of. It will force you to purge all limitations that have ever been imposed on you (Whether by yourself or others). It will command you to put your heart and soul into it. Shedding Blood, Sweat and tears for a seemingly indefinite amount of time, without any guarantee of making it out the other side. You will lose sleep. You will make endless sacrifices, all while being misunderstood in the process. But eventually, when you make it out the other side, you will realize that it was all worth it. Emerging from your cocoon like a butterfly ready to conquer a new world. And you will bear testament, becoming living proof that Nothing IS IMPOSSIBLE, if you have God on your side.

Nothing good in life ever came easily.

I just wanted to shout out all of the youngins in this community. It makes me so happy that younger people are starting to think about bettering themselves and wanting to do the work to get there. The self awareness is impressive to me. I was always self aware but I don't think I really started caring about what I wanted my life to be and what really matters in the grand scheme of things until my late 20's, early 30's. I'm 42 now and am still doing work on myself that I wished I knew I needed way back when.

Best wishes to everyone on their journeys!! 💛

"When you like a flower, you just pluck it, but when you love a flower you water it daily." -Gautama Buddha.

Your desires have been planted in your mind for your growth, development, and personal transformation.

Live as if your wishes have already been fulfilled and act accordingly, just as a seed is nurtured for what it will eventually become.

Fall in love with your ideal circumstance as if it is your current life, and "water it daily."

The foundation upon which your new identity will sit cannot be seen because it's taking root beneath the surface.

So avoid the temptation to withdraw your attention from a practice that has yet to show visible signs of growth.

It’s happening now, stay persistent.

Are your goals this year something you like the thought of, or do you desire them deeply enough to wait for your breakthrough?

After almost 2 months of staying at home, doing nothing, on my gaming PC, smoking weed eating takeaways. Today, i got the urge to change. I immediately went on Amazon and bought: Gym clothes, Shoes, water bottle, protein powder, creatine. Everything. I also decided to go get a job with a good work/life balance so i can really concentrate on Gym and developing that routine.

When i woke up today. I had no plans to change my life. But i did.

If i can do it, so can you.

Wont go into too much details, but i just wanted to say: you can do it.

I was lost for many years, nothing worked, until i decided to go with the nuclear option for everything - zero tolerance bridge burning and habit ending.

If friends x and y are triggers, lose friends x and y.

If your phone is a trigger, lose the phone.

If the cute lights at the bar on your way home are a trigger, never walk that route again.

Stay strong, stay vigilant - the feeling will pass, and you will get better.

currently i am solo travelling in japan, i am here in a smaller snow town. naturally i am quite introverted. i am able to pretend to be extroverted in bigger groups where the settings and conditions are perfect and predictable. that place for me is work. outside work i am a nobody, i can't even hold 1 second of eye contact with a human let alone another female. i'm fucking terrified. i'm 23 and fucking over it, solo travelling has put me outside of my comfort zone in many aspects. it's been nearly 2 weeks and the only people i've spoken to has been the wait staff with my order.

anyways, tonight i said i will talk to someone. how many times we all say this and it leads with good intentions but fails with no suprises and a lot of excuses.

I went for dinner, thinking i was done for the day (i hadn't spoken to anyone yet). There was a lineup of people waiting for this place, i was looking around and noticed a gorgeous girl behind me in the line, seemed to be by herself. This was the universe telling me that it's my chance!! It would have been so easy, 'Hey are you travelling or do you live here?' why could i not say it. I wanted to, my heart beating out of my chest, sweating trying to muster the courage to do it. I couldn't and i didn't. My name was called out for a seat (for context the seating is in a U-shape where people sit next to each other) i sit down and wait for my food, disappointed in my futile ambitions. Someone sat next to me as it was quite busy and was the only seat available. It was her. Now look this had to have been a sign. We were going to spend the whole meal next to each other. We made brief eye contact (0.00001 second) and after 2-3 minutes i gave myself a countdown. I just turned to her and said 'hi, have you been in x city for a while?' and the look she gave me was one where she expressed that it was about time i spoke to her. a relief from my shoulders dropped to the floor, the tension (existent or not) was immediately cut. We spent the dinner talking, laughing and sharing stories. Then she asked me if I would like to get a drink with her after, we then went for the drink followed by some arcade games. I've learnt an invaluable lesson of friendship and fear of failure. When people say you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. You really do. Count down and go for it. Hesitating is the worst thing you can do. It ends in regret and failure and missed opportunities. I was lucky I got a second opportunity but that won't come often. I hope to use this more and more to then hope it becomes second nature!!

update: we are going to do some travels over the next few days together!

update 2: met up with her often, watched some fireworks, snowboarded, adventured, explored, ate great food. I'll never see her again but glad we made the memories

Like many out there, I was addicted to tiktok. I’ve had it since high school, and it became so bad that I, on average, spent about 3-4 hours on it daily. When I’d wake up, I’d scroll for at least 10 minutes. As soon as I’d sit down. As soon as I got home from class. At night in bed. Just always on it, constantly looking for dopamine or reacting to things my friend sent me. Anytime I didn’t have anything going on I’d automatically reach for my phone and open the app. It was poison.

Now, I deleted the app because of the ban. I know people got it back, but I don’t want it back. Since I’ve deleted it, my screen time has been cut drastically. I’ve found other ways to entertain myself like kanoodle, sudoku, video games, and studying. I’m in college and I’m an accounting major, and last semester was the first time I realized that my awful study habits with distractions are really kicking my ass. But yesterday, I thought “I’m gonna study, I have nothing else better to do and I wanna do better”. I studied for 6 hours and am ahead of the class and actually am very knowledgeable on the chapter now. No tiktok breaks. I was able to focus the whole time with a few breaks for health.

I know that I could have stopped a while ago, but that app is purely rotten. I didn’t realize how far gone I was. It will mess you up and make you become so dependent on it for boredom and satisfaction. It’s not healthy to spend hours doomscrolling like that. I’m so glad I don’t have that app anymore. I’m way more present, I don’t have brain fog, and I want to be more social for entertainment.

you don’t have to accept it. You don’t have to take on a basket of yucky feelings you don’t deserve. If you’ve cheated, stolen, injured yourself, “failed”, been promiscuous… that is your brain and body working their hardest to find anything at all to bring you a solution. Anything at all to feel connected, loved, seen, understood, alive and important. Every human wants to feel these things, regardless of whether or not their brain is seemingly betraying them.

Your relationship with yourself is the most valuable by far.

If you are already cruel to yourself and you try to punish yourself constantly, you won’t be able to understand when you’re being treated with disrespect. You’ll secretly welcome the shame and abuse coming from another person who is screaming from deep within themselves for care and understanding. You will find this person who hurts you constantly alluring. You will want to align with them, because the hurt they impart upon you is attention, and it can never, ever be worse than the hurt you impart upon yourself.

If you let yourself struggle and fuck up and live in your bed or mind or game or personal sanctuary, you should not feel ashamed.

If your parents shame you, wait. You will leave. If your friends shame you, find new ones. Or just be with yourself, your best friend. If your partner shames you, laugh in their face. They are so much weaker than you are. And then leave.

Read about a cabin in the woods. Create your own.

Be the love of your life.

If you can ignore the shame and just exist as you are, everything becomes a little softer.

No matter what.

Hey everyone 🫶🏻

I’ve been feeling miserable for several days in a row—just really lonely. I’m currently visiting my sister in the country she lives in, and while I love her, she’s going through a tough time at work and ends up taking it out on me. It’s been heavy, and it made me realize how much I need a space filled with genuine kindness and support

So, today I decided that I am starting a Kindness Club - a place where we lift each other up and make a conscious effort to be kind. No sarcasm, no backhanded comments, no tearing each other down. Just real, positive connections.

Because self-love isn’t just about how we treat ourselves—it’s also about surrounding ourselves with good, uplifting people

I’m 31F but this is open to anyone of any age or gender who wants to be part of a supportive community. If that sounds like something you’d love to be a part of, DM me and I'll send you the link for the Discord group :)

I would really love to build something beautiful together 💫

I’m not talking about the “rock bottom” that modern moguls love to spin—where they claim they had nothing while living in an upper-middle-class home with over six figures in household income.

I mean real rock bottom. Living out of your car. Showering with a wet cloth.

Why does it give you an edge? Because there’s nothing left to lose.

While everyone else hesitates, terrified of losing what they have, you have no such burden. With nothing left to protect and nothing left for others to take, you become free--and fearless.

Rock bottom isn't the end—it's the beginning.

No one is more formidable than a person with nothing left to lose.

Yes that's the post, Mods please don't delete this. I have decided to be better, so this is my commitment to myself and all the wonderful people here. Will update this for sure!!

I was single for close to 5 years after being a (failed) serial monogamous. I needed some serious time to heal. I had never been single and alone for so long. It taught me a lot. I started “dating” around again about 2 years ago. It was then that I learned to set and receive healthy boundaries, cut off anyone that shows non negotiable red flags. I began working on my mental health deeply. Then after that, my body, which built up my self image, confidence, sense of self.

I went from being the “toxic partner” to the genuinely loving and supportive partner you see in movies. Because of this I was able to bag the most gorgeous, kind, considerate, AMAZING GIRL I HAVE EVER BEEN WITH!!!

We work SO WELL together. I never saw myself dating again, never saw myself back here… but Im in love again. And for the first time ever, it feels like real love. Love without control, Love with no bounds.

I love my girlfriend.

the truth is exercise, sweat, touch grass, spend time in nature, spend time with people, play catch, build things, get dirty, get stinky, use your hands, move your feet, it's 100% effective. An ai chat application aint it.

Most people think improving their life takes some massive, life-changing effort. That’s why they never start. But here’s the truth, getting better is way easier than you think.

The problem isn’t that you’re lazy, unmotivated, or “not disciplined enough.” The problem is you’re making it way harder than it needs to be.

Start stupidly small. Want to fix your sleep? Just go to bed 10 minutes earlier tonight. Want to get in shape? Do one push-up. Literally one. Want to be more productive? Open your laptop and stare at the screen for 30 seconds.

Sounds dumb, right? But this is how you break the cycle. Your brain stops fighting back because the task feels too easy to resist. Do this enough times, and suddenly you’re actually making progress instead of just thinking about it.

Stop waiting for motivation. Stop planning a complete life overhaul. Just start with the smallest thing possible, and let momentum do the rest.

If this hits, I go deeper into this stuff on my YouTube channel and in this Reddit community. No fluff, just straight-to-the-point advice that actually works. Check it out on my page if you’re tired of overthinking and ready to make real moves.

As I was looking at a tree, a thought came to my mind.

Go and consume social media!!!!!

I was like, wait a second.

The wind was blowing faster, and I could feel the freshness.

I could feel that calmness within.

Then I said to myself,

Why would I go back and not live this fully?

Somehow, I was feeling this intense desire to go back and grab my phone.

But because I was under nature’s eyes, or you can call it under calmness,

I didn’t move an inch.

I was just there, lost in my own thoughts.

Trying to figure out why this intense feeling.

Why do I want to consume so badly?

As I am writing this, I don’t have all the answers, but, what I have is clarity.

The clarity that I call awareness.

I was not forcing myself to avoid social media—I was simply ignoring it.

Ignoring it as if it was not mine.

To just do what I want to do, not what my thoughts say I should do.

By this, I understood: I am not my thoughts. I am much bigger than that.

And why always obey everything your mind says?

Why not challenge it sometimes?

That’s how, I believe, we go beyond it.

Beyond the boundaries of thought.

But your opinion about this?

"Ideas are merely nutrients for the soil, they lie in your brain as possibilities." - Robert Greene (33 Strategies of War)

Approach your goals and daily thoughts like you would maintain a beautiful garden. 

Positive thoughts should be treated like roses, shine a light on them daily with your awareness and shower them with gratitude. 

Treat the negative thoughts like weeds. It’s best to pluck them from the ground early and quickly to remove any opportunity for growth. 

The soil will not discriminate between the weeds and roses, that is up to the gardener. 

Have you been allowing the weeds to grow more rapidly than the roses? 🌹

60 Second Saturdays

How to Make your soul happy by Cole Paxton

If you're the same leader today as you were last year, it's time to change.

The best leaders always learn. They read books, listen to others, watch videos, ask questions, and try new ideas.

I tell my team this a lot: I want us to win, but I’m okay if we try new ways to get there.

I’m not the same leader I was a year ago. Not even close.

Are you still the same? If yes… start learning today. You can do it!

Anyone planning to do this? I’m really excited to try. I want to see my savings go up. I don’t want a bunch of clutter. I don’t need any more clothing items. Starting tomorrow. I hope I can last a year

I've always been pretty quiet but thr other day some dude at the gym said he liked my shirt and gave me a fist bump. I know it sound like such a small gesture but it's given me an amazing feeling. I want to do the same thing to others you know like giving a compliment or something just to make someones day a little better. But I don't want to seem weird or like I'm bothering someone. Advice?

There was fire once.

And rain that didn’t cleanse, only carved deep rivers through the heart.

Nights stretched too long, and silence filled with the weight of waiting.

But still—something endured.

Still breathing. Still watching. Still here. Not by accident.

It has tried to forget itself more than once. To lose the thread, to fold under the heaviness of being.

But there is always a spark that won’t go out.

A rhythm that won’t stop.

A pulse that says: not yet.

No, it isn’t over.

The. Song. Is. Not. Over.

It's just a long pause before the chorus.

Even when the silence feels endless, the music hasn't ended.

Even when the song feels wrong, the music still plays.

And there is something magical, something courageous, about simply continuing.

About showing up for one more note.

About singing with a cracked voice and broken rhythm,

And somehow still creating beauty.

Gratitude doesn’t need a reason.

It can happen for no reason at all.

Worth was never a reward—it was always inherent.

And whether this is your moment or ours,

The truth remains:

There’s still music left to make.

Still miles to go before the dream ends.

Keep going.

The song isn’t done yet.

The music isn't over.

And even though the music keeps playing when you're gone ... would you please stay for just one more song?

Got promoted to Assistant Audit Manager today! My promotions from Officer II to III to Assistant Manager actually started when I filed my resignation two years ago (now six years in the company). Pero napigilan nila ako. Hahaha, so that’s how it went. But it's all good now—they're finally starting to see I'm worth keeping. Lols. I guess I'll stay pa ulit. Let's see. 😅

Hello

Ok i genuinely can't process how happy i am, even if my life was totally horrible (Family Insults, Grades that dropped insanely and even thinking about not living anymore) . However, as i wake up, i saw something that motivate me: Video Games. I know it sounds really stupid, however, i genuinely cannot imagine how a simple direct from Nintendo Switch 2 is about to change my life. I swear it was only a few minutes but i genuinely feel happier. I don't want to procrastinate anymore because games bring me joy.

So as i am writing this, i must now gather money, increase my grades to finally get out of my home and play this games in peace. I really feel like i can do it, so to anyone struggling with anything, grades, drepression or even just life in general, REMEMBER THE JOY OF THE ONE THING YOU TRULY LOVE AND TRANSFORM THIS INTO MOTIVATION.

I'll be back on this post to process my journey and i will also tell you all to take care and may God BLESS YOU

There are two kinds of people: those who follow the script and those who set it on fire and write their own.

If you ever looked at your life, got fed up, and decided to change the rules. If you left a “safe” job to chase something that actually excites you, moved across the world with nothing but a backpack, or went from feeling stuck to happiness, I want to hear your story.

I’m looking for real, raw, and inspiring transformations. No sugarcoating, no Pinterest quotes, just the truth about taking risks, breaking free, and proving that a different life is possible.

If you’ve challenged the status quo and made it work, share it here.

Someone out there needs to know it’s possible.