r/HumansBeingBros 16h ago

An emergency services worker in Mexico prevents someone's suicide attempt, on a bridge, with no safety equipment.

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u/WuggleBuggy 15h ago

As a suicide survivor, I can honestly say, yes I wanted to end my life but at the same time, I'm glad they found me in time. You don't know how it is to scream into the wind every day thinking no one can hear me. I hated every second I was alive but was hopeful about what could be. It's a never ending battle that can never truly be won. I still struggle every day if I should end it now or wait for the promise of tomorrow. I don't know what it is that makes me feel this way. I've been to therapy, I've been on the drugs, they don't seem to help. I have my puppy and I have my kitty. They keep me here. I'm not saying people like me need to find a responsibility but you have to find something. Something you love, something you would give everything for. My puppy is my everything. She loves unconditionally. There is no hate, no malice. I served, I swore, I protected. When I came home I was met with shrugs. I lost my job, my wife, my child. But my puppy, she never judged. That unconditional love is why I'm still here. If she can do it why cant we?

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u/ZenkaiAnkoku2 14h ago

You've made a huge impact on your puppy's life. Made her world so much brighter, just by loving her. As much as she loves you.

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u/viewkachoo 14h ago

I am so thankful that you’re still here with us. And I’m so glad you have your puppy with you, too. I hope you both have an awesome day together. :)

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u/TrippyWiredStoned 11h ago

People often ask, what's the point of life?

I've taken my brain to places trying to figure it out. Fairness, chance, factors that are completely out of my control. I've thought a lot, under very unconventional conditions.

The conclusion I drew, that's kept me here after life's hardships.. The point of life is to live. Experience things like your puppy's unconditional love. Write about it and share it so others can experience your experience. Share that smile your puppy gave you with a stranger. You've now left a lasting impact that could have a snowball effect and cause more good in more lives you don't even know of. Regardless of your past loss, regardless of future loss, you can still do humanity right.

If you are here you have an ability to make it so others don't have to feel the way you feel/felt. You can make that a part of your experience.. you can make it your whole experience... The beauty of us humans is we are animals with free will. The choice of how to experience life is ultimately up to the individual. Outside factors can hamper temporarily, but free will allows us to thrive in the face of hardship just as easily as it enables us to crumble.

You got this. People and pets are depending on you. Humanity and your loved ones. One smile, one day at a time.

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u/AlboPictusBio 6h ago

Thank you for sharing your story. Would love to get an update on you and your puppy and the kitty. Hope everything is doing great with you.

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u/Exact-Goal-4796 13h ago

I’m so happy you’re still here. Thank you for still being here 💛

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u/More_Piccolo8468 10h ago

Glad you're here still ❤️. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. 

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u/Ohhellopickles 10h ago

I’m glad you’re here, if that makes any difference! Married to a vet. I’m really sorry to hear about your post-service experience and hope that you are able to find any support you want or need. I can’t say I have experienced it but I know it is really fucking hard to transition to civilian life sometimes.

We don’t deserve dogs or cats or any other critters that we keep as pets! I’d do anything for these little bumlickers. My cats make me laugh every day and repay any effort I put into their care x10. I never quite understand folks who aren’t interested in pets of any kind purely because they don’t like animals much.

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u/eekamuse 8h ago

We absolutely do deserve dogs and cats and all the domesticated animals that choose to share their lives with us.

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u/volcomstoner9l 10h ago

Thank you for your service and sacrifice! We are so glad you are here!!

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u/SoundBogey 5h ago

I got andpg as ESA and my life could literally give two fucks about the responsibility and time it takes.

I constantly get shit from friends and coworkers for focusing on my dogs health.

People give me shit when he's healthy because I do to much

They give me shit when he's unhealthy because I can find work life balance 

They blame him and me for having any sort of challenges or wants

I am losing my mind

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u/undrvnkfvckup 4h ago

my puppy is my snake . now instead of thinking "no one will miss me" , its "i have to stay for him" and "who will feed him and clean his tank and give him new water ?" my whole family hates snakes

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u/noteveni 1h ago

My best friend has major depressive disorder and he talks about his dog in a very similar way. I'm so glad you have your furry friends to make life somewhat bearable <3

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u/tipples17 9h ago

All of us have a God sized hole and anything less will rattle around. Don’t try religion, try the Word of God. Read the books Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John in the Bible. It will help you understand the most important relationship in your life, a love unconditional like your puppies but with our Creator.

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u/omnichronos 5h ago

Superstition only works for those easily self-delusioned.

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u/sooperdoopermane 1h ago

"Don't try religion" instead, try religion.

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u/Ray_Kazz 6h ago

As a suicide non-survivor I call bs!

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u/cheetuzz 16h ago

Uvalde could have used this guy

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u/sjmorris 11h ago

Side note, as a resident of Nova Scotia I can't believe there is a Scotiabank in Mexico

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u/Chivo_565 10h ago

Scotiabank has a very strong presence in Latin America. They operate in Chile, Dominican Republic, Mexico, Perú, Uruguay just to name a few.

Scotiabank is a global bank.

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u/ItsStaaaaaaaaang 11h ago

Legend. I hope the person comes to appreciate the gift he was given.

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u/SandMallDay 16h ago

I'm glad people are still like this. Everyone is just as worth saving. Family or not. Good for both of them.

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u/butternutssquished 16h ago

Original post from u/bendubberley_ it wouldn’t let me cross post it from r/nextfuckinglevel

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u/CarnelianCore 14h ago

I wonder why you altered the title from police officer to emergency worker.

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u/SportsCommercials 11h ago

How do we know he's a police officer? Could be that other type of "emergency service worker" that carries a gun.

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u/Easy-Scar-8413 13h ago

First time seeing parkour save a life.

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u/alchemyzt-vii 15h ago

Every building need a dude with a lasso!

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u/uclamutt 4h ago

What a Hero! Hope neither got seriously hurt because that looks like it could be an ankle breaking type of jump!

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u/WeeklyEmu4838 15h ago

MashaAllah

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u/Egomaniac247 3h ago

Man's secretly a lucha libre star on the weekends

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u/neurofoxic 16h ago

Dude sees the official putting on safety equipment and he jumps. I agree if this were a controlled environment then 100% there should be a harness but this looks like masterful employment of on-the-spot decision-making

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u/Chance_Vegetable_780 15h ago

And masterful walking solidly on the damn railing. Whew

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u/hornet586 11h ago

I mean, like a broom handle or any sort of pole would do wonders here too, like there no good way to balance on that rail, and one good shove from behind would probably send him back into the crowd lol

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u/HairlessHoudini 43m ago

Nacho libre

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u/PrestigiousZombie726 23m ago

That's a class act! Bravo!

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u/Crisp_Parchment 14m ago

I don't really think that we have the right to intervene and like you know people have the right to do what they want to do with their lies here to say what they can and can't do

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u/Tzaman6 15h ago

Wait. Is it illegal to attempt suicide? So is this guy gonna get arrested after he gets saved?

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u/Melodic_monke 14h ago

I am pretty sure its legal, but you will likely be put in a mental institution for some time, if you are lucky it will help, if not, you need to help yourself.

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u/Oppowitt 13h ago

The only job the state has here is making sure there's no public suicide. Anything else is extra.

It's not about saving the guy, it's about not having a dead guy, a crowd, and a big bad story.

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u/Melodic_monke 12h ago

Yeah that is a good point

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u/Wonderful_Maybe_4464 9h ago

The way it was explained to me, it's considered "illegal" with a heavy asterisk to allow police to enter a home or intervene to try and save you, they can enter a home without warrant if they have reason to believe a crime is taking place. So if suicide is illegal that can be their reason enough

Full disclosure, I'm not super informed about any of this, and it could be different elsewhere, that's just how it was explained by my teacher

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 15h ago

Seriously ? We should stop trying to save people who don't want to live anymore, and instead provide them with a painless & instant way to ctb.

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u/coco-ai 15h ago

Have you ever watched the episode of You Can't Ask That with suicide survivors? All of them except one regretted it. This is a common refrain. Many realised they truly wanted to live, right at the moment they could not. Many people in their darkest moments just want help. This person gets another chance to decide if they do.

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u/Worried-Basket5402 15h ago

Great response. The day we just let people die without even trying to save them through conversation or action, is the day we are a doomed society.

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u/Fit_Flower_8982 9h ago

It is worth noting that, if people were allowed to die in a dignified and painless way, we could also make some prior demands that would allow us to help them; it is not mutually exclusive with respecting the right to decide about their own existence.

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 14h ago

That show prbly had selection bias. A significant number of suicide survivors, both offline and online, have told me they wished no one (people, the state, police, etc.) had stopped them, and instead had provided a painless alternative to CTB.

Some are too scared to attempt again due to fear of failing and having no access to painless methods (as it's illegal in most countries). Their voices matter too.

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u/KOTS44 14h ago

It's not just the show, it's represented in studies and statistics. I'm sure the people you've spoken to have said what they said but you don't have an acceptable sample size to determine that. As of now, most of those who have attempted suicide go on to regret their choice.

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u/Fit_Flower_8982 10h ago

There will always be an inherent bias here, since the dead cannot be asked. Only those who did not do so for lack of determination or skill, nor did they do so later (yet).

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u/KOTS44 10h ago

There will always be an inherent bias here, since the dead cannot be asked.

I don't think that matters at all, since if the attempters who took part in the study were never stopped, they would also be part of the dead, meaning their say in the study holds just as much weight as someone who is also dead (and if they could respond)

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u/Fit_Flower_8982 9h ago

Let me rephrase that. I think those who would not have regretted doing it are also the ones who had the greatest determination to do it, and thus the ones who used the most direct and aggressive methods, the least likely to be cowed by fear, and much more likely to try again if they fail.

That would imply that they are drastically underrepresented, although they certainly could still be the absolute minority.

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u/KOTS44 9h ago

That's actually a pretty good point and has changed my view on the matter slightly.

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 14h ago

There is no study that accurately shows the actual regret rate. Even the ones that do provide such rates often rely on very small sample sizes.

Most other studies only show that the majority did not attempt again, but that can be due to various other reasons, including those I mentioned above, such as fear of failing again or lack of access to painless methods.

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u/ItsStaaaaaaaaang 11h ago

So all the studies ever done aren't thorough enough but your claimed personal anecdotal experience is more than thorough enough for you to come to definitive conclusions....

Righto.

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 11h ago

Very few studies on regret rates actually, and yes the sample sizes are extremely small, biased to be accurate. Nothing wrong with arguing for personal freedom when it comes to taking one's own life.

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u/KOTS44 10h ago

The sample sizes are extremely small you say, yet the number of people you've spoken, is even smaller. Making your own anecdotal experience even more inaccurate. 🤦‍♂️

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 10h ago

I never claimed to know the percentage of people who regret it versus those who don't. I'm just saying that a lot of people who don't regret it also exist. It makes one question the ethics of forcefully stopping someone's attempt.

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u/KOTS44 10h ago

I never claimed to know the percentage of people who regret it versus those who don't.

I mean that holds significant importance to determine whether people should forcefully stop someone's attempt or not.

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u/EoghanBD 13h ago

"The biggest study done isnt big enough, but i know what the exact outcome would be if the study was the right size, that I also arbitrarily made up"

🤯

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u/Nunyrgarza 12h ago

Sure you’re getting downvoted because it’s an ugly/scary subject, but I think you’re right to bring it up.

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 11h ago

Thanks for hearing me out

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u/always_some_thing 4h ago

Shame you're being downvoted to oblivion. Why is it so hard for people to accept that there may be rational, well thought out reasons, someone might not want to live anymore.

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u/Bitter-Heat-8767 15h ago

Yea I’m in the same boat, for the most part. It wasn’t your choice to be here anyways. Ending your own life is the ultimate freedom.

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u/Sufficient_Self_7235 11h ago

Yepp exactly, fully agree

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u/A_Binary_Number 12h ago

Yes, I never asked to be here, I want to be free, I never asked to be born already broken, I want to no be broken. I don’t want to live my life, there is no “it gets better” it only gets worse, there is no “joy” on living this nightmare that is my life, if I could give someone else’s my spot, I would, because I don’t want it.

Yet, extremely egotistical people will say that I’m wrong.

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u/According_Judge781 11h ago

This isn't how you stop a suicide. This is how you delay a suicide.

There's a reason it's called "talking someone down from a ledge" and not "forcing someone down from a ledge"

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u/Iridescent_Glitter5 10h ago

There’ll be plenty of time for talking now that the dude isn’t on the ledge though. In a much calmer environment like a therapist’s office or a hospital room maybe 🤔

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u/According_Judge781 8h ago

Yeah, I'm sure the system will give him all the help he needs... It's obviously done a terrific job so far. /s

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u/Iridescent_Glitter5 6h ago

Do you know his medical history? Do you know if he’s sought out therapy before? Many men do not - especially in Mexican culture which is notorious for machismo: the emphasis on exaggerated masculinity, strength, and male pride.

If you personally never found therapy beneficial then that’s fine. But your projection onto others isn’t useful. Plus, that wasn’t your original argument in the first place - so now I think you’re just determined to be displeased with a video of someone saving a life.

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u/According_Judge781 5h ago

So you're thinking forced therapy? Lmao

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u/Iridescent_Glitter5 5h ago

No, I’m thinking encouraging therapy. He can always decline - but at least he is now off the ledge and every effort can be made to encourage him to go and potentially save his life.

Maybe a therapist can be brought into his room at the ER to talk to him. A therapist usually is able to handle these situations better than cops and civilians.

If he wants to leave after that - that’s on him. I’m not sure if Mexico has anything similar to The Baker Act we have here though, where you can be held against your will if you’re suicidal.

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u/According_Judge781 5h ago

Mildly worrying that you don't even realise how well you just proved my point.

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u/omnichronos 5h ago

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u/According_Judge781 5h ago

I said he should've been talked down, not pushed down. Your article doesn't talk about suicide prevention methods.

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u/splatdyr 14h ago

FFS don’t post people’s suicide attempts on the internet for points. They deserve better and you are a heartless bastard.

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u/Undead0707 14h ago

This person didn't post a suicide attempt. He posted the stopping of one. This post is meant to appreciate the one who stopped it.