I didn’t realize that enjoying the power of scaring me was the motive behind many of the catcalling/pestering/obsessive behaviors I’d experienced throughout my life. It was scary enough to feel like pursued prey. But turns out, it’s even more fuckin terrifying.
I suppose I was naive to think only a small percentage of people are actual sadists that think this way. Nope, I was wrong about that too lol.
There are far more people in my country that brush their teeth than murder people, but i cant remember the last time i heard a story about someone brushing their teeth.
Theres a definite confirmation bias here, which is perfectly natural.
You likely wont remember the time a guy let you go first, but you will remember the time a guy scared you. Its the way our brains are wired for good reason, to protect you from reoccurrences of bad stuff.
The guys that do this are scum and dont represent the majority.
That being said, it would be silly to pretend that they dont exist because they absolutely do.
I would agree with you if not for the fact that 1 in 5 women are raped at some point in their life in the U.S. 43% of all women experience some form of sexual violence in their lifetime.
Soooo....it's not really uncommon for a large number of women to have many examples like this or for plenty of men to act this way. Not really a good comparison to murder....
Im a man who has been the victim of childhood sexual abuse at the hand of an authoritative figure.
The guy has never been convicted but there have been multiple allegations about him. I know they are true because i am a victim. He ruined the lives of so many children.
This was one man, but was such an evil man that he alone caused unimaginable suffering to many.
The sort of people who commit sexual offences rarely only act once. It is how they behave. The figures may indicate that 1/5 men are rapists if you look at it as a 1/1 ratio, but that is not the case.
The majority of harm is caused by a small subset of people.
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u/y0uLiKaDaPeppa Mar 06 '25
I only recently heard about this & I’m 38 😦
I didn’t realize that enjoying the power of scaring me was the motive behind many of the catcalling/pestering/obsessive behaviors I’d experienced throughout my life. It was scary enough to feel like pursued prey. But turns out, it’s even more fuckin terrifying.
I suppose I was naive to think only a small percentage of people are actual sadists that think this way. Nope, I was wrong about that too lol.