I’m autistic and I have the same expectations for my children 😆. People would often comment on how I spoke to my children when they were very young.
“You talk to them like they are adults.”
Or,
“They aren’t going to understand you if you use those big words, they don’t know what it means”
To which I would reply that I don’t know why I would speak to them any different and that they don’t know what ANY words mean currently as they are learning to speak. So I chose to use words of varying complexity but similar meaning because I would have to explain the meaning and context anyway.
They both have above average vocabularies now, and while they speak to their friends within the tone and inflection that is popular today, they know that I cannot stand that and respect my wishes to speak a bit more eloquently 😆.
Given the various levels of neurodivergence in our family, raging from incredibly intelligent to significant impairment, I wouldn't be surprised if he was on the spectrum. Diagnosis certainly wasn't a thing, even when he passed away when I was 17.
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u/EmphasisLegal1411 16d ago
I’m autistic and I have the same expectations for my children 😆. People would often comment on how I spoke to my children when they were very young. “You talk to them like they are adults.” Or, “They aren’t going to understand you if you use those big words, they don’t know what it means” To which I would reply that I don’t know why I would speak to them any different and that they don’t know what ANY words mean currently as they are learning to speak. So I chose to use words of varying complexity but similar meaning because I would have to explain the meaning and context anyway. They both have above average vocabularies now, and while they speak to their friends within the tone and inflection that is popular today, they know that I cannot stand that and respect my wishes to speak a bit more eloquently 😆.