r/MensRights • u/SalamancaBluePeople • 1d ago
General Sexual Dysfunction
Has anyone noticed how differently it’s viewed between men and women?
For instance if a man has trouble ejaculating or getting hard it’s always the same half cocked (pun intended) stuff.
‘Oh it’s death grip, you wank too hard’
I mean, it’s a now a medical syndrome for gripping your penis. I mean the other response could be ‘work on your kegels love there’s no traction on the tyres’
‘Porn addiction’
I mean, I guess but it seems like a cop out of an answer.
‘You’re masturbating too much’
Been doing it since I was 12, there’s no way I could possibly masturbate too much. I’ve reached super saiyan levels of mastubatory perfection.
However a woman has issues it’s never
‘Try putting down that 8,000v vibrating cock machine’
If I said I’d got a Swedish super suck 9,000 with tingling haemorrhoid simulator I’d be sick.
No medical syndrome for having something rattling your clitoris at breakneck speed…
Or
‘Maybe you just need to be more romantic to him outside the bedroom, maybe put the kids to bed, make sure the dishes are done. Give him time to relax’
‘It’s no wonder he can’t ejaculate when you berate him constantly, be kind, give him cuddles, sit down and watch Mythbusters with him’
‘Give his fart box a tickle’
I dunno, men have got to feel guilty about wanking now.
Wank syndrome.
38
u/Vegetable_Ad1732 1d ago
Lots of medical issues are treated differently between the sexes. This is just one more. Just about ANY delicate male issue is treated as a joke. Women? It's treated like the most delicate hardship.
7
u/RyuujinPl 13h ago edited 13h ago
Been there.
It’s infuriating to hear women complain about how much they’re “expected” to be sexually available.
Girl—you don’t see that same pressure on men because you don’t even consider that it could apply to them.
I have a really low sex drive. I want partnership, not constant physical interaction, and I can easily go months without intimacy. But I’m also aware that my partner might need more, so I try to meet those needs. Still, the way society treats low libido in men versus women is outrageously different.
If a man doesn’t “measure up,” he’s shamed. He has to hide it, and try to “fix” himself. It’s considered a completely valid, shame-free reason for a woman to break up with him—no one questions it.
But if a woman doesn’t want sex? Suddenly she’s the victim. People assume her needs aren’t being met, and again—it’s the guy’s fault. And once again, she gets the green light to walk away.
And when it comes to talking about it?
A man has to keep it hidden or risk ridicule. A woman, on the other hand, can often share her low libido openly within her friend group without it being seen as especially unusual.
And here’s the worst part:
It’s actually way easier for a low-libido woman to satisfy her partner than for a low-libido man. Sure, it might be unpleasant or emotionally taxing for her—but believe me, it’s hell both ways.
At least on the receiving end, there are workarounds: use lube, mentally check out for ten minutes, and it’s done. I’ve spent so much time thinking about this because of my own situation.
But if a man’s body doesn’t cooperate? You can’t just will an erection into existence. There’s no shortcut. And even if you do manage to get one, you can’t dissociate—you have to stay mentally focused and physically perform. You’re straining yourself on every level to do something you’re not emotionally into.
Sex is a surprisingly hard workout when you're not enjoying it.
2
u/WonderfulPresent9026 10h ago
I'm hyper sexual while being accidently being good at sex. I have had many relashionships where from the start of the relashionship to the end I never climaxed during sex becuase ot takes me like 3 hours to nut while most girls don't last that much.
Funny enough I've had many girls take about how great my profirmance was
I have never had one openly show concern for the fact I don't finish.
But who knows I've been told for most girls they won't say it openly but it hurts their self of steam.
3
u/thedisliked23 9h ago
Rarely have a problem ejaculating. But HOLY SHIT the times in my life when I couldn't, either from being too drunk or up in my head or whatever reason, the reaction from women has been crazy. I don't love them, I don't think they're attractive, there's something wrong with me, I Jack off too much, etc etc. When they can't cum it's my fault. When I can't cum it's my fault. Not every woman I've been with, but quite a few of them.
Pathologizing almost every aspect of male sexuality is common and accepted. This is just a part of it. I've never personally had a problem getting an erection but if we can't, there's something wrong with us, and if they can't get wet or have an orgasm, there's something wrong with us. I can count on one hand the number of women I've been with that didn't believe this.
0
u/spitonthat-thang 2h ago
you should learn basic biology. the vaginal canal is made up of a cylinder of muscles which contract during sexual stimulation. due to this, there is no such thing as a woman's vagina being 'stretched out' and not becoming it's natural size again.
on the other hand, frequent masturbation can make your body accustomed to that method of getting an erection, whether by grip or rhythm, and make it hard to sustain an erection when stimulated in other ways.
-26
u/voidminecraft 1d ago
stop posting this irrelevant bs on this sub, we need to focus on ACTUAL problems like false accusations and boys lagging behind in schools. Also, this never happens, the comments are 90% of the time with filled with actual advise like what could be the root cause of the issue.
The mods here really need to step up their game and remove such useless posts for the time being
18
u/SalamancaBluePeople 1d ago
This isn’t actually irrelevant it’s a lighthearted look at a more serious problem.
The disparity in the treatment of men’s sexual health. It’s often batted to one side and turned back upon the man has solely his problem.
Have you gone to a endo/urologist to get lower male hormones checked prescribed? Most of them have absolutely no idea how they work primarily due to the focus being on women’s issues (more urology than endo but the point stands)
However instead of using your thinking box and seeing a little satire covering a more concerning issue you chose to do what everyone nowadays does. Whinge.
Just because something is irrelevant to you doesn’t mean it’s irrelevant to everyone else.
Be nice to people, it doesn’t cost much. If it doesn’t concern you, you don’t have to comment. Now come on, pick that boo boo face up and cartwheel through the gates of happiness.
-10
u/voidminecraft 22h ago
of course it concerns me, useless and irrelevant topics like this being bought up lessen the focus directed towards actual problems being faced by men worldwide.
A joke by a urologist doesn't carry the same weight as a man spending years behind bars due to some psycho.
We can start covering these when enough worldwide attention has been brought to the pressing problems such as conscription,family court, false allegations, male loneliness,demonisation of boys, etc.
14
u/SalamancaBluePeople 22h ago
Irrelevant to you.
There’s room for everything. You’re not gonna solve the world’s problems on Reddit.
And it wasn’t a joke by the urologist.
Would you like to prepare a list in order of importance which topics should be discussed that we can all adhere to?
24
u/NewMoonlightavenger 1d ago
I had to go to three different Urologists to get a low testosterone treated.
Demonstrably. Documented in blood samples.
All men, by the way.