Weekly In-Law Annoyances

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We are currently searching for a house to buy, my husbands parents offered that we could move in with them and I won’t lie and say we have a SWEET deal. I try my best to stay in the basement (the basement is as big as our former house was) but doesn’t have a kitchen so we go up to cook breakfast/lunch/dinner and eat. Other than that I basically try to behave like this is two separate households. I’m not a social person, I like routine and spending time with my little family. My kids are still young so when they’re both watching tv or they’re in bed or doing anything that isn’t up my butt, I like to be by myself or spending time with my husband.

My father in law wants family night every night. He comes downstairs into the basement to tell me about the hot tub he wants to order. He wants to walk my dogs he wants to do weekend breakfasts and I just want to live life the same way we did when we had our own house, now we just live with roommates. He wants to be best friends. My MIL isn’t so bad, the only issue I have is that there’s an older cousin (9) that comes over and he has the WORST ATTITUDE and doesn’t understand that my kids are 4 and 5 no one does anything about it. He comes over every day after school and since my two are downstairs the cousin wants to be downstairs too. I take care of other peoples kids all day and honestly don’t want to take care of an extra kid when I’m not the one who said I’d watch him after school each day. On top of him not being my responsibility, and not acting right (according to my standards if I watch him) when we get home my kids have things they’re supposed to do before they can play or have electronics and he’s purposely a distraction. If I go to the bathroom this kid will tell them “your moms in the bathroom so you have some time”. Grandparents will have a sleepover with the cousin and he’ll just end up being downstairs with us the entire time. I hate it. I don’t know how to even go about these issues because I’m well aware that we live in THEIR house so I don’t feel comfortable sharing any of this with them. I vent to my husband but then I just feel like an asshole complaining about his parents.

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My SIL offered her kitchen helper for our soon to be one yr old but we live in a small, awkwardly shaped house so i said i wasnt sure if it would fit. In our kitchen. The next day i ordered a pickler climber for our basement because baby is on the MOVE lol. She messaged saying that it takes up a lot of space and that she doesn’t understand me 🫠 like you don’t need to? Dont judge my choices and i wont judge yours! We also parent very differently and its just rotting our relationship

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My brother got some new clippers for himself and offered to cut 3yo's hair. 3yo was incredibly overdue for a haircut with hair getting in his eyes and full of food and snot and a pain to wash so i enthusiastically agreed. While all the family commented at first that it was a very different look and he looks like a new kid it has been been weeks and MIL is still making passive aggressive comments like she doesnt recognize him in puctures anymore and she misses his cute bowl cut look etc.

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Kudos to your brother! That is being a good uncle. 

My kid also looks like a different child with his hair cut. My dad doesn't have the best eyesight and genuinely didn't recognize him at preschool pickup but my kid certainly recognized his grandpa!

Tell your MIL that she doesn't have to recognize your 3yo...he just has to recognize her. And if your 3yo doesn't recognize her... well, that's a MIL problem :)