It’s exactly that. We don’t matter because we aren’t in the club. The peasants are just supposed to do what the regional lords want and die in the wars they cause. We aren’t supposed to see through the bullshit. Thats why they keep wages down and make us struggle so we don’t have enough time to think about anything else.
My MIL wants at least one grandchild, I dont exactly want to go through childbirth, and my husband is hesitant on giving a kid his health problems, and I mentioned I wanna be able to send that kid to a better school that the public one in our area.
if having kids isnt a HELL YES it should be a fuck no. Kids will know you resent them, and you will, if you have to sacrafice everything to not even give them enough. Dont sacrafice our life for a possibility.
I am a parent and I say this all the time to my friends who don’t have kids. If you aren’t 100% sold into the idea for the next 18 years minimum of true responsibility than don’t have kids and enjoy how you live. Kids take a lot of time and energy and whilst I love my child, a lot of interests are currently gaining dust because time limited
And the massive number nationwide of American kids who were and still are traumatized by school shootings have reached childbearing age remember and choose to not have kids.
I was in 6th grade when Columbine happened, so by the time I graduated the active shooter drills weren't a common thing yet (05) though it could have been cause I was in a hodunk school district. I still remember though that Sandy Hook was the turning point where the government said guns were more important than our children's lives.
It also doesn't help that I went to school in the district that if I had a kid now, they would also be going to. TBF though, I would wonder if they would have the same history teacher that I had that my dad also had. That was an interesting tidbit to learn we had the same history teacher in the same school.
I’m so sorry any American kid has been thru that. My own children made it through without a shooting (graduated 2015 & 2018). What a relief when they graduated.
My hubby was in a mass shooting. 13 coworkers were gunned down and the casino was set on fire. My husband knew the shooter. He was the casino security guard. From Israel. Who had had military training. It was a casino in Amsterdam in 1983. My husband hid in the upstairs bathroom. His Dutch wasn’t fluent fluid yet. Some coworkers ran into the break room and said “he’s got ‘tools’ !” was what my hubby understood. Tools being similar to guns. Then the pop pop pop got them hiding in the toilet stall. Soon they all smelled smoke. The fire department rescued them. The dead bodies outlines were left of the carpet as the fire ashes left their bodies imprinted like a police chalk line around a victim.
That my husband lived in Holland for 2 years and the USA for nearly 45 years, it’s ironic that the mass shooting he was in was in Holland and not in America.
The casino was run by an Italian mobster. His daughter dated the shooter but had broken up with him. He came back to kill her. But she was not at work that day. He personally knew everyone he killed. All of the deceased were employees. He only spent 7 years in prison.
Can understand that.. my family has a history of Huntingtons disease... after watching my mother suffer and die from it, I took the decision at 20 to have a vasectomy.
My wife and I moved across the country to an area with very low crime and a great public school system for our kid.
It was worth it and we love the new area. Better weather, better school and its much safer here. People here don't lock their doors or close their garages at night.
The funny part is we have twice as much house for the same amount of money even though it's a densely populated suburb just outside the city limits of a major city.
If YOU and YOUR HUSBAND (Not MIL) want to have a kid, adoption/fostering are viable options. You should not feel pressured to have kids if you don’t want any
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u/Rootbeercutiebooty Dec 09 '24
They keep bringing up that he was a father. Okay, what about the countless fathers who have died due to corporate greed? Do they not matter?