r/MurderedByWords Dec 17 '24

#3 Murder of Week Is he just stupid?

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u/prpslydistracted Dec 17 '24

One in five women will be raped. 24.8% of men; almost 25% ....

https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

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u/burnsmcburnerson Dec 17 '24

"One in five [20% of] women in the United States experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime."

"Nearly a quarter (24.8%) of men in the U.S. experienced some form of contact sexual violence in their lifetime."

The fact they used "rape" for the women's statistics and "contact sexual violence" for men seemed weird, so I read the PDF they cited. Here are the stats:

●Contact sexual violence Women: 43.6% Men: 24.8%

●Rape (completed or attempted) Women: 21.3% Men: 2.6%

●Made to penetrate Women: 1.2% Men: 7.1%

●Sexual coercion Women: 16.0% Men: 9.6%

●Unwanted sexual contact Women: 37.0% Men: 17.9%

The more I think about it and reread this, the more misleading this graphic seems 😬

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u/prpslydistracted Dec 18 '24

I've posted this before. When my friend was sexually assaulted her grown son drove home and heard his mother screaming. He pulled her attacker off his mother and brought her to my house at midnight. I called the police. She could hardly walk. We followed the deputy who took her to the rape crisis center (preservation of evidence). Exam, samples, clothing, photos to show the wounds/cuts to her pelvis and the rest of her body; bruising, bleeding. Her attacker almost bit through her upper lip. Is that violent enough for you?

We weren't able to bring her back to my house until dawn. That happened just before Covid lockdown; it took four years for her case to come to trial, because the murderers and deadly weapon inmates had to be brought to trial first.

Did he "rape" her in the accepted sense? No, but the legal definition defines all sorts of "things" can penetrate, ravage, and rip a woman's body. He was charged with rape ... at trial; guilty in less than five minutes.

Get off your moral high horse of what constitutes supposed/actual legal rape ... men or women.

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u/burnsmcburnerson Dec 18 '24

You've misunderstood me. I'm not debating legality at all, I'm literally just pointing out that the graphic uses the stats in a way that seems intellectually dishonest.

I have permanent genital dysfunction from being assaulted over the course of a year when I was 5 despite not being penetrated by my abuser's penis (as far as I'm aware). I have no interest in arguing about hazy legal definitions that are only restricted to allow sexual violence to continue.

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u/prpslydistracted Dec 18 '24

Alright ... apologies then. But micro definitions do no one any good, at all. Suffice to say assaulting anyone in any capacity is wrong.

We can agree on that?

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u/burnsmcburnerson Dec 18 '24

I don't disagree with you at all, I'm just doing a terrible job at explaining myself 😅😅