r/MurderedByWords Apr 03 '19

Murder I think this goes here

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u/chase32 Apr 03 '19

My wife got pushed out of a company after reporting one of her co-workers grabbing her boob in front of the team on an alcohol fueled company retreat. This is not uncommon because HR is just there to protect the company and if they size up your threat level and get you to sign the right paperwork, they will make the problem disappear.

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u/petrikm Apr 04 '19

That sounds like a lawsuit to me.

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u/chase32 Apr 04 '19

You would think so but the way these things play out can make it really tough.

Eager witnesses get scared and start worrying about their own careers. Even if people weather the pressure and stand behind you, going through a lawsuit can be a potentially brutal and invasive process for the victim.

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u/petrikm Apr 04 '19

Damn that’s horrible. That’s just a broken system, not your wife’s fault someone couldn’t keep their dick in their pants.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '19

HR is not your friend. HR does not want you to be successful. HR does not want you to be anything more than a drone.

I've seen so many co-workers who think HR is "on their side" or their HR at their place is different. HR protects the company. If you're not the boss, you're not on their list as an incentive but as a threat.

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u/Ladyleto Apr 04 '19

Yeah. My dad was open about his depression, and asked for paperwork on his health insurance so he could get help (oddly that went through HR), they told him to take a few days off then fired him.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '19

That's horrible.