I have a bad habit of putting Nazr on others

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[u/la_ultima_mujer]

Lower your gaze.

The whole concept of People Watching shouldn't be a thing in Islam.

We have no business looking at other without purpose, it brings lust, envy and judgement.

jazaku Allah kheir for saying the Duaa. Make it a habit to always say MashAllah too.

[u/koldhart4]

Jealousy is not only a sin in Islam but it is considered as the most discouraged and destructive emotion in any religion. In psychologically also, it is one of the major illnesses to human health that destroys a person’s mental peace and happiness. Jealous person can cross any limit just to make people unhappy and to make people lose what Allah endowed upon them.

Jealousy is a kind of feeling that leaves the heart of a jealous person impure and empty of faith. In regard to the purity of heart, Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H) was asked, who are the best people? He (P.B.U.H) replied “the one with a clean heart and truthful tongue” . He (P.B.U.H) was then again asked that a truthful tongue is understandable but what does a clean heart mean? Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H) answered, “It is the heart of one that is pious, pure, and is free of sin, transgressions, hatred and Hasad." [Ibn Majah]

Zubair Ibn al-Awam narrated that Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H) said, "There has come to you the disease of the nations before you, jealousy and hatred. This is the 'shaver' (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (destroys) faith”. [Jamih at-Tirmidhi, 2434]

A jealous person is affected more than the person whom he is jealous of. Jealousy not only spoils the peace of mind but it also weaken the faith in Allah; because when a person gets jealous to another person he thinks that Allah has not fair enough with him, though he does not know what blessings Allah has given to His each servant and indeed! Allah does justice better than anybody can think of.

Allah mentioned in Surah Al-Nahl, verse 71:

“And Allah has favored some of you over others in provision. But those who were favored would not hand over their provision to those whom their right hands possess so they would be equal to them therein. Then is it the favor of Allah they reject? [16:71]”

Jealousy is not only discouraged in Islam but the following Hadith states clearly that the jealousy factor burns all the good deeds of a person. Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H) said, "Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood." [Abu Dawood]

Jealousy can turn a good person into an evil, same as happened to Iblis. When Allah ordered angles and Iblis to prostrate Adam in the respect and honor, but Iblis directly refused the order of Allah because he was jealous of the status Allah has given to Adam. Iblis said to Allah, "Do You see this one whom You have honored above me? If You delay me until the Day of Resurrection, I will surely destroy his descendants, except for a few”. [Surah Al-Isra; 62].

Jealousy also gives birth to so many other sins, like “back backbiting (Ghibat) and accusation (Tohmat)”. If a jealous person cannot do anything to harm that person with whom he is jealous of, then he tries to talk about him at the back, usually with the intentions to spoil his image. Sometimes, the intensity of jealousy gets too much high that a person does not satisfy with backbiting, then he reaches to accusation, which is no doubt a major sin considered in Islam.

Therefore, jealousy not only destroys a victim but also harms the attacker up to a greater extent. We as a Muslim should seek help from Allah to keep us away from this dangerous illness-jealousy. To keep ourselves protected from jealousy, we should recite the following chapter of Quran,

Surah Falaq, verses 1-5:

Say, "I seek refuge in the Lord of daybreak, from the evil of that which He created, and from the evil of darkness when it settles, and from the evil of the blowers in knots, and from the evil of an envier when he envies." [113: 1-5]

[u/logicblocks → u/koldhart4]

Jealousy is not a sin, but envy is a sin.

[u/koldhart4 → u/logicblocks]

am pretty sure jealousy and envy are synonymous to each other

[u/logicblocks → u/koldhart4]

Jealousy = غيرة

Envy = حسد

They do not exactly mean the same thing. Although in western cultures, the nuances are not always determined, same for the difference between adultery and fornication.

Jealousy is when someone dislikes that someone has something. Envy is when someone wishes that someone else loses whatever they have.

[u/koldhart4 → u/[deleted]]

Allah(SWT) doesn't punish someone for their bad intentions as long as they don't act upon them and try their best to avoid them.

Whenever you find yourself dwelling over such thoughts, just try to shrug it off and replace it with "Mashallah, so and so is provided with such and such, may Allah bless us all".

I personally do this whenever I see someone more blessed than me.

[u/Ok_Personality2667 → u/koldhart4]

Jazakhallah this helped me. I'll try to implement this from now In Sha Allah

[u/logicblocks]

Say ma shaa Allah and lower your gaze.

Also, ask Allah to bless their possessions and to grant you something better.

[u/ilikeyicey]

READ THIS HADITH:

Anas ibn Malik reported: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “A man from the people of Paradise is coming to you.” A man from the Ansar came whose beard was disheveled by the water of ablution, and he was carrying both of his shoes with his left hand. The next day the Prophet repeated the same words, and the man came in the same condition. On the third day, the Prophet repeated the same again, and the man came in the same condition. When the Prophet stood up to leave, Abdullah ibn Amr followed the man and said to him, “I am in an argument with my father, and I have sworn not to enter my home for three days. May I stay with you?” The man said yes. Abdullah stayed three nights with the man, but he never saw him praying at night. Whenever he went to bed, the man would remember Allah and rest until he woke up for morning prayer. Abdullah said that he had never heard anything but good words coming from his mouth. When three nights had passed, and he did not see anything special about his actions, Abdullah asked him, “O servant of Allah, I have not been in an argument with my father, nor have I cut off relations with him. I heard the Prophet say three times that a man from the people of Paradise was coming to us and then you came. I thought I would stay with you to see what you are doing that I could follow, but I did not see you do many good deeds. Why did the Prophet convey this about you?” The man said, “It is not but as you see, except that I find no malice within myself towards the Muslims, nor do I envy anyone for the good that Allah has given them.” Abdullah said, “This is what was conveyed about you, for we have been unable to do so.”

Source: Musnad Aḥmad 12697

Source: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

[u/Ok-Lawfulness7233]

Whenever I see something good or admirable, I strive to say MashaAllah and Allahumma barik, as taught in the Sunnah. Context from Hadith:

This practice is rooted in the guidance from the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). In a Hadith:

When one of you sees something in his brother that he likes, let him say, ‘Barak Allahu laka (May Allah bless it for you). — Reported in Ibn Majah (3509), authenticated by Al-Albani.

Also, the Qur’an says:

And why did you not say, when you entered your garden, 'MashaAllah, la quwwata illa billah (What Allah has willed [has occurred]; there is no power except in Allah)? — Surah Al-Kahf (18:39)

These phrases are not only expressions of admiration but also a means to prevent envy [hasad]

[u/shez19833]

this is not islamic anyway.. saying she's rich doesnt give anyone else a nazr.. i could be wrong