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u/A-Metaphor 1d ago
This is genuinely the worst match ratio I've seen in my entire life. You should probably share your profile if you're looking for advice because no, this isn't normal - even for an ugly man. This sub is full of disingenuous, salty guys who have had little success on dating apps, so they're gonna tell you it's normal.
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u/Different_Gas1483 8h ago
The ratio for men on these things are always really low, but this abnormally bad. This is like my profile says "come see my basement that locks from the outside" bad.
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u/Relevant-Ad-5817 1d ago
I feel your pain, I once talked to a girl for hours weeks,She told me that normally she would not talk to me but that she needed someone to listen to her, I was to get her with some for the ace with her family, then she left in sight after talking about her problems, to return 2 days later, she told me to follow her on this social network, I thought it was Insta and it was only fans the link....
That was the deepest connection I had on tinder
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u/UsedPollution7750 1d ago
Id say I'm an average looking bloke maybe more I'm not sure but tinder just seems like a bit list of women who don't like me 😂
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u/TheRealPiggynator 20h ago
Join the club. I get compliments from women in real life but never had a date or good match from tinder. Try hinge or facebook dating. Or just live life and delete these bs apps. Average looking guys never do well on apps.
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u/thenamelessone7 17h ago
I'd like to point out that compliments from women are often either virtue signalling or they want / need something from you. Or it might be a teasing compliment from a female friend.
The only guaranteed signal a woman finds you attractive is that she leads you to her bedroom.
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u/No-Professor-6945 23h ago
I think the average male match to swipe is about 2% and you’re at 0.4% so that’s lower than normal. How’s your bio? What sort of photos are you using? Small tweaks in this area could drastically improve your stats.
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u/eiuquag 1d ago
That's a big oof from me, dog.
Your comment says you are a normal looking guy, but the data doesn't support that conclusion. But these results are so poor that I feel like it can't be looks alone.
For one thing, you are swiping right too often. The algorithm does not reward being so indiscriminate with your approval. It pushes you down the pile in who gets shown to women. And women don't need to swipe through the whole pile to get matches and dates, so probably a ton of women are never even seeing your profile.
A couple days ago a guy on here showed his profile that his female friend did for him. He said it was night and day better results. I think she did an excellent job with it. I suggest you go look for that post.
If you have female friends, family, anybody of dating age, try to get their opinions on what you are doing.
I cannot overemphasize how you can hardly put too much effort into pictures. And if you aren't getting matches, replace your pictures. Keep trying new pictures until you find something that works. Clearly the sort of pictures that you think are good for a dating profile are not actually good. So get outside of your comfort zone on what you think is the right thing to be doing.
I am an average to slightly below average looking guy and I get at least 3 or 4 matches a week in a not too populous area. I would be surprised if there were 1000 women for me to swipe in an hour radius.
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u/No-Garbage-721 1d ago
swap to hinge maybe? i have had luck on there more than tinder, tinder guys are assumed to be mostly sex only, hinge really sticks to what your preference is while tinder doesn’t. if you want something more real, in 2025, that’s on hinge. i have found really good people on hinge :)
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u/anotheronehitsdust1 21h ago
Swipe more selectively. Reduces the number of likes others have to go through, and any matches you get are going to likely be better for you.
Try to do the opposite, 4500 right and 11500 left swipes.
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u/suzzec 21h ago
I don't know anything about this swiping ratio but 46 matches but only 15 chats and no dates seems unfortunate but something fixable... Great your getting matches. Make sure your openers are engaging when you do get a match. Don't just say hi as she'll be getting other openers that will be asking a question based on her profile. You're up against guys that will be asking to go out early on so ask for a date fairly early on in the chatting otherwise she'll think you want to be a pen friend and get bored.
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u/jamiejayz2488 20h ago
Well casual sex and relationships is still debatable apparently a question mark is still something 🤔
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u/LongNo7305 17h ago
Yes it is. Unless you are above average this will just be your fate on dating apps
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u/Several-Two738 11h ago
For being a guy on a dating app? Yes but for being a human being IRL? No. Everyone deserves someone and dating apps are cashing out your mental health for money. Try meeting women in public, it will change your life.
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u/_AbstractInsanity 1d ago
Let me guess, you have a dick?