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u/Evanthekid16 23h ago
Does your profile have your kinks on it or something? How would she know? Lol
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u/DevsMetsGmen 14h ago
I actually took it the other way, that she might have some of her own which she doubts he shares. I do think it was an invitation to go down that road, though, even if it came across to OP as being shut down.
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u/ali_ali45 21h ago
Why do they talk like HR department
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u/MikeOxlong2420 7h ago
this is reddit, this whole app is an HR department
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u/wiseguy887 6h ago
I feel like the quality of content has gone down on Reddit over the years personally, it has just become an extended version of 9gag/9chat which we had back in the days
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u/sliferra 1d ago edited 1d ago
Tell her there’s only one way to find out, what else do you have to lose
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u/sliferra 1d ago edited 1d ago
Plz, do explain what you think the joke is in this post?
Coward deleted his comment
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u/SinisterPixel 22h ago
She said she likes your looks, vibes, and good times. She has handed you the keys. Unlock the door, my dude.
Focus on character and don't worry too much about sexual chemistry. Talk to her and let her know that she's got the vibe check spot on through your actions and conversation. You never know where this could carry you. It could lead to nothing. Or a good friendship. Or it could even work out that sexual chemistry comes later, once she gets to know you better.
A lot of men on dating apps will jump straight into sexual jokes and charged flirting. You have the oppertunity to stand out from the crowd.
Don't squander it.
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u/RichWhatt 11h ago
Couldn't have said it better myself. Amazing advice. You need to shoot your shot, but do it correctly. Ball is in your court OP, good luck.
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u/CompetitiveOcelot873 10h ago
What are you two on about? This was a weird af opener, why would you go for this
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u/wailingwonder 8h ago
No. This is trash advice. She came out of the gate negging him (and was the one to bring up sex fyi). She's playing manipulative games. OP should stay away.
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u/MacSchluffen 21h ago
What the fuck is sexual chemistry before you have real contact with a persons other than looks, vibe and an perceived overall good time? That’s three out of fucking three.
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u/Dhegxkeicfns 1d ago
I've got a feeling we won't have any sexual chemistry either, but we could go sit in a park together somewhere and laugh and all the people who aren't attractive.
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u/Relevant-Ad-5817 1d ago
It could have been worse, I matched with a girl a few weeks ago, I asked her if she wanted it to be Friday, and she told me that she gave me a like without wanting to, and that i was ugly but to Don't throw in the towel xD
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u/ThrowRAGFMom 5h ago
I had multiple likes into conversations that were just friends swiping for them. Or at least that what 3 of them said it was before they unmatched lol. I eventually just gave up on dating apps, I'm chill being single
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u/Soetpotaetis 6h ago
Cause it's all just a f*cking joke/game to women... Wouldn't be surprised if they showed their "girlies" how many matches each of them got and how hot the guys are as a flex. Women live off attention
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u/Chas_Tenenbaums_Sock 20h ago
Lack of using an Oxford comma, immediately would unmatch
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u/Tall_Elevator189 3h ago
lol. This is me. I try to befriend everyone I match with even if I don’t find them attractive.
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u/black_ish88 1d ago edited 8h ago
Sorry guys but if you are Gen Z or looking for Gen Z women on apps, you are already cooked. A bunch of us (mostly women) at our Sales Conference grilled the only Gen Z employee invited for how she scrolls apps and nobody ever fits the criteria (she is a 6.5 at best btw). It didn’t used to be that way 5-10 years ago.
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u/Dhegxkeicfns 1d ago
Meh, she'll have youth still for a while. She can bag a midlife crisis or two before she's too old for them.
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u/chineke14 1d ago
It's not a Gen z thing. It's a woman of all ages things especially 35 or below of age. OLD inflates the ego of women because they're the buyers in a saturated male market. It's been like this for years. It's only natural they'll be picky. Hence why the "are we dating the same guy" groups exist
Cue the you hate women incel comments.
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u/black_ish88 23h ago edited 23h ago
Nothing wrong with picky. I was picky as a man as well. But picky has turned into unrealistic/fantasy for some. Plus it seems the micro attention spans from scrolling social media has also leaked into dating apps. The coworker I referenced wasn’t even reading the bios or looking at anymore than the first pic lol. Even “cute” ones were left swiped lol
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u/jelder227 7h ago
Ok... a year ago I might have been there on the you hate women. But I am 58, and constantly matching with guys down to the 30s even. I won't go that far, but have dated several guys in their late 40s, and talked to soooo many I can't count.
Every time I match, if it seems to be going OK, I confirm they caught the age (we all know not everyone actually reads bios). Then I ask if it bothers them, and why not go younger.
Every single time.. younger women do drama, they are difficult, I want peace... you look calm...
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u/Hobbidance 9h ago
That is horrific behaviour. A BUNCH of you 'grilled' the only young woman at a Sales Conference. Then slating her by rating her appearance, big yikes!
Stay away from women, please.
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u/ironjoeseph3 1h ago
Tinder is a hookup app at the end of the day. Women want this perfect guy, but that guy that they want is either not on tinder or if he is then he is only looking for sex/hookup, not get married or have a long term relationship. Don’t listen to the nonsense when a woman says in her bio, “ not here to hookup.” They all are, just waiting on the right one
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u/cZar_04 1h ago
Well just go w it and try to meet up w her sometime. Anyway you can’t truly tell if you will have “sexual chemistry” with someone just based off of photos. I mean, you can lol, just the basic physical attraction to an attractive person. But, once you meet someone in person they might be much better looking in person than their photos. I know in my experience I am not photogenic so when I did end up meeting some girls they were surprised because I was better looking than they expected. Which is probably more common for men to look better in real life since we don’t use filters and stuff as often as girls do. But yea, I wouldn’t just consider that a rejection, you can still try to meet her, even if it’s just casual like just to be friends, it could still end up developing into sexual attraction for her
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u/PaulineMermaid 16h ago
"Boohoo, men never get compliments"
Man gets compliment.
"No, not like that. It has to be accompanied by sex!"
She tried to boost you, she felt you were awesome enough that she needed to tell you - and you're pouting because she doesn't want to fuck you.
Maybe she's psychic...
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u/ctfinest28 23h ago
You are an idiot. Just say this wouldn't be the first time I've proven someone wrong.
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u/Responsible_Lake_804 23h ago
I know better than to do this, but there have been several times where I see a profile and overall I like the person but I know I wouldn’t have chemistry. I’d LIKE to say something encouraging and nice such as this but obviously that’s pointless given the platform.
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u/Limp_Duck_9082 20h ago
Sex isn't everything. You CAN have a relationship without sex.
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u/T-NextDoor_Neighbor 19h ago
If you are asexual sure. If not you’re not then absolutely not. OP is on tinder for crying out loud. I doubt he wants something platonic.
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u/Limp_Duck_9082 19h ago
I am asexual. However, my parents kept a healthy relationship for over 10 years — until my dad's passing —without sex.
Sexual compatibility is important if you want/need a sexual relationship, but I would also say that it's equally important to build a relationship on other things outside of sex alone.
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u/I-hate-the-pats 1d ago
“Only one way to find out”