r/blackcats • u/SoftServeMonk • Oct 16 '23
Mourning My cat is dying.
He is only 10, has lymphoma, and doesn’t have much longer. He loves getting kisses on the forehead so I’ve been giving him 5 million. Thanks for letting me share.
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u/gasman147 Oct 16 '23
I’m so sorry. Give him alot of love these last moments. It’s awful losing a beloved friend.
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u/Northren-Harvest Oct 16 '23
❤️❤️ one extra kiss for me
I am so so sorry 😞 my clay cats love forehead kisses and I can’t imagine what your going through. Enjoy every moment and don’t be hard on yourself ❤️ he’s known nothing but love
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u/nausticblurr Oct 16 '23 edited Oct 17 '23
Means it’s time for a kitty feast! Get some red meat, get some fish and shrimp! Do it up for your boy and take lots of pictures! 🥰 I’m sorry for your loss! Try to maintain while you’re celebrating his life with him, it’s not easy but your vibe will throw him off. I’ll be thinking of you guys as the week goes on 🖤
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u/Crochitting Oct 16 '23
My cat died at 10 from lymphoma as well 2 years and 2 days ago. It was hard watching her fade away. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I wish you and your baby the best of the time you have left together. Take care my friend 🖤
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u/AcornWholio Oct 16 '23
Over the weekend I heard someone in my housing complex go through the experience of losing their cat. His cat fell from a window and he was a complete wreck as he cradled her body. I saw nothing, but hearing him scream triggered me and threw me back into the memory of the traumatic death of my childhood cat. I know this isn’t what is being described here, but as many of us rushed to make sure he was alright, his screams into the night reminded me how previous our animals are. I hugged my two voids so tightly that night. I’m sorry you’re experience of loss isn’t as quick, it’s drawn out and you know it’s coming. I really hope you love your void as long as you can and that you take care of yourself when you finally lose him. It’s incredible how much pain you can carry from these events - but it’s also a constant reminder that they changed your life for the best.
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u/Greenyc132 Oct 16 '23 edited Oct 16 '23
I’m very sorry to read this and for your experiences. As a kid our cat would wander next door. She was inherited with the property and borderline feral. My neighbor threatened to kill her if she went to the bathroom on his lawn. He was a crazy hoarder. She never returned and my parents saw our neighbor digging a plot in his yard. Complete nut job. There’s a place in hell for these people. Many of us try as hard as we can to balance the lives of an animal and treat them as human as possible. I sign petitions, donate and volunteer in their honor and memory. The neighbor eventually passed away miserable and alone.
Edit: thanks for the sympathy Reddit.
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u/Cy-V Oct 17 '23
Hey you might want to put some spoiler blackout or content warnings at the beginning of your comments, that's quite a traumatic event very explicitly described. Which can trigger others like they did you.
And that sounds absolutely horrific to go through, it's something I absolutely dread even though we're not that high up anymore and we've taken precautions.
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u/Despises_the_dishes Oct 16 '23
Here’s a few head smooches from California and tell him he’s the best boy!
I’m so sorry. Spend as much time with him as you can. Shower him with love and attention. And tell him how special he is.
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u/Upgrade_U Oct 16 '23
I’m so sorry. He’s a handsome baby, and knows how much you love him. Lots and lots of kisses for him 🩷
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Oct 16 '23
Sending all the love and kisses, specially kisses to your sweet void! And to you my friend, I'm sending you all the moral support in these hard times.
I'll pray to my 5 sweet kittens to accompany your sweet void in his last moments and guide him toward the rainbow bridge so they all can play while waiting for us.
Stay strong and give them so many kisses.
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u/SavageMonkey-105 Oct 16 '23
Atleast you can now give him a proper goodbye, my cat was there the one moment and then gone, didn’t even have a chance to say goodbye :(
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u/Tootieburr Oct 16 '23
I can’t be more sorry for you and your cat. I’ve been there a lot. Your cat is precious and will be missed greatly. :(
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u/Slight-Painter-7472 Oct 16 '23
That's awful. I'm so sorry you and your boy are going through this. I told my little void that she has to live for at least 20 years or I'll die of a broken heart. Losing my last cat nearly killed me.
The positive spin on this is that you can spoil him as much as you want with the time he has left. Give him everything he loves. Especially time with you.
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u/Frosty-Shock-9044 Oct 16 '23
I am so sorry. Give him all the love and hugs and comfort, for you both. Take pics, take videos, do his paw prints, do everything you can to soak this time in. It’s a pain like no other, and so unfair when they should still have years more. Sending you and your sweet boy all the support from afar.
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u/Nokian75 Oct 16 '23
I am really sorry, I just lost my little piece of the void 3 days ago, so I understand what you are going through. Surround yourself with those who love you and spend as much time with him as possible.
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u/Electrical-Act-7170 Oct 16 '23
This is the hardest part, when it nears time for them to leave us. That moment when we hold that wee baby life in our hands, looking up to us in love and trust, we commit to this part. Sometimes a forever home is only a few hours or a few days. That doesn't mean that our love is any less true.
Beautiful Black Boy, you are beloved and treasured. May you have a sweet journey from this Realm. May you have fair winds and following seas for your crossing.
Eyes bright
Claws sharp
Tail high
Fair travel, Handsome Warrior, as you make your way to Valhalla. You were loved and you will be missed forever and never be forgotten. Your life mattered.
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u/Time-Reserve-4465 Oct 16 '23
He’s so beautiful. I’m so sorry. There is a silver lining tho: you can now be sure to show him just how much you love him in the remaining time that he has.
No one likes to think about their pets dying, but it’s a good reminder to love them fiercely while they are here.
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u/moralcompassoptional Oct 17 '23
I am so sorry, kiss him for me a million times too and tell him to look for my cat Lily when he crosses The Bridge, she was the best girl and never met a cat she did not love. And Willie, and Jack, and Chester, and Muffin and Boots, and Blue, and Tweedle Dum & Tweedle Dee, and Butter, and Honey Bunny, and Mommy Cat, and my Smittens Twinkle & Jammie, and Poppy Moppet, and Chloe, and Tigger Roo, and Tiggy, and Phoebe BeBe, and Zoey. And all the strays I never got to name but loved with all my heart. They will all welcome him and keep him company till you arrive to take him with you.
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u/ImALittleTeapotCat Oct 17 '23
Give him all the love, all the foods he likes, spoil him rotten. And then let him go peacefully so he doesn't suffer. The greatest gift we can give our pets.
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u/eklektikly Oct 16 '23
He is a handsome boy. It is so very hard to lose them. I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. Give him a few boom booms (head bumps) for me.
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u/InfiniteComputer1069 Oct 16 '23
Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry. There is no pain like watching a loved one experience illness. He looks like he knows he’s the bestest boy. Hugs to you both.
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u/Laurastars_20 Oct 16 '23
rest in peace, cat. you were always loved by everyone around you in your life.
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u/kobewiththeflow Oct 16 '23 edited Oct 16 '23
i’m sure you gave him an amazing 10 years of serving
may you find comfort in knowing you gave him ample amounts of love
edit: words
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u/Greenyc132 Oct 16 '23
Aww I’m sorry. He’s beautiful. Maybe get a harness and walk him outside and let him pick his eventual burial spot. You can decorate and visit him later. Or cremation can sometimes recycle ashes into tangible and wearable things. Enjoy your time for now. I’m sure he very much appreciates you.
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u/justanormalchat Oct 16 '23
I’m so sorry, as someone who’s familiar with lymphoma this is very hard for your little baby. It’s I never easy to lose our babies not alone to cancer. When I lost my cat after 12 years of having her something in me died and never really returned. It’s never easy 💔, your baby boy will always be with you.
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u/shananapepper Oct 17 '23
I’m so sorry. Keep taking pictures with him whenever you comfortably can. You will treasure them. Sending so much love.
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u/Extreme_Tonight1660 Oct 16 '23
I'm so sorry. Been there many times. He's beautiful....I could cry just thinking about it. Give him a big kiss for me.
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u/timbotheous Oct 16 '23
I love him so much. I’m so sorry to hear your news. May he bask in love until his last moments 🩷
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u/Silveri50 Oct 16 '23
I'm so sorry to hear this. Losing are due friends hurts more than we can ever be prepared for.
But can I ask how you learned? Was it just a regular checkup, or are their symptoms we can look out for?
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u/CrochetAddict97 Oct 17 '23
For us, my gray tabby girl started losing weight unexpectedly and rather quickly. We took her in for that and it narrowed down to IBD or lymphoma. My husband and I suspect lymphoma based on how quickly she deteriorated. It would have taken a lot of money we didn’t have to narrow it down further so we did what we could and enjoyed our last few months.
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u/Silveri50 Oct 18 '23
Thank you for sharing your experience! But I am very sorry you had to go through it.
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u/aldo_rossi Oct 16 '23
Im so sorry for your cat’s suffering. Make sure he is warm and consult the vet about when might be best to euthanize your furry friend - if you are willing to cut short its suffering. Its the last kind act you may be able to perform. Just be there during the procedure to keep your loved one calm and so it doesn’t feel alone. It is hard so hard to do, but I believe it matters
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u/LederhosenSituation Oct 16 '23
He has great eyes. Keep giving him millions of kisses. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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u/tsukiyaki1 Oct 16 '23
I hope you two get to enjoy the rest of your time together and cherish it. Make as many memories as you can while you still can. Much love to you kitty
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u/javaper Oct 16 '23
I'm so sorry. Stay strong. He'll be there no matter what with you. Keep showering this cutie with your love. I fully believe we'll see our pets again one day. 💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏
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u/Dwayne420 Oct 16 '23
He's a handsome little man ❤ Sending healing love, energy, and hugs to you both.
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u/Ok_Train4967 Oct 16 '23
My darling. I’m so very sorry and I can’t comprehend the pain you are currently going through. Just from your post alone I know you love your baby boy with your whole heart and he is living a lovely life. Don’t blame yourself and don’t treat him any different, just be your usual self to your baby boy! Please give him an extra kiss from a fellow cat mama.
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Oct 17 '23
He’s a handsome boy. We all have an unknown amount of time on this Earth-I’m sure he’s been happy spending his years with you. And I’m glad you two had each other in your lives.
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u/Typical-Platypus6618 Oct 17 '23
My heart breaks with yours. I lost my baby to cancer and I understand the pain. Love him up to the very end.
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u/BlackLakeBlueFish Oct 17 '23
Love to you and your baby. We lost our sweet boy to cancer as well. Seems like you’ve given him a life of love and kindness. That is beautiful.
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u/akittenhasnoname Oct 17 '23
Another kiss on the forehead from me. He's a majestic mini panther. Our cat Luke died from lymphoma and it was tough in the end. Stay strong
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u/jackara11 Oct 16 '23
sending you & your handsome boy lots of love. he will be greeted by many friends at the rainbow bridge 🧡
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u/I_hate_waiting Oct 16 '23
May his remaining time be full of snuggles, forehead kisses, sunshine naps, and whatever else his little heart desires.
I’m so sorry your time together is being cut short. It’s never enough.
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u/Objective_Ratio_4088 Oct 17 '23
I'm so sorry for your baby's illness. He knows that you love him very much
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u/Crafty_Sport_8468 Oct 17 '23
Sending you lots of love, hugs, and prayers for your time of grieving.
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u/Egosum-quisum Oct 17 '23
His soul will find its way to the heart of the universe where he will live forever, just like the rest of us.
Best wishes to you ❤️
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u/Vespertine1980 Oct 17 '23
Very sorry to hear this. Wishing this beautiful soul comfort and a multitude of purr-worthy moments with you.
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u/shockrock Oct 17 '23
I’m so sorry. He’s a beautiful boy!! Give him extra kisses from me and my kitties. ❤️
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u/Zynn-0rchid Oct 17 '23
Huggles u and your person good void sir. I hope his passing is painless
I will smooch n hug my void extra for him
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u/wheresmydragonator19 Oct 17 '23
He’s handsome, I’m so sorry friend, but you’re giving him the best life possible!
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u/ChubbyStoner42 Oct 17 '23
This sucks. Pets don’t live long enough. There’s something special about black cats. The hole that they leave behind is so much larger than they physically are. Talk to your vet and see if they do cremation.
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u/SuckerForNoirRobots Oct 17 '23
I'm very sorry, but thankful that you know and get to spend more quality time with him as opposed to a sudden and unexpected loss. I hope your remaining moments with him are overflowing with love and kisses and cuddles.
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u/noheckin Oct 17 '23
That’s one loved and loving cat right there. I know it hurts, but appreciate every moment and kiss.
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u/LordLonghaft Oct 17 '23
Treasure every moment you have with him. Trust me, as an owner of two voids who have passed to the void, you will never forget the good times.
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u/Classic1987 Oct 17 '23
This exact thing happened to my 8-yr-old void this time last year. Your photo reminds me of this one we took of him.
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u/Medium-Doubt-152 Oct 17 '23
Please give the sweet boy plenty of love and pats from all of us for all his remaining days. And may you find each other again one day over the rainbow 🌈.
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u/tomitarou Oct 17 '23
My heart goes out to you during this time- I wish you all the best for the coming days 💙 please give your handsome boy a cuddle or two for me, not that I imagine that he is getting any shortage of love 💙
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u/AlexTheChubbyPony Oct 17 '23
That's what my sister's black cat died of and she was only 5. I only hope yours hasn't been around as long and can be treated, but if not, then show him as much love as you possibly can in his last days.
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u/human060989 Oct 17 '23
I lost my girl to lymphoma just barely over a year ago. The end is really hard. I and my boys are sending extra kisses his way. I’m sure you gave him a fabulous life.
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u/KittyTootsies Oct 17 '23
I'm so sorry 🫂💕 going through the same right now but a thoracic cavity mass instead of lymphoma. Literally just found out about 3hrs ago. It's not fair. Give your kitty kisses from me please
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u/ianwuk Oct 17 '23
He looks lovely and I am so sorry you are going through this. Cherish the time together and please give this epic void lots of hugs, treats and kisses from me.
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u/miss_ophonia Oct 17 '23
Be there for him thru it all. Hold him as he journeys to the place all loving souls go, where he will wait for you in a sunbeam and shower you with purrs.
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u/Minsc_NBoo Oct 17 '23
I'm so sorry for you both.
He is a handsome boy who looks like he knows how much you love him
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u/JJSR1974 Oct 17 '23
I deal with my cats like 26 times a day sometimes. Don't give up on him should live 13 to 18 years
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u/DapperCourierCat Oct 17 '23
I’m sorry to hear that. Give him plenty more kisses, and maybe some of his favorite treats if you can.
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u/Affectionate_End_952 Oct 17 '23
Op, I don't know if how much time your lil void has left but can't you start a gofund me campaign to get the treatment required to help.
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u/LowPresentation8231 Oct 17 '23
Oh no! I’m so sorry. I lost my black male Samba two months ago. What emptiness I feel.
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u/BeltTraining1119 Oct 17 '23
I am so sorry! I am going through it with my boy that looks like he and yours could be twins. But he is 17 as of last month. It's there worst feeling trying to decide when... I feel like I waited a little too long with my last two and their final days were horrendous. Stay strong for him and I will say a black cat prayer for you both 💔🐈⬛
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Oct 17 '23
I’m so sorry. What helped me when I went through this was to absolutely spoil the hell out of my pet. I’d let him taste the foods I never let him eat (burgers, ice cream, etc.) and I took him to his favorite places every day.
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u/FluffyCatto639 Oct 17 '23
I had a cat with Lymphoma ( and an eye tumor.. lost him after his 9th birthday. I understand your pain. Just make sure he isn’t suffering ( I love black cats!
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u/Huge_Maintenance_834 Oct 17 '23
I am so sorry to hear this! Please give that baby loves and hugs from us 🥰
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u/Cy-V Oct 17 '23
What an absolutely handsome boy, I'm so sorry he has to leave you so soon. I'm sure you'll give him the best rest of his life, however long that may be. He knows he's loved.
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u/TiredAllTheTim3 Oct 17 '23
Everyone is dying. Just at different rates. What matters is how their time is spent here. Make sure he has the best of times and you get to enjoy the most of him. Time is relative. His 3 months can be made to feel like 10 years.
I’m so sorry for him and my love and prayers for you.
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u/CrochetAddict97 Oct 17 '23
My condolences. It got my gray tabby girl too. Give him all the kisses for me.
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u/Seabastial Oct 17 '23
I'm so sorry OP. Enjoy what time you have left with your precious boy and give him tons of cuddles and kisses
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u/AntiSnoringDevice Oct 17 '23
Gosh! I wish I could hug you and give him a kiss too. May you and your beloved cat be surrounded by loving people.
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u/CynicalOne_313 🖤 Oct 17 '23
I'm sorry to hear this - sending gentle snuggles and nose boops to him and hugs to you, OP.
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u/Putrid-Home404 Oct 17 '23
So sorry 😞. I know there’s no real way to comfort you at such a difficult time but please know that all the love and caring you have given your cat has made this the most wonderful life for him. He will pass knowing how loved he was ❤️
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u/roadkatt Oct 17 '23
So sorry for what you’re going through. He’s a beautiful boy and is lucky to have known a life full of love. Give him all the forehead kisses and treats you can. Allow yourself to grieve for as long as you need. Focus on the good memories. They’ll help you through. Hugs to you both if that’s ok.
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u/titz4tatz Oct 17 '23
I’m so sorry. No words could ever make it easier. Just love him as hard as you can. And when it comes time, it won’t be goodbye just see ya later.😔🌈🐈⬛❤️🩹
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u/Maximum_Cress_1534 Oct 17 '23
My Amaya sends him sniffs all over for that is her love language. I send bops, kisses, and a deep wish for a peaceful passing. Remember that all we increasingly know whether coming from science, religion or both is that the state of death is an energetic transition not a full stop. Bless you both. 🙏🏻🌟🙏🏻
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u/studdybuddy01 Oct 17 '23
All of us are dying. We just get “lucky” sometimes and know beforehand that it’s coming so we can soak in some extra love and cherish it more. Sending you and your kitty lots of love 🖤
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u/Katielib Oct 17 '23
I’m so sorry - he’s a beautiful kitty. I’m glad you can keep him comfortable and loved.
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u/MegaMom75 Oct 18 '23
I am so very very sorry! Keep all these precious moments that you have with him in your mind and heart. He’s a beautiful boy♥️
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u/VonRiedls Oct 18 '23
Lots and lots of loving. Spoil him. Wet food, treats, toys, catnip, kisses, cuddles, attention. Make him feel like he won the cat lottery.
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u/FewProcess5043 Oct 18 '23
I'm so sorry to hear this I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers
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u/NashvilleBalance Oct 20 '23
I'm so sorry. I hope you and your beautiful cat enjoy these final moments together as much as you can. It's never ever easy to lose someone we love.💙
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u/DeathBeforeDecaf4077 Oct 21 '23
I’m so incredibly sorry. I hope you guys get as much time as possible together before its time for him to walk the rainbow bridge. Sending you big hugs!
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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23
I'm so sorry.
He's a beautiful boy and I'm sure is ever grateful that you made his life better with all your love and care.