r/blackcats • u/mommymary • Sep 02 '24
Mourning My 21 year old void crossed over 🌈🖤
It’s been a week since our 21 year old void left us, I’m heartbroken but I know it was his time to go 💔 He was so so handsome, it’s mind-boggling that he was TWENTY in the first two pictures. Some of you might remember him as the one with crispy yells. The fifth photo is the last one I took with him. I’ll miss him every single day, my baby Narc. 🖤🐈⬛
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u/adamski316 Sep 03 '24
Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion.
I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). He's done his job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's his turn to rest.
You'll always miss him, you'll always remember him. You'll even go looking for him for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting him. Donating/throwing away his toys or blankets isn't forgetting him. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears.
I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life he'd want you to.
This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without him. Life isn't over. Its just changing.
You'll be ok mate.
I'm so sorry.