The reason that experience exists is because that’s how human psychology works. We can talk about short circuiting that for our own benefit, but it’s not “stupid” or “wrong” for someone to experience it.
I think there’s an opposite of a honeymoon at the end, and people act like there’s tons of players who stay there for years.
In my experience it’s more likely a conveyor belt. It’s not 100 people complaining for 5 years. Most of them leave after a few months, because they know it’s not ideal. But we keep seeing a conveyor belt of people in that state for 5 years, so it feels like it’s happening the way we think.
it’s not “stupid” or “wrong” for someone to experience it.
It is definitely stupid.
Should we be mean to people? No.
But that doesn't mean that you need to sugarcoat it and encourage them saying 'yes, let it out, your feelings are justified and valid.'
When a toddler has a meltdown over something small, we acknowledge that they are emotionally immature and that they need some space to cool off and that it will take time and experience to learn how to process negative emotions.
In real life, if a 10-year old had the kind of meltdowns that some people have over the internet, people would wonder who raised that 10-year old. Who spoiled that kid that they can't deal with something not going their way?
We don't say 'wow, that kid sure is passionate about ice cream that they're kicking and screaming because they didn't get two scoops.'
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u/Altyrmadiken 6d ago
The reason that experience exists is because that’s how human psychology works. We can talk about short circuiting that for our own benefit, but it’s not “stupid” or “wrong” for someone to experience it.
I think there’s an opposite of a honeymoon at the end, and people act like there’s tons of players who stay there for years.
In my experience it’s more likely a conveyor belt. It’s not 100 people complaining for 5 years. Most of them leave after a few months, because they know it’s not ideal. But we keep seeing a conveyor belt of people in that state for 5 years, so it feels like it’s happening the way we think.