My sister is popular enough that apparently students where mad she didn’t get homecoming queen senior year lmao

but tbf i think my sister would of appreciated being asked first lol but damn would of been nice to have had the same opportunity even if i got bored at prom

Idk what's wrong with me exactly. I have no problems talking with women platonically, but if I try to talk to one with romantic intent in mind, I just freeze up and have no idea what to say. This is the case both irl and online. Alcohol helps a bit, but even then I can still feel the anxiety linger on. Not being a kissless virgin at 24 would probably benefit me a lot here, but oh well. Anyone else experiencing something similar?

I just don't understand it. I don't understand it. I wish things had turned out differently. But here I am at 28 years old. I just wish I knew what a kiss felt like. I just want to be able to be intimate with someone. I just want someone to love me. Why is that so hard to find? My dad tells me "let her come to you, she'll come to you in time." But he's been saying that for the past decade. That's all he does. He doesn't actually help me meet people. Whenever I explain how I feel to him, he just gets agitated and babbles on about how lonely he feels too, which doesn't make me feel any better. Literally nothing has happened romantically or even like finding a friend who is a woman, in my life at all. No one really seems to care, no one cares.

Nothing is happening and nothing is going to happen. I'm done pretending, I'm done hoping. The only thing I want is the answer why, and I don't know. I have no opportunities to meet people. From some small town in the US. I work from home full-time. Dating apps don't work. I am a Christian and have tried Upward for months. I swipe right on every single profile I see, like 200 swipes a day. I get a few, maybe 2 likes a day when I do this, that are literally all comprised of unattractive or overweight women that I just don't feel attracted to. I'm not bashing them. It's just not my thing. And even when I do message them on the app, which I do even though I don't feel attracted to them - because you might as well try, right? - they never respond. I'm not asking for a movie star - just someone who looks even somewhat decent. What is wrong with me, why are girls repulsed from me? Why do they immediately lose interest in me as soon as they see me? What is it about me? I just don't understand it.

I tried eHarmony, which is a scam and no one replied to me on that platform either. It's like the site is dead. I'm not into hookups, so I don't use Tinder. And I tried ChristianMingle to no avail. I don't know what to do. I don't think there's anything I can do.

I just want someone who cares about me, will reach out to me and hug me and love me, but it's just too much to ask from a woman to do that. They're just not willing.

I used to have hope, when I was more ignorant about the world, a long time ago. As the years passed and I started getting older, my hope slowly eroded away. Now I realize it's already too late. I'm supposed to be way farther along in life - I have several mental illnesses that set me back a long way - but no one really cares anyway. Everyone is too wrapped up in their own romantic drama and their own lives to care about me. I just don't understand.

The few friends that I used to have mostly just told me that I need to be happy single, marriage is not as glamorous as I think, and compared my situation to people worse off than me. Didn't help much.

My life isn't going anywhere, and my life is consumed by work and depression. I just wish I had a solution.

I’ve failed at life completely in every aspect. Zero friends, never had a partner, live with abusive family , dirt poor and don’t even have money to buy food. My abusive family only buys junk which they know I only get more sick eating due to my food allergies too. And I currently fractured my wrist from falling on the floor at a new job I got, so now can’t work at all. Assisted suic!de really should be legal. There is no coming back. Everyone I even talk to and mention any of this, ghosts me. I mean I can’t blame them because my burden is too heavy.

It's springtime so as usual, couples start crowding the malls and streets. I try no to think too much abt it and numb myself with porn and various media consumption. I lost my virginity at 23 the artificial way (i.e escorts) and it didn't do jack shit to my self-esteem.

I've been seeing a psychologist once per month, who prescribes me antipsychotics and antidepressants, which keep my anger in check and prevent me from lashing out.

Idk how long I can take this. Every time I see a couple, especially teens, it's like a knife gets twisted in my heart and instantly get suicidal when I see a woman. Just today, I found myself checking women out in public again, and it made me feel like shit. Even the few friends I have don't bring me joy anymore, I've grown really misanthropic, I'd rather spend time with cats and computers than with people anymore.

This world is such a fucking joke.

I don't know how to get out again or if I even should get out. Or how I should even do it. I'm confused.

I have spent the last two years constantly spending multiple hours a day trying to find someone. Nothing has worked. Dating apps are horrible I either don't get liked back or I am left ghosted after talking to someone. I have been trying to be charismatic irl I am glad to say I am quite honestly really liked by my peers in my classes and yet no girl interested in sight. I can't keep going it hurts too much to keep going. I have been rejected hundreds of times online and dozens of times irl. This isn't for me, I am just not built to be loved romantically. I had one relationship, she told me she lost her feelings after going twice out if my country to see her. I guess I'm boring and I can't keep someone entertained. This is it for me... I'm done.

Just looking to share my feelings

My childhood best friend - we used to go to school, college together for about 10 years and shared a lot of wonderful memories

After college we drifted apart but occasionally kept contact on whatsapp

Recently he got married and he did not invite me

That hurt me a little more than expected and brings back memories of thoughts of how I'm invisible in this world

Nobody wants to be friends with me unless they want to extract money from me or want some benefit out of being with me

Nobody wants to hang out with me because I am no fun

And that makes my heart heavy

I was born with a condition that makes me look masculine, my body is square, I can't stand suffering anymore, everyone blocks me on Snapchat, no one answers me, sometimes I think about giving up, I'm horrible, I'll never have anyone, I don't know how to do anything, I have the worst facial features anyone could have, no guy wants to kiss me, I feel like an alien

i'm a top student at a good university (21m). i'm applying to PhD programs, i'm a published author, i work in science labs... i do things that i love so much. but at the same time i work a lot of hours (60h) a week. i'm applying to PhD programs at ivy league schools this year and the craziest part is that i've worked so hard and there is a chance i could actually get in.

I spent time trying to talk to new people in university yet nobody is interested. i've tried improving my appearance and self esteem with fitness, therapy, diet, nice clothes, etc, etc. but nothing ever works.

it sucks. it genuinely does. i feel like a ghost in my apartment at night. when i come home from a long day of work- nobody is there. all my friends have that somebody but it never seems to happen for me. i've slowly been falling into a depression over the last few months because of it. i havent had a girlfriend in all of college so far and im about to graduate. nobody even wants to give me a chance.

success in academia simply doesn't matter if you're alone - at least to me. I know for a fact that when I'm on my deathbed, I'll be thinking of my friends and family...not that one publication with revisions i need to submit, or research design methods for that other project. life feels empty and worthless.

i wish i knew what was wrong with me.

My body, face, height, hair, voice, posture, the way I walk, the way I talk, how I eat, how I sit, how I use something, my lack of experiences, no drivers license, no car....these are all a portion of what I endure basically daily. I'm so tired of it all, most of it are things I'm unable to change. The one's that I can change, I don't know how... Even looking at others I just can't seem to understand what makes them behave better than me. It's natural to them but I'm like a robot, I don't even feel human anymore. Everything I do is wrong but nobody tells me how to fix it. And I just can't seem to prove anyone wrong. Everything feels out of reach to me, and everyone will get to forever make fun of me until the end of my life.

I wish things turned out different but in a sense I'm just not right. I do love astronomy and when I look out my telescope I sometimes wonder if I was supposed to be born on another world, almost as if I wasn't mean to be a human.

I know It was a Joke i know i wouldnt find anyone but there was some Hope that maybe i would had met someone today, that finally life would make sense, well It was a scam. The person waited for the last Second to block me, maybe laughing that i had Fell for It and i knowing Felt Just for maybe the Hope i.would have somebody. Im Just tired of everything, almost 30 years old and nothing makes Sense anymore. Im Just crying and feeling horrible.

I’m a 34-year-old man, and in my life, I’ve only had one relationship. Strangely, I felt lonelier in that relationship than I ever did alone. Before we got together, we were friends—and during that time, I didn’t feel lonely. But the closer we became, the more we changed, and the more isolated I felt. That relationship came with many negative emotions.

In the early stages, I blamed myself for everything—even when she lashed out at me. I told myself I had no experience with relationships, that I didn’t understand how they worked, and that it was all my fault. I thought, “If I just change, things will get better.” Instead of walking away, I dug in deeper—far too deep. I felt desperately lonely, and this seemed like my only chance at a relationship. Despite all the red flags and clear signs that it wasn’t going to work, I kept pushing through because I didn’t want to be alone.

I remember feeling intense jealousy in the evenings, walking by myself and seeing couples out together—laughing, chatting, just being. For them, it all seemed so natural. Relationships looked easy, like second nature. But not for me.

One of the hardest things to accept is that I’m massively unattractive. My recent Tinder experience says it all: 12,000 right swipes, 21 matches. Out of those 21, at least half didn’t even reply. I could hardly believe I had swiped that many times—but that's what the stats showed.

On top of that, I struggle with social anxiety. My communication skills often feel like those of an alien who just landed on Earth—clueless about how to talk to people or fit in.

This post isn’t just to vent or cry. I’m always working to improve myself. In fact, after the breakup, my mental health began to improve. I’ve been making an effort to talk to more people and have joined some local groups. I still often feel lonely and misunderstood in those spaces—not many people can relate to what it’s like to struggle this much with basic communication—but I’m trying. As I get older, I’m learning to appreciate life more. I know I have to keep trying, and maybe, one day, I’ll meet people I can truly connect with.

So, if you’re lonely and find yourself in a relationship just because it’s an opportunity—please think carefully. Watch for red flags early. Don’t go as far as having a child with someone when the foundation of the relationship is already built on strange, often frightening arguments.

It’s tough, though. Honestly, if someone had tried to warn me back then, I probably would’ve just gotten defensive—stubborn like a ram—and kept going anyway. Still, that relationship taught me a lot about recognizing warning signs and understanding what relationships should and shouldn’t be.

Of course, I’d love to find a soulmate—someone who understands what it’s like to struggle with communication, maybe even someone going through something similar. Being a foreigner in the UK makes it even harder to feel like I belong. Though that’s not the main issue—the core of it is my difficulty connecting with people.

I’m not going to lie—part of the reason I’m writing this is the hope that maybe, just maybe, there’s a lost soul out there like me. Someone who struggles with the same kind of social anxiety, who might read this and feel seen. And maybe, in some dream-like way, I’d receive a message that says:

"Let's go, our paths align. I can relate. I am an alien too. We'll figure it out together."

Of course, I know I’m exaggerating a little with the words…
But still—this is my dream.

Hi I'm a guy but I don't want to be a creep, and if you see me in this way I am very sorry but it's not my intention.

I have a crush on a girl in my school and I don't think she is very popular or has really much friends i see her at lunch and she eats alone. The reason I like is because I also have a few friends (none close) and also sit at lunch alone plus I'm not into sociable and popular girls.

The reason I ask this is because I don't know how to interact with her without making it feel weird or creepy, everybody is different but I want an opinion from faw on this. Should I strike up a conversation or just forget about it

Again sorry if this sounds creepy or random I just really want advice. I don't mind advice from guys but I feel like it would be better from a woman's perspective. I tried posting in their own server but it got deleted so they must really not want guys there

This is the first time I posted here but I always lurk here. I'm just so tired of being alone and crying myself to sleep. Even though I keep saying I'm not ready for love. I always say that because I know I would be a terrible partner. There's so many things I hate about myself. The biggest one is my weight, which im trying to change. I don't care if someone could see past that because being this weight makes me not even liked to be touched. Who is going to want someone they can't even touch. I hope that I won't care about that if I can get skinny but who knows maybe I'll still be weird about touch.

Is there any hope for a guy like me? I never experienced any form of love, im 30, never kissed anyone and im a virgin, I've approached a lot of women I asked a lot of women out but they've all rejected me, I always wonder what more can I do , sometimes i think I'm cursed.

No other person here on Earth is meant to be my friend or lover.

I am on my own recourse.

If I am to cry, there's no shoulder to rest my head on.

If I am to fall, there are no arms to reach me.

I have but myself, but it's a pity, because I loathe myself.

And the rest of this cold, distant world also loathes me.

And I loathe it right back, frankly.

Who knows, perhaps you, fellow FA, are doomed to follow the same trajectory.

So one of my best friends who I’ve been friends with for 8 years I am thankful to have has been suggesting to me for the last few years that I should consider moving to another country outside of America (preferably Columbia, Turkey, or Philippines) considering that like many of you guys I’ve never had luck with a having a partner in my 3+ decades of living.

Also, he is FA just like many of us, he definitely has been wanting to move to another country because he hasn’t had as much luck too with women.

I’ve kinda told him in many of those years that I wouldn’t consider doing so for various reasons. Lately, I feel like he is starting to become a little pushy about that to the point where when I told him that I tried nearly everything to have luck, he told told me not really because of the fact that I’m not willing to immigrate to another country just to have some hope according to him.

I mean, he’s been a good friend to me the last several years, which is very rare for me to have especially people like us who may not have friends. However, how would you personally respond to this situation if your friend I told you to move to another country possibly just to possibly have better luck than here in America?

So back in a September I met a girl on Reddit and we hit it off extremely well and became close friends talking every single day and on the phone and face timing etc.

Towards the end of December she posts on the friendship forum that she has feelings for her friend (and describes me). I was gonna bring it up but then she starts talking sexually to me, but then when I reciprocate she pulls away and says she isn’t ready for that. So I mention I saw her post and the feelings are mutual. But she says well now I’m not sure.

A while passes and she asks me to be her boyfriend and I’m really excited. She starts calling me hun and cyber sexts with me and I feel really happy. but then all of a sudden she completely cuts it all off. Won’t do anything sexual, stops calling me hun etc. I try to talk to her about it and she assures me nothing is wrong she just has anxiety.

But then in February she breaks up with me saying she has no feelings for me and only thought she did. We talked a while and she said maybe it’s because we hadn’t met in person so I said give me til the end of April and I will come out to see you (I live in WV she lives in Kansas) and she agrees.

Two days…. 2 days! After dumping me, I mention that I’ve met some new online friends who are female and she gets super jealous and stuff. Then she starts acting more flirty and sends me pics of her in her underwear and acts real sexual again.

I ask her to be with me and she says let’s meet first and then we can discuss it and I say okay. Eventually we settle on May 2 because that’s when the amusement park opens. Things seem okay. But then she starts pulling away again and when I bring it up she says she doesn’t have feelings for me. I say, but I was about to pay almost $700 to come see you… she says well I just thought it was as a friend. I just thought we were friends. I ask her do friends show each other dirty pics and masturbate together? She then says I need therapy and that I’m not mentally well.

I’ve been single for over 12 years. Not because I’ve been hurt or disappointed — but simply because I had other priorities. After my first relationship at 18 (which lasted two years and felt more like a societal checkbox than anything deeply emotional), I focused on my studies, student jobs, and later, my career. I told myself that love — whatever that meant — would come “later.”

And for more than a decade, nothing happened. I didn’t look, I didn’t feel like I was missing out, I was content. That changed in 2024 when I met someone through work. We weren’t together — nothing happened between us — but I genuinely felt something for the first time in my adult life. I felt love. I felt like a better version of myself around her. I imagined a future. And when I realized that this wouldn’t go anywhere, I found myself… torn.

On one hand, I now want to share my life with someone, because I’ve had a glimpse of what that can feel like. On the other hand, I find everything around the idea of looking for love incredibly hypocritical and alienating. Let me explain.

1) The dating culture and apps feel fundamentally inauthentic.

Apps like Tinder reduce people to commodities — swiping left and right based on looks, like flipping through a catalogue. They’re built on animal impulses: you feel desire, you match, you message — and maybe, you hope, something meaningful will emerge. But how can something deep grow out of something that started on such a shallow foundation?

2) Even “natural” dating advice feels fake to me.

People often say: “Just go out, meet people, smile, approach someone who seems interesting…” But again, it’s all built on the same physical impulse: “Approach her because she’s attractive.” It feels like we’re pretending to build something emotional on a foundation that is purely visual and instinctual. That kind of play-acting — pretending we’re not all trying to game each other into relationships — just doesn’t sit right with me.

3) The only way I’ve ever felt something real was over time.

What happened in 2024 wasn’t about a first date, a swipe, or a flirty approach. It was about months of conversations, shared work, stress, laughter, mutual respect. I saw that person in good days and bad ones. And over time, my feelings grew — not because I was looking for love, but because I got to know her. That’s the only context where love has ever felt real to me.

And yet, I know this: if I don’t actively do something different, nothing will change. I’ll go another 12 years alone. I’m aware of that. But still, I can’t bring myself to go through the motions of dating the way most people do — because deep down, it feels dishonest. I’m not saying others are wrong for doing it — it just feels wrong for me.

So yeah… I don’t know what I’m looking for by posting this. Maybe just to articulate the conflict inside me. I want to share my life with someone — not because I feel lonely, but because I now know how much better life can feel with the right person. But I don’t want to chase ghosts or force something that isn’t real.

If anyone has felt something similar — I’d genuinely love to hear how you navigated this.

I've been following the advice and trying to better myself. I've been successful in some areas but many are all a work in progress. I'm still trying so hard to just be a better version of myself but something always feels off. I'm sitting in my bathroom crying, again. I remembered that's what was happening when I first decided to make a throwaway account on Reddit to vent about everything wrong with me. That was almost 9 years ago.

9 years ago and I'm still here. 9 years ago and I'm still crying in the bathroom. 9 years ago and I'm still the loser I've always been. I've been trying to trick myself into thinking I can be better but I realize now I'm just being stupid. I've got 9 years of evidence from this account alone and real life to prove that it's a fact that I'm a loser and I'll never be with with any woman. I have so much proof that I'm a loser and any good thing I can say about myself is just false hope. Everyone knows I'm a loser. They try and justify it with anything they can think of. I do the same. Is that not insanity? Imagine looking at the blue sky above you and trying your hardest to convince yourself it's green. You know it's not green. But what if! What if someday it randomly turns green! What if it reflects the light from the grass and appears to be green!? What if a green meteor flies by Earth and it looks green for a few seconds!?

The sky is blue. I'm a loser. These are just facts. I'm done lying to myself. There's no reason for me to be hopeful. I've been hopeful for 9 years and I'm still in the same exact place.

When I was around 10 to 13, I had a lot going on in my internet life. I talked to many people and had a lot of friends, though I argued with most of them and was often bullied in group chats. I met most of those people through the Gacha community, which, at the time, was the only space where I truly felt like I belonged. Eventually, I grew out of that phase and so did everyone else. I don’t think anyone even likes Gacha anymore. After Gacha, I became sort of a TikTok star, and while I did make some friends there too, it wasn’t quite like the community I had in 2018–2019. Still, it was something.

2020 was a calmer year. I started talking to my father’s friend, someone I developed deep feelings for. She was my crush. I was honestly in love with her. But she left me around 2021, and that broke something inside me. After her, I still had a few friends from Instagram and TikTok, but it wasn’t the same anymore.

Then 2022 and 2023 happened.
In 2022, I only had school friends, but that ended quickly when a classmate spread rumors about me about things I supposedly did. That basically killed every connection I had left. In 2023, I tried to stay in touch with a few friends on Instagram, but eventually, they all disappeared. I honestly don’t know how everything just started ending. It’s like I woke up one day and everyone was gone.

2024 and 2025 have been extremely lonely for me.
I’ve tried finding people on Instagram, Facebook, even Bumble, but nothing. TikTok isn’t an option anymore because I’m barely active, and Reddit is just filled with thirsty guys. I’ve been feeling this deep, painful loneliness since 2023, and it’s been killing me slowly.

School has never been easy either. No one really wants to be my friend and maybe it’s because of how I look. Right now, in my class (10th grade), there are only 6 students: 3 boys and 2 other girls, plus me. We also have two students from 11th grade who join some classes. They’re friendly with each other, but no one talks to me. I don’t try anymore. I’m scared that if I try and something goes wrong, I’ll end up having to leave school like I had to back in 2021. I just want to survive quietly now. On top of all this, I lost my maternal grandmother, who was with me throughout my entire life. Her absence has left a hole I don’t know how to fill.

I don’t understand why even social media can’t help me find real friends anymore. I’ve tried so hard. It’s like I’m screaming in a room no one’s in.

Continuous texting to girls usually leads me with a fat block instead

26M, and lately I've come to the realization that there's something fundamentally wrong i've been doing my entire youth for me to end up being FA , with only a one on one friends, who happen to be as socially inept as me.

Feels completely wrong blaming anything like looks , although I assume they play a factor too because when I've been out to a bar/club I've observed how girls flirted with the people I went to, but treated be as I was invisible. Perhaps looks + weird body language. Idk anymore. Anyway, school, college uni, and even my old workplace I was always the odd one out, who kept to himself and was always excluded from any groups activities. All this because I felt rejected after every attempt to fit in. In fact at uni I made only one friend to whom I still speak to , but he lives far away from me. Besides him I don't have any other true friends. The rest of my time at uni, I spent rotting in my room playing games, drawing and completing my coursework. It's not like I didn't try to make friends and socialise, but from all the effort, I just ended up feeling even more depressed and isolated, all because no one returned the effort in getting to know me. In fact, people only focused on my negative traits for instance, "Why are you so shy", "Why do you do this, this, this" ? . All I was doing is trying to be nice, and engage in a talk, and listen, but still they treated me like something that came out of the sewers.

My hygiene is good, posture too, I am friendly, good listener, and i've been told that I'm a really chill person. Despite that i always give off weirdo vibes without intending to. On the contrary, I am slightly socially awkward, introverted, but still trying my best to engage.

I know I should be putting myself out there more, go to social events and stuff, but from all the social rejection, isolation, I feel so mentally exhausted and depressed that I don't even have the energy to do anything that involves talking to others. The thought that there might be something wrong me, but I don't know what.