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u/okram2k Mar 06 '25
I am so tired of the bullshit companies expect employees to say to pretend like we're not all here because of money. I'm here to make money, you're hiring me to turn my labor into profit. We don't need to be a family, I don't need to write a page about what motivated me to apply for this position. let's stop the bullshit.
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u/CodithEnnie Mar 06 '25
It shouldn't go without saying. In fact, it should be made explicitly clear that you are there for money.
This helps ensure that doing a job well done isn't going to gain you additional hard work beyond the scope of your initial duties, but actually rewarded with higher pay.
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u/Acceptable-Pipe-8735 Mar 06 '25
This comment should be framed and hung in every office in the world.
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u/jfq722 Mar 06 '25
Right, but if you don't take on additional work as a "reward" for a job well done, how do you expect the social butterflies to find time to continue yapping about their kids?
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u/redrocketunicorn Mar 07 '25
Tried this. One co-worker didn't like me because I openly spoke out against bigotry and other toxic behaviors I saw in the environment. Another because of where I was in seniority and that my background was similar to their own, so I would be further competition when it came to job placement opportunities. They used their work peer group to gaslight me until mgmt got involved and sided with them. I had not endeared myself to any of them because I saw the place as a job where I would come in work and go home, not a place where I needed friends. My protests were ridiculed. I was highly scrutinized to the point of harassment. When I went to HR, so did they and continued the gaslighting. HR listened to them, as they were the majority. The few people that knew what was going on gave their sympathies but were afraid to speak up. I resigned. It was a good paying job with good benefits.
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u/Independent-Cow-4070 Mar 06 '25
And if I wasn’t working for money, I wouldn’t be a fucking engineer lol
I’d be a teacher, or a volunteer somewhere, or a zookeeper
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Mar 05 '25
Some of my best friends in the world have been my coworkers. I certainly understand the mindset, but it isn’t for everyone. I’m not gonna not be friends with someone because I work with them. I’d rather just be a professional at work and be friends (if there are like-minded people)
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u/Disneyhorse Mar 06 '25
I have no idea why this post showed up on my feed. But, I spend wayyyyy too much time at work to not make some social connections and make the best out of everyone there. I have carefully curated my work life, so I actually like going to work every day (I’m not going to say I look forward to going to work, but it’s pleasant enough that I don’t mind at all). I try and find the best in everyone, even the worst personalities. Craft your mindset and the world around you as optimistically as possible, you only get one life to live and should enjoy as much of the time you’re given. People are less miserable around you in return.
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u/Disneyhorse Mar 06 '25
Someone in my office actually has the saying in this post on a 24” poster in their cubicle. It’s really depressing and I feel bad for them.
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u/SUPLEXELPUS Mar 06 '25
I have no issues with the sentiment in general, go to work, get paid, go home; but putting it on a poster and hanging it in your office?
wtf bro, you need a reminder every day to not make friends? I'm genuinely curious what their motivation is.
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u/bionicjoe 29d ago
I once sent a joke email to 4 employees including my supervisor. It was a fake motivational poster, nothing vile, profane, racist, etc. We had joked about far worse.
One of my 'friends' sent it to the manager saying it was too negative.
He was about to get fired.
I was getting promoted and moving to Austin, TX.I got written up and couldn't be offered the promotion. My supervisor even tried to help me out, but management went past our local HR to corporate.
A month later I had resigned.
My 'friend' got fired 2 weeks later.Go to work.
Get paid.Your work friends will fuck you over to help themselves.
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u/Ghostpoet89 Mar 05 '25
"Learn the difference between friendly and friends". Some of the best advice i've ever been given. I'm cordial with all coworkers, friendly with some but never friends. I don't speak to them outside of work, I don't go to after work socials. I don't text or call them unless it's work related. They know the absolute bare minimum about my life.
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u/Dottboy19 Mar 05 '25
Why have all my professional jobs attempted to make me feel crazy for being this way. I'm cordial with all, friendly with a handful and have felt antisocial the past 8 years
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u/Dave5876 Mar 05 '25
The more they know about you the more that can be potentially weaponised.
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u/TheBarracksLawyer Mar 05 '25
This. They’re probing to find the best way to accurately hate you
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u/momoburger-chan Mar 06 '25
Yeah. That's been my work experience. I used to be more honest and actually talk about my interests, but everything about me seemed to alienate others and they always ended up hating me. Turns out, I had undiagnosed autism and, boy howdy, people can really pick up on that. Now I just let my coworkers think I'm a shy, artsy vegetarian cutie and not the cave troll I actually am.
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u/Hour-Material-3827 Mar 06 '25
Omg I’m struggling with this rn and don’t know what to do….. decided to just be cordial/not share myself and do my job after realizing a lot of my coworkers don’t really care to understand me or tell me to my face if I’m doing something incorrectly. They would much rather talk to each other about it and be nice to your face…. I thought distancing myself would be better but it gets quite isolating and boring when everyone is somewhat friends while you sit around looking for tasks to do to pass the time.
I don’t even really want to try being friends bc I absolutely despise the culture that’s been cultivated. I’ve also worked at maaany other places within the same industry and it’s never been this weird😭
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u/MVT60513 Mar 06 '25
I’m in the same boat as you. I also recently learned that I was misdiagnosed as a child and am now an adult with undiagnosed autism. When I started my new career three years ago I was optimistic and open but now I don’t dare socialize with my co workers. I’m friendly and polite but that’s it. I truly believe what they know about me is being used against me somehow.
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u/Truestorydreams Mar 06 '25
Seriously....
Theres nothing wrong being polite and easy to work with, but some people will pull you down to get ahead.
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u/multiple4 Mar 06 '25
Because executives and higher ups can't operate this way. They have to prioritize work 24/7 and they have to form good relationships with each other to do that
So as a result they try to push that same mindset onto everyone else. Why? Because they can and it makes them feel better
And I don't think it's done maliciously. And a lot of people actually like that type of culture
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u/BooBeeAttack Mar 06 '25
Because the more they make you feel like a friend/family, the more they can manipulate you emotionally to do what they want.
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u/jal262 Mar 06 '25
I don't want to sound critical, but I don't think this is healthy.
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u/poorperspective Mar 06 '25
Compartmentalizing is healthy.
It also just comes with the territory of many jobs. If you are in management or a Supervisoral role, this will pretty much has to be your MO.
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u/devoswasright Mar 06 '25
"I don't trust the people I spend 8 hours a day I'm around and expect them to only be friendly with me as a means of using me. Why is this world so lonely it totally can't be my own approach to relationships"
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u/Ghostpoet89 Mar 06 '25
I'm....not lonely? I have great friendships outside of work. I don't consider coworkers friends & prefer to leave those relationships at work.
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u/ackermann Mar 06 '25
Once you get into your 30’s… it’s hard to find places to make friends other than work.
Plus those in the same career field are likely to share common interests, so that’s rejecting a large pool of potential friends.
Us introverts who don’t make friends so easily can’t give up that opportunity. Or maybe I’m just in a more forgiving career field.4
u/anusblunts Mar 06 '25
I’m in my 30s. Who says I want to find places to make friends? I have enough friends that I haven’t seen in years, don’t need or want more, especially trying to fit in with random work dumbies. I keep it brief and positive at work, no need to be BFF’s
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u/BK99BK Mar 06 '25
It’s not healthy. I gained valuable friendships through coworkers. I remind of myself that I’m on Reddit and people here tend to be very anti social.
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u/Zackmella Mar 06 '25
It's complex. Proximity is a powerful force. Friendships and even romantic relationships are sparked from professional relationships. But the bar should be high. Understand the difference between a real connection and dumb proximity. Oh, and the risks are higher...
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u/Ghostpoet89 Mar 06 '25 edited Mar 06 '25
Yeah I'm a woman that works construction with a team of highly misogynistic men, these people are not my friends. I'm also lesbian so not romantically interested in them & I don't mix work & play anyway. I Understand people in more equitable work environments may feel different but I am not socialising with men who think I don't deserve basic human rights.
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u/caehluss Mar 06 '25
Drives me crazy that you're getting told this is "unhealthy" when not everyone is privileged enough to have a good work environment. I'm trans and don't know a single person at my job who reads the news or even knows what's happened since Trump took office. I can have a friendly, civil conversation with anyone at my job, but there is too much of a fundamental difference in values for me to consider them friends. I'm fearing for my life while they're living in fantasy land.
On the flip side: I'm in a graduate program in mental health with a dozen incredible people who I have had very emotionally intimate conversations with. I hang out with them on campus all day and then I go home and enjoy my solitude. They're wonderful company but after an intense conversation I need time to recharge.
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u/_inaccessiblerail Mar 06 '25
This is so fucking sad
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u/PreparationNo2145 Mar 06 '25
Redditors love this kind of shit while posting daily about the death of social relationships
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u/_inaccessiblerail Mar 06 '25
Right?? And the epidemic of anxiety and depression…. Here’s a hint: get off Reddit and make friends with your coworkers
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u/SaraAnnabelle Mar 05 '25
I am honestly so grateful to have a 100% remote job. I see my colleagues twice a year; I know absolutely nothing about them. I love it.
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u/tiki_nessa Mar 05 '25
You are lucky. I am remote two days a week and two days in the office. Every Friday we have a one hour meeting full of non-stop ice breakers.
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u/PufffPufffGive Mar 05 '25
Currently sick as fuck. It came out of no where.
I work tonight Messaged 8 people who are off if they could cover me. Only one replied.
Ive covered so many people last minute and it’s super disappointing. I needed to see this. Good looking out
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u/RedSamuraiMan Mar 06 '25
It's to impress and hopefully influence the shift supervisor. They are the alpha and the omega, The beginning and the end.
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u/Ikatarion Mar 06 '25
Having to arrange cover for your own sickness is such a wild concept to me. That's what managers are for, why aren't they doing it?
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Mar 05 '25
Can this be emailed too all workplaces? I feel like there's a lot of folks desperate for drama that need to hear this...
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u/Important_Degree_784 Mar 06 '25
And NO ONE in HR is your friend. Ever.
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u/Soundwave234 Mar 06 '25
And no matter how hot the HR person is and no matter how much they like you, please for the love of god dont sleep with anyone from HR.
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u/gameraccountant Mar 05 '25
This 100%
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u/shroomeric Mar 05 '25
In my case I try to commit 2-3% of my expertise and go home. Happy to report no one has noticed yet in 22 years now
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u/AccountNumber478 Mar 05 '25
Don't go out of your way to divulge health struggles to mere coworkers, either.
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u/DubRogers Mar 05 '25
It's what my parents said on day one of my first job. Some of the best advice in hindsight...
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u/Iwas7b4u Mar 05 '25
I work in a good place with good people. We’ve been through a lot and I’m pretty happy that I can trust people.
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u/buhlakay Mar 06 '25
That's my big thing. Do i need to be best friends with coworkers?? No, I dont need to see them or spend time with them outside of work. However, we do need to have a bond and a sense of trust. We're friendly and know and understand each other's lives because you need to in order to be an effective team. We dont need to be besties, but understanding that Karen is gonna be late because she has kids and their school is out today or her husband recently had surgery and she's a little stressed about that, or knowing Jake is type 1 diabetic so be mindful about what office snacks I buy and offer people.
Its small things where connecting with the people you work with is beneficial to having a positive work environment and treating people with kindness and empathy and friendliness is important. You can't just stop being human because of some arbitrary philosophy.
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u/Strict-Yam-7972 Mar 05 '25
Just had a girl my brother dated for 5 years and I've known for 9 go behind my back and Snitch on me to the manager today and got me in trouble instead or coming to talk to me about it. Needless to say I will never help her out again, and keep talking to a full minimum. I've taken countless shifts of hers and she's never helped me out a single time. Fucking bitch.
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u/Just-apparent411 Mar 05 '25
Just watched a CO worker, who we all engaged with and had plenty of laughs with in the group chat, get fired last week.
I'm on Demon timing now. You not catching me, I got a family to feed... but the savage part is them asking me to recruit for his role, 2 days after he was brought in, to be brought out.
Guard your heart, you are just a number.
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u/GeauxTri Mar 06 '25
I tell people all the time "We are just line items on a spreadsheet. No one here cares about you, your family, your successes, or your problems."
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u/Lo_rainy Mar 05 '25
My “work friends” are just that. People that I’m polite and professional with. They don’t truly know me and I don’t know them. I have two friends that are my REAL friends.
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u/iytrix Mar 05 '25
Not giving a fuck doesn’t mean you have to forgo having friends lmao. If you make friends at work, you make friends at work, if you don’t, you don’t. Simple as that
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u/Blue_Period_89 Mar 06 '25
I have always had pretty good luck with coworkers. But I was just absolutely steamrolled by 2 people that I thought were my friends. And now they’re dead to me. And whenever they email me a question about a project, my response is to politely tell them to ask someone else.
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u/Beanieson Mar 06 '25
lmao someone at my work posted this image to facebook yesterday which prompted our boss to send out a mass email reminding everyone of our social media policies.
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u/SneezyKeegz Mar 06 '25
I am friendly with my coworkers but in no way am I friends with them. I would never talk to them or associate with them outside of work except for like maybe one dude that I'd buy a beer if I saw him out and about.
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u/RenLinwood Mar 05 '25
Fuck that, unionize your workplace. You don't have to be friends with your coworkers to collectively negotiate for your mutual benefit.
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u/tcrpgfan Mar 06 '25
IF IT'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR THE CAST OF F. R. I. E. N. D. S. IT'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!!!!
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u/Next_Confidence_3654 Mar 06 '25
I hate it when they push the “family” idea and people embrace it.
GTFOH with that. I have one or two friends here and the rest of you certainly aren’t family.
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u/_inaccessiblerail Mar 06 '25
Yeah it sucks when people try to foster community and human connection, isn’t that the worst? 🙄
Seriously, this meme and these comments agreeing it are pretty fucking sad. I live in an intentional community and this is a slap in the face reminding me what the “real world” is like. And people wonder why there’s an epidemic of anxiety and depression.
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u/MissMaster Mar 06 '25
I just feel bad for the experiences these people have at work, or maybe their inability to tell if you can trust someone, or maybe they don't understand what networking is or why it's important, or maybe that they don't understand that there is a whole spectrum of relationships at work from civil to friends-outside-of-work.
During COVID, when my kid's daycare closed, I was at home--alone--taking care of a baby during the day and working all night while the baby slept and getting no sleep. My manager, the Director AND VP of my department all told me 'just work however much you can, your health is more important'. The dept also paid extra money to keep our AWS servers running at night so I could work off hours. I can list a dozen examples of ways that we've all supported each other (like sending care packages to our coworker who was in Africa for Navy Reserve duty, covering for coworkers who are out dealing with emergencies or sick relatives). Every person I worked with who has been fired was given ample warnings and chances to improve. The hustlers and just-here-for-my-paycheck people never last at my company because they don't actually work that well with other people and people learn not to depend on them because they are there to do the bare minimum.
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u/The_8th_Angel Mar 05 '25
Ah, damn it... This breeds a society where we stop caring about each other.
"As long as I got mine, fuck the rest of you" never helped anyone.
Unfortunately, I can't agree.
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u/poonmangler Mar 05 '25
Yeah, there's a difference. Being too friendly, making yourself vulnerable: not good.
But the rich folks LOVE that we're so easily divided.
Be at least slightly sociable, and form a union.
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u/Mister_Buddy Mar 05 '25
You can be friendly, just also be suspicious and don't give 'em ammo.
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u/LousyShmo Mar 05 '25
I agree, this level of individualism and "I don't know you, leave me the fuck alone" attitude is part of the reason why Americans have no sense of community right now.
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u/Any_Case5051 Mar 05 '25
and watch out for the gossip people that say you are antisocial
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u/Inevitable-Drag-1704 Mar 06 '25 edited Mar 06 '25
Yup....if they gossip to you, they gossip about you.
Its a sign that a person doesn't know how to regulate properly if they view everyone around them in toxic ways.
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u/GeauxTri Mar 06 '25
I am friendly with the people I work with, but I am not friends with the people I work with. Every job I had, there have been people I got close with. When they left the job, or when I left the job, we no longer kept in contact.
Sure, I have met work people outside of work. Sure I have done friend stuff with work people. But not one of those relationships has lasted once we no longer worked together.
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u/alwayslate86 Mar 06 '25
I agree 💯. It goes without saying why we even go to work to being with. However, Everyone is replaceable and the next person won't hesitate to throw you under the buss if it meant their job was on the line. I keep my head down, be cordial to everyone, do my job to the best of my ability and go home.
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u/Large_Opportunity_60 Mar 06 '25
I got 30 years in a major auto manufacturer … 30 years does something to people I’m telling you it fucks with people’s minds somehow but it’s not a good thing. And don’t get me started about the organization who is supposed to be protecting the workers… they protecting themselves is all
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u/WoopsShePeterPants Mar 06 '25
I'm not at a work "party" tonight because I'm sure the leadership team can jack themselves off without me.
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u/_inaccessiblerail Mar 06 '25
Imagine working side by side with other human beings day after day for years, and not giving a fuck about who they are.
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u/HomonculusHunter Mar 06 '25
Correction, NOBODY***** at work is your friend. Lesson learnt the hardway.... :(
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u/Jellybean_Pumpkin Mar 06 '25
Had to learn this the hard way.
People at work form cliques and if you're not part of it, they will rat you out as soon the opportunity presents itself, even if you do good work and follow the rules.
Best to keep your distance.
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u/firnien-arya Mar 06 '25
This is what I tell people too. I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to work and get paid. If I happen to get along with people in the process, then fine. It's a bonus. If not, no harm done.
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u/silentwhisperergirl Mar 07 '25
👏👍👏
And you don't have to please & mingle with anyone who you feel like are indifferent and aloof towards you.!!.
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u/FartJarBinks Mar 06 '25
Me, who works with one client only who is also one of my best friends: “Sorry bud, sign said you suck.”
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u/Creative_Parsley_920 Mar 06 '25
I made friends with a female who has a bf and she is now ignoring me because she said she was wrong in getting close to me. Friendship done, I guess.. lol
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u/dragonwithin15 Mar 06 '25
It took fifteen years and 5 different jobs for my autistic ass to figure this out. Smdh
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u/BigBoiGoRLaX Mar 06 '25
Great way to boost morale. There was people like this at my work and I get it but man, it was difficult. I just treated them like a house plant.
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u/SunKillerLullaby Mar 06 '25
It’s funny, I went into work with this mindset but ended up meeting one of my closest friends at work.
We don’t work together anymore, but we still talk and hang out a lot
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u/testing_is_fun Mar 06 '25
I met my wife at work and have been married for 20+ years, so some people at work can be friends.
That said, I don’t want to be friends with many of my coworkers.
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u/phantom_metallic Mar 06 '25
Be civil, even respectful.
But remember that colleagues are not friends and there is no such thing as a "work family."
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u/Frostyfury99 Mar 06 '25
I work 12 hour shifts 2 weeks at a time, I gotta get along with them and like them
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u/Legionnaire11 Mar 06 '25
Nah, you just need to know the difference between work friends and real friends. Be friendly with your coworkers, have a good time, but know that they probably won't have your back when you need them and know that they will come and go.
Work sucks, but having some buddies to cut up and pass the time with can make it a little more tolerable.
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u/Squidgie1 Mar 06 '25
There's a new girl at work that needs to see this. I have to keep "subtly" letting her know that our friendship ends at 5:00.
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u/Hahaha_Joker Mar 06 '25
Learned this the hard way. Couldn’t emphasis on maintaining a low profile. By low profile I don’t mean to be invisible to your superiors otherwise they’ll pass on your promotion to someone else. But rather just maintain distance and at the same time be aware of what’s going on so that it doesn’t come as a surprise to you. Just feel the pulse and act accordingly and preferably neutrally in all situations
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u/NiceGuyEddie86 Mar 06 '25
Pppfff...exactly today im having to deal with that person...
Thanks for reminding :P
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u/amfuck Mar 06 '25
Yup. I be getting in trouble for the stupidest shit at work. But some reason my coworker can leave earlier without having done their chore before they leave lol so dumb
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u/Baskreiger Mar 06 '25
I say it openly to my coworkers, and its much better like this. I told my boss I dont want to talk personnal stuff cuz she probably wont like my societal views as im a socialist and working is very secondary for me (im over qualified and dont earn much, I can afford to lose my job, I aim for quality of life before high wages)
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u/MrCabrera0695 Mar 06 '25
To me it's like go there, get along so that the shift isn't totally horrible and then everyone go home. If you end up clicking with someone cool if not who cares, go to festivals if you're trying to make friends 😂
I have autism so I know that I can definitely come off as the annoying or not as social co-worker but I just make sure I get along with everybody because like I said if I come in and everyone hates me on my shift I'm going to end up hating the job and wanting to quit even if it's a field that I am comfortable or happy working in.
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u/Unlikely_Macaron_284 Mar 06 '25
Sounds a little vague keep people at their proper distance until you feel right about it
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u/this_ham_is_bad Mar 06 '25
I work from home. My dog is definitely my friend. The cat? I'm not so sure
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u/Bigstar976 Mar 07 '25
Yup. And always be nice to everyone. First because it’s the right thing to do, but also, they might be your super tone day. Happened to me many times. And especially, be nice to the janitors.
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u/BLUPNGU Mar 07 '25
Emphasis on “not EVERYONE” there are still people that can help get you through the day. Why the fuck would I want to work in solidarity? People add unpredictability which can keep things interesting. They can be ‘friends at work’ never hang outside of work but can still be friends.
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u/PoemUsual4301 22d ago
I agree with this quote. And honestly, I don’t want to be their friends. Most people at work just gossip about each other. The other day, there was a gossip about me which was completely untrue and a co-worker had to ask me to clarify it and that’s how I found out.
Nowadays, I avoid the employee break rooms however much I can. That’s the worst place to hear all kinds of gossip and drama.
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u/BlazingGlories Mar 05 '25
Hell yeah, but the pick me, self centered, extroverted girls in their 20s will have none of being ignored.
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u/Competitive_Muffin83 Mar 05 '25
I'm here to make money not friends. Get that in your play and you'll be alright
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u/thatsuperRuDeguy Mar 06 '25
Remember kids: employees, much like customers and clients, are expendable and easily replaced. Nobody at your workplace is your friend.
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u/AdvancedBlacksmith66 Mar 06 '25
This is what the people on reality shows that everyone roots against says
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u/ForgesGate Mar 06 '25
I know who my people are at work. I know who I have to be reserved around too. It's crazy that I work with this one woman almost every day and I still can't trust her🤦🏾♂️
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u/GoldGarage115 Mar 06 '25
I just read the name of this sub so this probably won't fly but truthfully, we spend most of our awake hours at work so you probably should try to enjoy it, you don't have to be friends with everyone and a lot of your work mates are probably arse holes but you don't have to be their friend to get along and hopefully even have a little fun, if you don't do that you could very well end up hating the majority of your waking hours.
Just my opinion
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u/Fine_External_578 Mar 06 '25
I’d like to include “Do some random unnecessary shit to keep your superiors happy”
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u/Fine_Bathroom4491 Mar 06 '25
I think the Germans have the right philosophy about this: There are people you work with, there are people you drink with, never should the twain meet. In Germany, everything in the workplace is kept 100% professional. No one flirts, no one befriends, everyone just does their job. They don't meet up after work unless it is necessary for work. This should be the norm worldwide.
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u/Magic1264 Mar 06 '25
I refuse.
If you work with me, you don’t have to be my friend, but I am yours. I’m going to do what I can do, while keeping my own health in check, to make your workload lighter and your day better. I don’t expect that in return, nor do I expect anything like your gratitude.
If you need to use me to claw yourself up further the capitalist hellscape, I also hope I can push you as you desire to go.
And if for some reason you need to throw me under the bus, I forgive you, and I apologize for not being someone you wanted to keep around.
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u/ManCakes89 Mar 06 '25
But corporate said we are a family? They also said that the happiness workers experience due to work family culture is greater than the happiness workers feel with higher pay. /s
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u/Powerful-Yak9327 Mar 06 '25
No lol. I am proud to work alongside some of my closest friends. But I am in a union, this mentality is fine for shitty disposable jobs or white collar nonsense, but solidarity doesn't exist in those places.
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u/Bodidiva Mar 06 '25
I very much dislike the way this person writes their ‘r’s and inappropriately capitalizes.
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u/Damien1972 Mar 06 '25
We spend a lot of time at work. I prefer to be friends with people I spend that much time with if possible. Makes work life better when you have accomplices.
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u/Torgo_hands_of_torgo Mar 06 '25
I've made some really good long term friends at work. Then again, I've never worked in a fucking office in my life.
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u/Leftylady79 Mar 06 '25
I worked with this toxic person once. I told her that I don’t need to be friends with her to work with her. She actually took me into HR because I said “I had a problem with her” because I said that. HR told her it’s true and she shouldn’t be complaining
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u/jackson12121 Mar 06 '25
And NEVER add your co-workers on your social media accounts.
Edit: until you leave.
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u/CumGuzlinGutterSluts Mar 06 '25
At my old job we painted our cars, got drunk on lunch maybe a bump or line or 2, painted more cars, got emotional yalking about our lives and problems we had, submitted our invoices, got paid, immediately went to the club, left at 2am, parted ways at 3am, saw each other 3.5 hours later at 630 and did it all over again. Best years of my life.
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u/FearlessJuan Mar 06 '25
What many people don't realize is that for many people in the US work is their only social outlet. They work long hours, they get home exhausted with barely any energy left, they go to bed (if they don't work some more at home) and rinse and repeat.
During the winter they leave their house and it's dark outside. They leave work and it's dark again.
Work is all they do. Work is their identity. So their social circle is mostly comprised of coworkers.
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u/lowerclassanalyst Mar 06 '25
generally i would agree. but it hits different when your boss tells you that, while ignoring you and saying to go ask your coworker, who plays dumb because she's reenacting mean girls in the office. and there are only 3 of you in the "team."
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u/Main-Assistant-1955 Mar 06 '25
When I was younger I learned that lesson the hard way and it hurt not Physically
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u/Vreas Mar 06 '25
More power to ya if you want to stay private.
Personally I think being friendly with coworkers makes life more enjoyable. Granted I’m in healthcare so it’s a bit easier. Trauma bonding and pretty unfiltered work environment with tons of job security.
Short of stealing jobs or intentionally ruining patient care you can do pretty much anything as long as you’re getting your job done.
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