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u/MirrorMan22102018 1d ago
I am both. I am shy and introverted yes, but the frequency with which I encountered people interrupting me whenever I tried to talk was something that would always further discourage me from talking.
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u/RhinestoneToad 1d ago
I had a childhood elementary school friend 'susie', our mothers were in the same social circle, susie's mother would openly lament that susie didn't talk to her much, she'd ask susie questions like "how was your day at school" and susie would just shrug and say "okay" and want to go play outside or in her room, and my mother would roll her eyes and complain in response that susie's mom was lucky because I never shut up and would just blab to my mother about my day at school even though she didn't ask and didn't care, and she wished she had a kid like susie instead
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u/Educational_Plum6877 1d ago
Parents don’t always understand the wheight words have on their children. Sorry to hear that your mother said that
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u/Confident_Lawyer6276 1d ago
I think it was more making a funny comment and no one would laugh then someone else would say exactly what I had just said and everyone laughs.
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u/RecommendationNo3942 1d ago
Ex-extrovert turned introvert. This hit. Hard!
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u/Duo-lava 1d ago
same. now that im almost 40 my patience is gone and if i am talking and somebody interrupts i go scorched earth. (start talking louder but dont stop, if they persist, let them say what they want, i then leave the conversation "sorry forgot what i was saying" then start talking everytime they do for the rest of the day or week)
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u/DamonOfTheSpire 1d ago
Lol I just go into question answering mode. Concise replies when asked a question and nothing else.
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u/kittylicker1989 1d ago
Yeah maybe 😆 i use to be an outgoing person when i was younger now the complete opposite now i dont want to be seen heard or spoke too
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u/ddoodoonaldduck 1d ago
i usually am very alert and observant towards other people, like i try to read their personality, gestures, behavior, and overall demeanor just for me measure how i can interact with them. with that, i also try to listen properly too no matter what topic they yap about. however, when it comes to me talking, i notice that people dont usually put the same amount of attentiveness towards what i say. like they easily get distracted or some interruption happens, and because im so alert at those minor changes, i tend to lose enthusiasm talking and hesitate to continue or just completely shut up.
so now, i usually just assign myself as the role of a listener than really speak unless i really feel that they are present and attentive, because im just wasting energy talking if no ones gonna listen anyway and they just give shallow replies
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u/EssentialPurity 1d ago
I wasn't ignored. I was punished.
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u/Marching_hammers 1d ago
The military trained me not to speak up , just follow orders, I get it. You don’t learn anything from talking either, and I’m not a teacher. The loud talkers come off as ‘know it all’ anyway, like they want others to think they know more than you.
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u/shroom519 1d ago
I get that ,I was basically a mute unless I'd be punished for not talking only to be punished for talking the moment I answered good times lol I'm still quiet and don't talk much unless I'm with my friends and even then we all have a convo that finishes we just all hangout and do stuff without saying anything unless someone else starts another convo or asks something I'm really glad it's not a deal breaker for my current gf cause it's hard to unlearn a 24 year old habit
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u/Jennifer_Pennifer 1d ago
No I'm REALLY an introvert 😅
I'm the most talkative, social, funny MFer you'll meet out and about on any give day.
People ignoring me will not stop me from talking.
🥲 Then 30 minutes to an hour of grocery shopping later I'm absolutely friggin exhausted and need to lie down for a couple hours.
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u/Wishiap 1d ago
I shorten a story into a dot point, and lately, I was hanging out with a new friend and mentioned that I cut my finger that morning. He tells me to to go on and it went like this:
Me: Oh, with a knife"
Him: And?
Me: "Oh, I was cutting cheese for my lunch."
Him: "And that is all?"
Me: "oh, it was a knife that has a tip like this (Santoku) and my finger slid against the point as I raised the knife"
Him: "ok, sorry to hear that"
Made me realise the next day that I'm not used to telling a full story as I generally only get out a sentence with my family as they cut me off immediately. Also made me realise that with him I can tell a full story instead of just a one sentence dot point.
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u/ddoodoonaldduck 1d ago
kinda relate with this. everytime people ask me, "how are you?" i tend to just say "okay" to the point that people who know me would say, "dont bother asking her how she is cause shes just gonna reply 'okay'"
well, cause everytime i try to expound more yall dont pay attention anyway.
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u/Wishiap 1d ago
I had a very weird but wonderful experience a few weeks ago and I realized it was my great grandmother's date of passing when it happened, and I wanted to share that with my family. I got out "hey, I had something happen last night", and my brother just started a brand new topic over me instantly. So they have no idea because I have not told them at all. It's now my little secret and they will never know.
It completely sucks being written off and I'm sorry that it happens to you.
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u/Duo-lava 1d ago
or they want to change the subject because caring about your problems is too much, they just wanted to appear like they care about you
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u/ddoodoonaldduck 1d ago
possibly yeah, i learn to not take it personally. sometimes, not speaking much saves me the energy
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u/Hopefulfighter17 1d ago
What’s the point in trying to talk if they aren’t gonna listen, or they just talk over you when you talk?
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u/TheHarlemHellfighter 1d ago
Being loud isn’t as much fun as it seems though. I get bored trying to make sounds all day. And, have it be sensible and worthwhile? Im not a machine…
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u/Marching_hammers 1d ago
People ignoring me, resulted me not even caring to comment, or to correct some one with good advice or a witty joke about it the topic, they are not going to listen anyway. But since I don’t speak up much, when I care to speak up, they know my thoughts have more meaning.
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u/Curious-Source-9368 1d ago
I get that but at the same time I can be mega annoying so not sure. (I don’t have issues I am just very self aware, if I met myself I would probably find me mega annoying at times.)
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u/succubus6984 1d ago
When I was younger yeah. Now if I'm speaking and someone else starts speaking. I lock eyes and gradually talk louder until they stop 😂😂
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u/chulezinho123 1d ago
Ok I WAS considering myself to be an ambivert, but now just look like um an extrovert with trauma
I'm okay with the trauma but I refuse to be an extrovert
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u/Unxcused 1d ago
I'l be mid sentence and making direct eye contact with a family member, and they'll start talking about something completely unrelated with someone else in the room. These are the same people who taught me it's rude to interrupt people. I've brought it up multiple times and it still happens. I'm not wasting my ideas or my breath on them anymore
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u/YesterdayAlone2553 1d ago
My best friends were always ones that I'd basically whisper to so they could speak up in class. I didn't always whisper or mutter the right answers, but they'd at least it was always on topic and tried to contribute to the lesson. More important than that, they'd at least get a response back.
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u/VibrantGypsyDildo 1d ago
It wasn't ignored, I was attacked for my opinion.
Now I pay taxes in a country that is more aligned with my worldview (still not ideal).
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u/MarvelNerdess 1d ago
I'm only part introvert. I figured out late that I was just surrounded by people and personalities i didn't like, so I preferred to be alone
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u/Mattie_Mattus_Rose 1d ago
Only very few people actually listen to me, but most either ignore or interrupt.
I have an annoying colleague who doesn't listen to me at all and interrupts. Then, when I go quiet because there is no point in talking with the guy, he asks me what's wrong 🙄
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u/EssayMagus introvert and misanthrope 1d ago
My personal library, my videogames library and my lack of need of social interaction tells me that I'm an introvert.
I never was one to talk much.
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u/Captain_Parsley 1d ago
No I'm really an introvert and it's not a bad thing to be, in our shell it's quite cosy and nice away from all the fuss.
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u/OneCauliflower5243 23h ago
I think the difference is when I'm engaged I generally want the engagement to immediately stop. I cringe at all forms of small talk. I'd rather be a ghost visible to only my family most of the time. For no other reason than I desire peace and quiet more than anything.
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u/Young_Bu11 15h ago
I'm really just an introvert, I avoid people because they want me to talk, and that's exhausting and usually pointless. That said, I'm sure I have been ignored plenty of times, who hasn't. How formative have those times been to the current state of my psyche? Idk. Why would those two things be mutually exclusive? That's not a logical distinction.
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u/Hearsya 14h ago
No. Now, it depends on who I'm talking to, but people listen to me when I talk...at work, anything outside of work, anything I am genuinely interested, not so much it seems unless I'm around very specific people. And I'm okay with that. I am very much an introvert, I don't enjoy a lot of attention and interaction. True Introvert here
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u/jackal5lay3r 8h ago
both and i still get ignored by friends who choose to purposefully zone out instead of listening to what i have to say so honestly half the time i cant be arsed to repeat myself cos of that
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u/WentzToWawa 1d ago
Harry Potter puppet pals might be the first viral video I ever watched on YouTube
The video for anyone curious https://youtu.be/Tx1XIm6q4r4?si=cy8i6vBjTZepqxAS
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u/Disastrous_Tell_3347 ~ introvert ~ 1d ago
The only memories that I can remember from school is me being ignored, talked over, and interrupted