r/irlADHD • u/YoungUrineTheGreat • 13d ago
I will fixate on something about work all weekend then not take care of it when Im actually back at work. What part of adhd is this?
For example: I…..can panic about anything. Its almost a gift. One example is i will leave work on Saturday, and spend all night and the next day worried about if i left the fridge at work, what happens if it breaks, im going to be in trouble or at least treated like a moron. Then I wake up Monday, get to work, and not even check the fridge.
This weekends menu of panic was about survey scores, if this person will bomb my scores, if i spelled a guys name wrong on the paperwork. I got to work, SAW THE GUY, and i intentionally never mentioned anything. Figured if there was a problem id hear about it and i havent heard anything.
Its exhausting, and life cant be that full of things to worry about but even worse when you spend your weekend worrying about things only to find out it was always fine or never check
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u/starvinchevy 13d ago
We think we have to care about all things at one time and when we think about them, some sort of mental ‘to-do’ list thinks we’ve already done them. So when the actual task comes around, it’s overwhelming. Because we already thought about doing it! Shouldn’t that be enough??
I know that if someone spelled my name wrong, I wouldn’t be offended. So if im hyperfixating on something that might have gone wrong, I try to put myself in the shoes of the people I think I’m affecting. 9 times out of 10, they don’t even notice the ‘issue’ that I think I’ve created.
And if someone is offended by you spelling their name wrong, I mean….that sounds like their problem lol
This too shall pass. I totally understand your situation, and I wish I could give you a hug and tell you in person that the things we hyperfixate on don’t always deserve our attention.
You’re brave, strong, and creative, and you are seen! You have a place in this world and you can always come here, to your people, to get love and support. Stay strong love!