r/love • u/superchargers007 • 1d ago

question Need some REAL help figuring out me 49M and my “friend” 41F and if there is anything there?

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u/DameioNaruto 1d ago

Bruh 49 and you asking the internet? If you don't get yo azz out there and make the effort of calling so you can KNOW what's up.

I get that you may not want to call because of her circumstances, but if that's the case, send a text to initiate a conversation and then get the ok to call.

You are 49 and have someone that may fancy you enough to talk to you often. Be honest and open.

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u/grandmofftalkin 1d ago

I dunno, there's not enough information on the depth of your friendship other than calls and photos. Is there any intimacy there? Do you both talk about things you're hesitant to share with others?

The asking for more photos might be a bit gross. I'd say slow your roll, listen and observe her vibe and body language in person. Also, if you're into her call her, be proactive.

Ultimately having just crossed 50 I've learned to listen to my instincts. I'm happily married but I can easily see unsaid things women (coworkers, strangers at parties, etc.) do to express interest. I think you probably know the answer too but you're not listening to those instincts

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u/OTGASTD 1d ago

Sounds like you need to put your big boy pants on and ask her. Have a conversation as two grown adults. Ask her what, if anything, she wants from this relationship. Tell her what you want. Maybe you’re on the same page, maybe you’re not, but you won’t know if you don’t have the conversation.