r/mildlyinfuriating Dec 11 '24

Having to *pay* for donating your child's organs.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

My dad died of a heart attack. There was an extra $3k charge on his hospital bill because he was brought to the ER "after hours". I now tell people to try to die between 8am-5pm.

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u/Amonamission Dec 11 '24

I think hospitals take a “throw everything against the wall and see what sticks” approach because insurance companies are stingy, but that’s awful.

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u/EmperorMrKitty Dec 11 '24

It’s a little of both that and their board members frequently being the same caliber of evil as health insurance companies, but they’ll sometimes reduce the bill when insurance doesn’t cover things if you ask.

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u/WolverineAdvanced119 Dec 11 '24 edited Dec 11 '24

This. My MIL didn't have insurance or had terrible insurance when my fiance was younger, had 8 kids... she'd call the hospital billing department and say, "I simply can't pay this," and keep saying it until eventually they reduced the bills. A lot of those crazy charges went away. It wasn't cheap, but it was nowhere near the initial bill.

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*Copying and pasting this from a comment I made in response to someone asking why she had eight kids:

Well the first four she thought she could afford. And then it turned out that her sexually and physically abusive, lying piece of shit husband had been lying about being employed. And had squandered every last penny of the the sizeable inheritance he got from his father.

I'm not sure about the fifth, but the last three we know for a fact were rape babies. My fiance witnessed this happening multiple times. His father would hide or destroy her birth control, and he told her if she got an IUD he would rip it out of her body. If you knew some the things he did do to her and the kids, you'd know this wasn't an empty threat. I'm sure she could have found a way to prevent pregnancies but she was completely mentally broken at that point.

Then he skipped town when the last was a few months old. I'm not sure what happened with child support or anything, my fiance got a check for a grand or so when he turned 18 from the govt which I guess was some part of it that was supposed to have been paid when he was younger?*

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u/RandyK44 Dec 11 '24

It disappeared to you but that dumb charge with a made up cost was then shown to the government for a tax break, as though that money ever existed or was ever lost.

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u/deep_fuckin_ripoff Dec 11 '24

That’s not how tax breaks work. That dumb charge is both revenue and a bad debt write off so it nets to zero.

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u/RandyK44 Dec 11 '24

Looking into it more, it looks like it is harder now to write-off all the made up numbers as bad debt to count towards non-profit status, but it is still done. This aspect wouldn’t matter as much if the pricing was consistent or based in reality, then it would be much clearer when a hospital is operating as a nonprofit or just putting the pressure on the unemployed or people filing bankruptcy with inflated bills.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24

And what they do with this money they self report, I’m sure.

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u/CaptainFeather Dec 11 '24

I mean fuck insurance and hospitals but what the actual fuck is she doing having eight kids she can't afford?

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u/Ask_bout_PaterNoster Dec 11 '24

Not to be too real but the idea that women have a choice in the matter is a relatively newfangled idea to a lot of people, and not even true anymore in many states

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u/CaptainFeather Dec 11 '24

Ya know what? Great point. Didn't think about that their MIL is most likely much older. Very shitty.

I'll rephrase - what the actual fuck was the FIL thinking having 8 kids he couldn't afford??

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24 edited Dec 11 '24

He was thinking that he wanted to pound his wife and make her deal with the reprecussions/parenting, I would assume.

Although with 8 kids, he might have just been thinking about something Catholic.

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u/throwaway9035768_1 Dec 11 '24

Catholic or a farming family, need lots of kids to help with all the shit that you need to do to keep a farmstead running

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u/GiveMeBackMySoup Dec 11 '24

I spent a year helping out families that had both in their background. It's multiplicative in effect because one had 16 kids and it's was only a few bigger than some of the others. I think minus one family having 3 the next lowest was eight and that family was headed by a doctor.

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u/wh1skey1carus Dec 11 '24

He was probably thinking about getting his dick wet.

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u/K1NGMOJO Dec 11 '24

That's my first thought too lol

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u/magnetswithweedinem Dec 11 '24

i love the double standards of extreme charitibility when a woman could have made bad choices, but if it's the fathers fault, there's zero. good job reddit, never change.

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u/wh1skey1carus Dec 11 '24

I am a dude. I also like getting my dick wet. I am making no other estimations of the FIL in this example other than he probably liked sex.

There is no smoking gun here. You didn't catch me in a web of misandry or anything. Either laugh at the statement or don't. Upvote it or downvote it. Whatever. But beyond that, there isn't anything else for you to find here.

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u/ajappat Dec 11 '24

He propably was thinking about fuck.

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u/clutzycook Dec 11 '24

Simple. He wasn't. Or rather, he was thinking with the wrong head.

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u/regoapps 5-0 Radio Police Scanner Dec 11 '24

It's probably due to millennia of societal thinking that having children is important for the future of their kind due to the ease of death and need for bodies for war/manual labor. It's what shaped many national/cultural/traditional/religious beliefs.

Now that people live longer and infants don't die as often, it's no longer necessary to keep this belief. But it still remains in society, because it's not easy for many people to think outside of their national/cultural/traditional/religious beliefs.

Also some groups of people want extra voters and workers to replenish their resources while they retire, so they continue to push these beliefs to increase their population.

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u/drunken_desperado Dec 11 '24

Wish I had an award for how tactfully you said this absolute Truth. Kudos!

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u/vile_lullaby Dec 11 '24

You can read old stories about women who swallowed glass and other terrible terrible things because they didn't want to be pregnant again. It's sad we are returning to that world.

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u/fallior Dec 11 '24

Most of the time it's actually completely mutual, they both want quite a few kids.

Yeah sometimes it's just the guy that does but wants her to care for them, but a lot of the time I see the woman also wanting a lot of kids

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u/WeeBo2804 Dec 11 '24

Or conditioned to believe that’s their only path in life.

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u/Gem420 Dec 11 '24

My parents wanted a lot, had 5.

It used to be much more common to see larger families. It wasn’t even weird or abnormal.

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u/654456 Dec 11 '24

because 2/3rds died

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u/Gem420 Dec 11 '24

All of my siblings are alive. Most American children survive birth in the modern era. This isn’t 1856.

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u/CopperAndLead Dec 11 '24

Yes, especially among older generations. Not that long ago, the infant mortality rate was ridiculously high, so having a big family was a way to hedge bets against your kids all dying. And, for farming families, it was a way to get cheap labor.

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u/Status_History_874 Dec 11 '24

Most of what time? What women are you seeing?

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u/Necessary-Charity-93 Dec 11 '24

The thing is, though, a lot of women (a while back at least) were raised to want kids and be mothers. Not often being introduced to the idea of something beyond just being a caretaker.

Things change, of course, but we can still see this happening even today.

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u/SethMatrix Dec 11 '24

… just don’t spread your legs? Whaaaaat

I’m not saying it’s the solution that should be available, but if you don’t want children there is certainly a way to prevent it.

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u/Ask_bout_PaterNoster Dec 11 '24

You may be overestimating the choice many women, especially in older generations and in rural areas, actually had/have in the matter. If a 16 year is expected to marry and start having kids, it’s not likely she’s going to have a whole lot of options to do anything else, and she’d frequently be ostracized and ridiculed for trying to

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u/sunshinenorcas Dec 11 '24

just don't spread your legs? Whaaaaat

Because every marriage has consent and respect for boundaries.

Marital rape didn't become illegal until 1993

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u/trite_panda Dec 11 '24

95% of men are stronger than 90% of women their own age, across all ages. If I cared to rape my wife, she wouldn’t be able to stop me.

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u/Kenelor Dec 11 '24

They only had one hobby back then, and you can guess what it was from the outcome.

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u/DiceMadeOfCheese Dec 11 '24

When my grandpa announced his wife's fourth pregnancy his friend asked him if he'd considered moving the TV into the bedroom

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u/WolverineAdvanced119 Dec 11 '24

Well the first four she thought she could afford. And then it turned out that her sexually and physically abusive, lying piece of shit husband had been lying about being employed. And had squandered every last penny of the the sizeable inheritance he got from his father.

I'm not sure about the fourth, but the last three we know for a fact were rape babies. My fiance witnessed this happening multiple times. His father would hide or destroy her birth control, and he told her if she got an IUD he would rip it out of her body. If you knew some the things he did do to her and the kids, you'd know this wasn't an empty threat. I'm sure she could have found a way to prevent pregnancies but she was completely mentally broken at that point.

Then he skipped town when the last was a few months old. I'm not sure what happened with child support or anything, my fiance got a check for a grand or so when he turned 18 from the govt which I guess was some part of it that was supposed to have been paid when he was younger?

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u/Empty_Cheesecake_979 Dec 11 '24

Whether it be the choice of the father or the mother, why are you thinking you have a say in the choices they make? Isn't it their right to do with their bodies as they deem fit?

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u/Scootergirl1961 Dec 11 '24

It's their right to make others pay for "their rights" ?

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u/bankguy67 Dec 11 '24

Eight dudes probably

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u/Athenae_25 Dec 11 '24

It's a tax on people who don't have the time or intelligence or wherewithal to call the hospital and yell at them. Like most of our health care system.

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u/JunkSack Dec 11 '24

It’s just like cable/internet. If dedicate an hour or two one day a year to call Xfinity and complain about my bill, threaten to not renew etc then they throw discounts at me and significantly reduce my monthly bill. Why does our healthcare system run like fucking Xfinity?!

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24

Itemized bill every single time.

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u/Feeling_Vegetable_84 Dec 11 '24

My mom worked in the patient accounts department of a major hospital for 35 years and she always told me this method sounds bananas but it really does work

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24 edited Jan 14 '25

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u/fukkdisshitt Dec 11 '24

My wife developed a good fake cry when dealing with medical bills. It works too get them lowered lol

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u/Scootergirl1961 Dec 11 '24

An they wonder why that C.E.O. was killed.

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u/AdImmediate9569 Dec 11 '24

In fact they’re often the same people. Theres no rule that says you can’t own a hospital inc and an insurance company. There is plenty of overlap. Makes sense if you don’t care about people and no ones watching anyway.

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u/mlorusso4 Dec 11 '24

Ok but there’s still an element of “ask for a million dollars so they’ll settle for $1000”. People will spend all their effort negotiating down the egregious charges so they don’t bother with the small up-charges you get nickel and dimed for

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u/the_starship Dec 11 '24

Our Healthcare system is plagued with three way battle between Health Insurance, Drug Companies and Healthcare Providers. We're just stuck in the middle and used as leverage. That's why you need to tear it all down and start from scratch.

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u/Winter_Wolf_3545 Dec 11 '24

This is true. I broke my foot while between insurances and the bill was somewhere in the $1000s (Maybe $3000?). I can’t exactly remember but they charged even another bill just for the Orthopedist to show up and say “ Yes it’s broken.” Anyways, I called the hospital and said I had no insurance and they lowered the bill by so much. The main hospital bill dropping to the hundreds. I remember being so surprised by that. I then went to a podiatrist who took care of my foot without insurance and it wasn’t that expensive. And they did Xray’s and casting in the office. Sometimes it’s really better to have no insurance in certain circumstances. Doctors used to offer Pro Bono services and we may have to go back to this system for non-complex medical issues.

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u/bert1432 Dec 11 '24

Higher ups never see how their lower workers operate.. they all should work in the lower areas to see how it works

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u/adknatty Dec 11 '24

When we had kids born in hospital It was clear when checking out my high deductible insurance wasnt going to cover the initial X thousand. Front desk said the hospital would bill us later for that when we checked out, never sent the bill…

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u/cokeknows Dec 11 '24

Healthcare in a country without social health sounds fucking terrifying. All that stress and worry.

I go to the hospital. Give my name and address, get patched up and never speak to anyone about payments or insurance coverage or anything. Fuck that i just survived something im not a fucking car crash to be negotiated on repair costs.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24

I was just telling this story elsewhere. But I got accidentally pregnant at age 37 after a lifetime of infertility. My boyfriend and I had only been dating 5 months. We decided to get married because there were potential health issues and they wanted to do a lot of tests and scans, and the insurance I had didn't cover any maternity issues. Yes, that is correct, we were in a position where marrying a person we'd known for less than 6 months was the less risky course than an unknown amount of medical debit.

(It's now 14 years later, we have a healthy teenager and are very happy together, so the gamble did pay off in our case)

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u/Unusual-Thing-7149 Dec 11 '24

My wife's a dentist but never my as those opportunities. Nearly everything has to be pre-authorized.

Before Medicaid administration in our state was privatized she could work on patients and provide necessary work without pre-authorization if she was willing to risk it not being approved. Obviously she had all the X-rays and pictures to show what she did was required. Almost never had the work or her diagnosis questioned

Once it was administered by a corporation she could no longer work the same way. She could only do a deep cleaning one one quadrant at a time and it had to be pre-authorized. Both the insurance company and her know that the patient will rarely return for the other three quadrants to be cleaned. It's a win for the insurance company but not the patient. All her work has to be submitted in advance and she has to fight for a lot of necessary work.

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u/Disastrous-Vanilla-6 Dec 11 '24

That’s terrible. I’m thankful to be Canadian.

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u/More-Acadia2355 Dec 11 '24

...where you arrive at the hospital at 8am, and are treated at 8am ...the next day.

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u/Disastrous-Vanilla-6 Dec 11 '24

Not true. But even if it takes 5 hours or longer at times, it better than getting a bill for thousands of dollars or being stuck fighting an insurance company.

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u/Business_Leather_123 Dec 11 '24

You act like we (USA) don't sit in our own hospitals for hours on end. And you get to walk out with a hefty bill as well.

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u/STONED__APES Dec 11 '24

Actually, the opposite. They work together to inflate prices.

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u/Timely-Salt1928 Dec 11 '24

They have tablets now at hospitals for filling out paperwork that has a built in credit card swipe on the tablet. It was the most distopian thing I've seen.

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u/OhHeyItsOuro Dec 11 '24

This is basically how it works. The hospital sends the insurance company a wishlist and then the insurance company says "fuck that" and sends them a list of what they'll actually pay for.

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u/Global_Permission749 Dec 11 '24

because insurance companies are stingy

Well and also because hospitals are greedy and know that insurance will pay out a heck of a lot more than someone who has to pay straight out of pocket. It's a very fucked up system of care providers trying to maximize profits by charging for everything they can, and insurance providers trying to maximize profits by denying everything they can.

We all fucking lose.

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u/Turdsanwitch Dec 11 '24

My old boss had a heart attack while in the states, the hospital billed his travel insurer just under 400k, his insurer negotiated the bill down to about 130k

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24

I used to work for a doctor's office and they basically told me this exactly. They have to pad the claim so they actually get paid what they think they are owed.

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u/benskieast Dec 11 '24

I think a lot of American businesses especially in medicine are just trying to test the limits of legal ways to bill people without consent. Be it random price increases in medicine, hidden fees, or just errors to see if you notice.

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u/Wedoitforthenut Dec 11 '24

Which is how UHC justifies denying 1:3 claims.

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u/EpicHuggles Dec 11 '24

If you ask anyone who works at a hospital they will say the insurance companies REFUSE to pay full price for ANYTHING, regardless of what it is. So they HAVE to charge over-inflated prices just to negotiate down to what they were hoping to get in the first place.

If you ask insurance companies they will say that hospitals give patients a ton of stuff they don't REALLY need to try and make extra money so they HAVE to refuse to cover whatever they think they can get away, while also refusing to pay the hospitals asking prices with to avoid getting over charged.

It's a battle of 2 greedy ignorant clowns trying to get as much money as they can.

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u/MundaneAnteater5271 Dec 11 '24

Well, it helps that the hospitals can write off whatever the insurance companies wont pay as a loss...Its a nice tax evasion scheme (at least for the +1/6th owned by corps that pays taxes)

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u/PriorWriter3041 Dec 11 '24

It's mostly an AI now that tries to write the report in a way to make it as costly as possible, stretching the truth as far as it goes.

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u/somethingrandom261 Dec 11 '24

Partly that, partly the fact that service was rendered. Not enough to save (if that was even possible in the situation) but they did do things, they did use hospital resources, they are the focus of medical professionals time. There’s a good chance they have to just eat that, but it’s not the default position

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u/danmathew Dec 11 '24

When my son was born the hospital (HCA) billed my insurance $30,000 for a 1 day stay in the hospital. This amount did not include any of the services that were delivered. 

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u/Loose-Pitch5884 Dec 11 '24

Hospitals are also now being bought up by large national corporations. They may retain the same name and otherwise downplay the relationship but they are being corporatized and used as profit maximizing investments for their owners.

The vultures are circling and we’re either the carrion or soon to be

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u/Life_Faithlessness90 Dec 11 '24

That's and only insurance companies can negotiate with the hospital that chooses to not negotiate with the patients. Its starts and ends with the "administration-ization" it went through, replacing healthcare leaders with healthcare care faculty. Just like chaos the college and university systems did when the professors lost control of the curriculum. One day they woke up and started chasing ever-growing profit margins.

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u/the_man2012 Dec 11 '24

Yes, I just mentioned this. Hospitals will just raise prices for no reason. Insurance companies aren't incentivized to push back on arbitrarily inflated costs, because it results in higher premiums for the patient thus resulting in higher gross income.

Medical facilities and pharmaceutical companies share some of the blame on the current state of healthcare.

You can't go to 2 hospitals who will both perform a procedure the same or have the same costs. Some will even be backwards giving less care, but charging more.

There's not really a standard in medical procedures. All they really care about are their mortality rates. My grandpa got hip surgery after already being on his last leg of life, the doctors just kept pumping full of drugs and wanting to keep him connected to machines against his wishes, because if he died shortly after the surgery that would look bad for the hospital. They pushed my dad and aunt to allow him to keep receiving care to keep him alive. They started to pull back on that I think after the "bad look" had passed.

So they kept a good outcome rate and got richer doing it. My grandpa wasn't even lucid for most of that time.

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u/Magic_Brown_Man Dec 11 '24

little bit of this and a little bit of that. Medicare uses a prospective payment system based on what the average cost of a patient of a certain caliber should cost (and if Medicare does it then the insurance industry follows). If the hospital comes under that amount the hospital profits and if the hospital goes above that then that's a loss on the books for that patient. This is meant as a way to encourage the hospital to make "efficient use of resources". This also means that every service the hospital provides has to be billed for or they lose money. In this case keeping the person alive for organs costs extra resources (cause not only do you have to keep the organs preserved your limited on the drugs you can use so no to taint the organs).

So, the hospital includes a line item for the service under every patient because if you don't bill one patient then you can't bill any patient.

This is why if you don't have insurance you need to ask for a line-item bill cause in general no one is going to take the time and resources to do that unless it is requested because it is wasted effort in the normal order of business.

This is why you also bill everything then you can reduce the bill once it becomes bad debt, or you can apply assistance as people qualify but not billing isn't an option.

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u/DownUnderPumpkin Dec 11 '24

hospital vs insurance and the general public suffer.

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u/TwoBionicknees Dec 11 '24

the people who own hospitals and hte people who own insurance companies are often the same people. IE billionaires or investment groups own controlling shares in both.

Hospitals say "we have to charge more because they never pay us", insurance companies say "we have to deny more because they over charge", and both play the blame game while both raise prices and everyone loses.

In reality hospitals would sue insurance companies, companies would pay up and be fined for not paying and continue to pay on time without denying shit unnecessarily.... IF both parties weren't playing the same game to help each other out.

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u/amazinghl Dec 11 '24

Luke 14:5 Then Jesus asked them, “If one of you has a child or an ox that falls into a well on the Sabbath day, will you not immediately pull it out?”

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u/Lostinthestarscape Dec 11 '24

Look Jesus, Sabbath or not, pulling it out in front of a child was terrible advice for catholic priests AND I don't see how it saves them from the well either.

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u/tpeterr Dec 11 '24

Reluctant upvote for your highly intellectual critique of poor bible translations.

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u/UncleTouchyCopaFeel Dec 11 '24

Gotta have something to climb on as you get out of the well.

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u/R_V_Z Dec 11 '24

How big are these wells that an ox is in danger of falling in?

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u/threevi Dec 11 '24

Everything was much bigger in Biblical times, especially needles, except for camels, which were really tiny back then. Or so conservative Christians tell me, anyway.

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u/BoxBird Dec 11 '24

Could be a tiny ox

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '24

They're more of an Indian thing, but look up step wells. It's just a giant pit, not the Lassie-type well you are probably imagining in your head. If the water table is high, or you could pump it up into a reservoir I can see it happening.

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u/Racingtothebottom_00 Dec 11 '24

The replies to this comment are why I return to Reddit.

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u/MilfagardVonBangin Dec 11 '24

That was about ‘work’ on a sabbath, not a guy moaning that he’s busy turning bread into manflesh all morning.

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u/Mrwhale33 Dec 11 '24

You misunderstood the argument. The verse supports that the priest should go do the rites on a Sunday.

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u/MilfagardVonBangin Dec 11 '24

No u.

I understand the argument but the quote is out of context. The priest wasn’t arguing pre-rabbinic Jewish theology, he was saying he was too busy on Sunday. The Pharisees in Luke were watching him because he was about to ‘work’ on the sabbath, (ie healing a disabled man). 

Taking random quotes out of the bible without context and claiming they mean something else is a common but vulgar thing to do to if you’re a Christian.

The quote should reflect the point OP was making: that whether you’re busy (or closed as in the case of the ER), people still die (or have medical emergencies).

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u/Potato_Golf Dec 11 '24

Oh my God I cannot believe someone used a quote that is only tangentially related rather than completely applicable. What is reddit even coming to these days, don't people know their servers are limited and to watch how much digital ink they carelessly spill?

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u/MilfagardVonBangin Dec 11 '24

Well, I guess who doesn’t like fuzzy religious shit taken out of context? It’s the American way. 

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

Ugh, after my mom died, my aunt organized her funeral at her (aunt's) church. The lady we were working with was acting like SUCH a bitch about it, complaining that the priest was super busy and travelling soon. She also very rudely told us she wouldn't be able to "squeeze [me] in" to read a poem during the service. I fully regret not going off at her, but I suppose that's better than regretting going off at other people.

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u/PsychologicalNews573 Dec 11 '24

Let me guess, she donated a lot to the church (tithes, more monetary donations, baked goods, volunteer) but now that she died, their $$ from her dried up so why should they come to her? She won't be around to help them anymore.

Sorry for your loss.

I'm not atheist, but I'm anti clergy, sometimes anti church.

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u/zerbey Dec 11 '24

My Grandma died a few years ago over Christmas. When I got back to work my manager was mad at me for calling out over the Christmas period. I told him why, explained that I'd contacted both managers covering the Christmas shifts who okayed it, and he flippantly said I should have planned things better. He was a real asshole.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

I was in high school at the time and didn't exactly want to advertise that it happened at school. They had pulled me out of classes to try and push me into a support group when my parents divorced, and I didn't want a repeat of that. He lived in a different state at the time, and my mom and I had to go clear out his apartment, etc.

The week before we left, I told all of my teachers that I would be out the following week due to a family emergency in CA. All but one teacher was okay with it. The one who wasn't starting laying into me about how irresponsible it was for my parents to take me out of school for a vacation in the middle of a semester. She continued and said she wouldn't be giving me any notes or access to the slides and I would have to figure it out with a classmate, because she wasn't going to "reward" this. I waited until she finished, looked her dead in the eye and said, "My dad died. We have to go clear out his apartment before the complex chucks it all." She looked like a fish with the way she opened and closed her mouth after that one.

Had to deal with the damn counselors trying to shove me into a support group again, but damn, that felt nice.

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u/-Tofu-Queen- Dec 11 '24

I'm sorry for your loss but I'm proud of you for making her eat those words. 💖 Did she give you access to the class notes after that?

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

Sure did! She actually printed the slides out and gave them to me. After the major test we had on the material, she gave us a chance to correct any wrong answers with our notes. She saw that I had the slide print outs on my desk for this and said nothing, lol.

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u/-Tofu-Queen- Dec 11 '24

I love how this story turned out!!!

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u/Litarider Dec 11 '24

My uncle died in a car accident in March in Arizona. I live in a northeast state. I flew to Arizona, but was not able to get a flight back for a couple days after the funeral. Meanwhile, a coworker was on a road trip with some friends. Their car broke down and everyone at work treated it like a big joke and were telling him to take as long as he needed. I was subjected to chastisement and incrimination that I had lied about being able to get a flight back after the funeral. It was even suggested that my uncle never died. I was out a total of five working days.

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u/Ripple22 Dec 11 '24

Yeah, next time it would be more convenient if they happened to pass away not during holidays, how dare you

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u/SuppaBunE Dec 11 '24

Wtf is after URS in ER.

( I do know what it means I'm a doctor)

Why the fuck does USA can pull shit like that and emergency is an emergency.

Unless you know people going. To ER for a cold or a pain that has months of evolution but they'd decide to go to ER at 3 am because there's lees people .

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u/youngsteve714 Dec 11 '24

My dad once went to the ER at Kenedy hospital nj around 1 am with a broken leg from a hocky accident. He waited in the waiting room till 9 am because they said ER was closed and they have no doctors till morning. So apparently some ERs claim to have a closing time and will even not staff doctors at these times.

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u/lawn-mumps Dec 11 '24

I wonder if that’s what happened to me. Broke my leg on a Friday afternoon and didn’t receive surgery til 11am the next day.

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u/chrispar Dec 11 '24

They might have needed to wait for swelling to go down. I broke mine and they needed to wait about 13 hours to get a clear picture so they could see how bad the damage was.

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u/DegenerateCrocodile Dec 11 '24

Tell them you’ll pay the bill when your dad comes home alive.

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u/cjsv7657 Dec 11 '24

Unless he was a dependent you can tell the hospital to pound sand. What is collections going to do? Get a judgement against a dead man?

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u/youmightbecorrect Dec 11 '24

This is where I think taxes should be reformed. The only tax should be the death tax. Charging all these taxes every year, etc etc is compounding and inductive to wealth accumulation. There would be a greater net benefit for both society and individuals if taxes were paid post mortem. The hospital bill then would be a tax benefit.

There you go I fixed your stupid broken system.

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u/Status_History_874 Dec 11 '24

I've never heard this and was going to say it sounds good, but wouldn't people end up giving away all their money before they die?

Or whatever other loopholes I'm sure exist? Idk. I guess a better question is, does that.type of system already exist?

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u/youmightbecorrect Dec 11 '24

Structure it where inheritance is capped, philanthropy is a viable option and the rest goes to the state.

Dies with +$1billion Max $5mil inheritance to individual and $100mil to family,

The remaining goes to the state with options for up to 50% going to philanthropy.

We can track money - we know where the wealth is, the Panama papers, etc - it's just a matter of enforcement so write the rules of the game so such that isn't a viable option.

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u/leostotch Dec 11 '24

No part of that makes any sense

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u/Gamebird8 Dec 11 '24

A friendly reminder that you should never pay anything charged against a dead relative. That's for their estate and not you

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

Yes! I was 17 at the time, so my mom was handling all that. Not sure if we actually paid it, but it was for sure on the bill.

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u/52BeesInACoat Dec 11 '24

"anesthesia under emergent circumstances" on mine.

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u/Bananas_are_theworst Dec 11 '24

Oh god, I’m so sorry for laughing but your last sentence made me gasp and chuckle. I am sorry for your loss though, OP. I hope you are healing and don’t get any more outrageous bills.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

Haha, no worries! That's why I put it there! Dark humor is a heavy coping mechanism for me. And thank you! It's been nearly 20 years, and medical billing has only gotten more ridiculous, I feel.

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u/MightyOleAmerika Dec 11 '24

Hospitals are other culprit.

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u/sbroll Dec 11 '24

that is fuckin disgusting. What insurance company did this?

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

It was the hospital itself, but my dad also had some weird insurance company that I don't remember the name of at the time.

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u/WeirdIndividualGuy Dec 11 '24

I now tell people to try to die between 8am-5pm.

Assuming they charged your dad, at least there's comfort in knowing you don't have to pay that $3k.

inb4 someone tries to correct, no, in the US, when you die, your debts die with you if you are the only debtor for said debt. I.E. if you co-sign with someone and that someone dies, you're still on the hook as a cosigner, but in terms of healthcare where almost nothing is cosigned, the person who received that care is the only person on the hook for that debt. When they die, that healthcare debt dies with them.

It's a common scam for debt collectors to go after surviving family for medical debt of those who died. You do not owe them anything. The best they can do is go after the estate of the deceased.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

My mom handled it all at the time because I was 17, but this knowledge did come in handy after mom died years later. A few of her creditors tried to bully me into giving them money, but I kept telling them to get a Ouija board if they wanted to bug mom about her bills, lol.

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u/moldyjellybean Dec 11 '24

Luigi would like to know which hospital when he gets out so he can have a talk

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u/crackedtooth163 Dec 11 '24

What the actual fuck?

I would not have been able to keep my calm in the face of that.

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u/h0neanias Dec 11 '24

As a European, this is utterly shocking. Like, I've read some horror stories, but this is just... pure evil. And all these stories are coming out now that make me wonder why shoot-outs and murders aren't more common in the U.S. -- and also why people aren't far more radicalized.

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u/Suspect4pe Dec 11 '24

They staff the ER at all times anyway. It’s not like they’re playing for on call. Maybe they had to call in a doctor but then you’d be paying the doctor.

ER staff does get shift differential usually but that’s like a dollar or two and hour at most in cases that I’m aware of.

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u/negativecatss Dec 11 '24

this is some evil shit. my grandmother passed in the middle of the night, like 4 am or something. she lived in a nursing home. she could not be moved and retrieved by the funeral home until officially pronounced dead by their designated doctor. you know when the doctor clocked in?

7 am. they made us sit there for hours and wait because the doctor refused to come any earlier even though he was called and aware.

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u/UsernameOfAUser Dec 11 '24

Let's hope assassin bae becomes a cult figure (with practicing followers) until things change. 

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u/AniTaneen Dec 11 '24

My condolences. I worked hospice care, which for many of my patients was the first consistent home care they’ve ever had.

I was always asked why would they now be getting all this attention, and my response is that dying at home is cheaper. The government will help cover it. But

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u/xanderblaze123 Dec 11 '24

Bro I’m not from the states, but that’s actually crazy. I don’t know how the heck you guys tolerate that shit.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

I try not to. Best I can do is vote for candidates that share my opinion, but the masses keep wanting stuff like this to happen. :(

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u/renojacksonchesthair Dec 11 '24

Americans are trained from birth to believe everything is great and to ignore the non patriotic claiming otherwise so basically Americans experience something akin to what North Koreans go through.

Also a lot of these people are super fucking dumb or evil so they will gladly accept abuse if it means the other sports team (yes our politics that affect our lives is like sports here) suffers.

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u/Happy_Brilliant7827 Dec 11 '24

Just remember, the family is not responsible for the deseased's medical bills.

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u/Scared_Ad2563 Dec 11 '24

I was 17 at the time, so I'm not sure if we actually did pay it, my mom was handling all that. But good to mention for others who don't know!

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u/cactus_flower702 Dec 11 '24

My dad recently received an organ donation. First thank you and your father for your amazing gift. You saved lives. I’m disgusted you had to pay extra. Recipients can’t pay anything for organs but if someone has to pay it should be split by the recipient families if nothing else as a Thank you for the sacrifice.

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u/Lington Dec 11 '24

Um... ERs don't have hours... Wtf

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u/Unhappy_Poetry_8756 Dec 11 '24

Just don’t pay. It’s not your bill, it’s his. They’re more than welcome to come after him for it.

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u/Renovatio_ Dec 11 '24

My ambulance company charges "night shift surcharge" for any call between 10pn and 5am.

No employee gets paid a night shift differential

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u/FluxionFluff Dec 11 '24

Yikes. 😱 😬

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u/Greedyfox7 Dec 11 '24

Sorry for your loss. That’s ridiculous and cruel

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u/EMdoc89 Dec 11 '24

Funny. I don’t get paid more on my “after hours” shifts. Fucking greedy execs…

I’m sorry for your loss.