r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Real-Elephant-6424 • 18h ago
Husband insisted on buying hat he didn’t need and it ended up not fitting
We went to the World of Coke yesterday to with some out of town family. As we went through the gift shop on the way out, my husband started shopping and was looking at the hats. He already has so many hats that he doesn’t wear so I said do you really need another hat? He said yes and proceeded to pick one out that he liked and as a cherry on top, also bought a t-shirt. I’m just annoyed because we don’t even drink coke nor did we really enjoy the coke museum (it’s fine but not that exciting), so why would he bother buying overpriced souvenirs there? (The hat was $40 and the shirt was $30). We leave the shop and are walking back to the car and he decides to try the hat on and it’s way too big — the rim made his ears stick out and were all laughing and teasing and I’m like well let’s just pop back in and get you a different hat that fits and he refused. He said I would rather throw my $40 away than go back and ask for a new hat. He is so prideful when it comes to stuff like that. He knows he messed up but couldn’t admit that and therefore couldn’t fix the situation. So that’s it, I’m annoyed that he feels the need to buy a hat everywhere we go and doesn’t even bother to try them on and make sure they fit. Big waste of money, might as well look at it as a donation to Coca Cola.
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u/FarmingGeeks 18h ago
Your husband collects hats, does not matter that he doesn't wear them. He likes it, maybe support him a little bit.
It could be worse, I collect hats, but I always get 2, one to wear one to keep. Plus he could have much worse hobbies or habits.
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u/Real-Elephant-6424 18h ago
I do support it, most of the time. If we go to a brewery or a new golf course or somewhere unique/local I actually enjoy looking at the hats with him, but not at world of coke which is an overpriced tourist trap.
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u/Global_Wrangler_4166 17h ago
That would drive me bonkers. My husband bought TWO canvas pictures at the OKC bombing memorial museum gift shop. He had never been to OKC before in his life, the pictures were over $100 each. 🤷♀️
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u/003402inco 17h ago
What the what? Are they hanging up in your house? Got to ask, what are the pics of?
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u/Old_Sheepherder_8713 17h ago
Haha I'm glad you stumbled across this comment too because my eyebrows raised higher and higher from the first word of it to the last.
TWO? CANVASES? FROM THE WHERE? OF THE WHAT?
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u/Global_Wrangler_4166 12h ago
They're on a shelf in our living room 🤭 One is a nighttime shot of the chairs they have of the victims, the chairs are lit up in the night like night lights. The other one is smaller, it's an arch in front of the reflecting pool with 9:03 on top of the arch.
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u/Bulky-Yogurt-1703 18h ago
What does $40 minutes mean to your family budget? If you share expenses and that’s 1/3 of your grocery money for the week you’re reasonably pissed. If that money would go unnoticed if spent on anything else and his hat collection isn’t in your way at home, I think there’s some deeper resentment going on.
Also, I was really disappointed World of Coke is about soda and not cocaine. Weird museum.
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u/Real-Elephant-6424 18h ago
I think you’re right. It’s not the $40. It’s the principle of the matter. He does stuff like this from time to time. Ironically on the way home we had a conversation about his parents’ impulsivity issues.
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u/5napper_72 17h ago
Well next time then just give me the 40 bucks and that way you don't walk out with something that'll end up in the trash.
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u/AlasAland 17h ago
Let’s back up a bit. “He is so prideful when it comes to stuff like that.” Yet everyone decided to tease him about his new hat. Should he have tried it on before purchasing? Perhaps. But most places wouldn’t or shouldn’t let you do that. It’s a health thing. But most importantly, you knew your husband yet you either teased him or was silently complicit. I think you owe your husband an apology and should desire to be better.
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u/snowballsomg GREEN 17h ago
Why go to the World of Coke when you “don’t even drink coke”?
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u/Real-Elephant-6424 16h ago
Because we had out of town guests with kids and they wanted to. We did the aquarium and world of coke cause they are right next to each other. The aquarium is awesome and I actually would have preferred him by an aquarium hat!
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u/CapAcrobatic736 17h ago edited 17h ago
it sounds like he just likes collecting hats, so i don't think the fact that it doesn't fit really matters. how is your financial situation? if you've got a lot of expendable income, or if you do a budget and this fits in the budget, then i think you're being kind of annoying tbh. the man likes the hat and the shirt and wants to have them, if you've got the money for it then what's the problem?
also of course he's gonna be prideful about it when you're being annoying about him not needing another hat then all laughing at him for the hat not fitting.
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u/zipperfire 16h ago
Sounds like your husband likes retail therapy. It's often in the form of "things I like but don't need more of." If he's displeased with the hat down the road, don't make a big deal of it. Just say "I know you love hats. If you're tired of some of them or they don't really work for you, let's try rehoming them." Then you can see if using a resale site like Poshmark or Ebay would work for "things we don't love any more but someone else would, freeing up cash for the future"
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u/Longjumping-Salad484 17h ago
your husband sounds like he's a bit of a goofball. that said, you sound like his judgemental step sister. instead of poking fun, be supportive, and whatever stubbornness he can have in these situations might not occur.
my partner does stuff that I don't understand. there's times I think she's misinformed, and I'll voice my perspective but, ultimately, she has her own preferences, and I honor them without reservation...I don't have a choice.
because righteousness and shame is a toxic combo. you might have thought you were justified in poking fun, but the end result is he felt shame, which is why he insisted not exchanging the hat, he wanted the shaming to stop
you're "all laughing and teasing" him already, you really think he "should've" been in the mood to begin the process of exchanging the hat?! you're all clowning him at that point. I don't blame him for not wanting to exchange the hat
hashtag notcool
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u/TerrificTJ 17h ago
I'd buy it just to spite you. Who are you to tell him what he can and can't have if he also contributes to the family? Do you ask for his permission when you buy something?
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u/pomegranate7777 18h ago
How is what he buys any of your business? It was $70, not $700. Each partner in a marriage is entitled to some spending money of their own.
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u/Real-Elephant-6424 18h ago
Because we combine our money and budget for shopping expenditures each month. I’m not saying we can’t buy what we want but how he went about this situation was absurd. He had an impulse, acted on it without any thought, and in the end the hat and t shirt will end up collecting dust in the closet until it gets donated.
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u/Maxxim3 18h ago
I'd be equally infuriated that he didn't think to put it on his head for five seconds before paying for it. Who buys a hat without trying it on...