My Would-Be Abortion

[u/melachdam]

!! TW for SA !!

I will start this with a couple clarifications: I ultimately did not have an abortion because I did not become pregnant. I am not pro-life, but I do not want an abortion. Ever. I am pro-choice, I won’t go into why here because it’s not the place! :) I’m posting this here because the mention of it was very downvoted in the prochoice sub :P

Now that thats out of the way, this is my little mildly traumatic story that I feel people in this subreddit may be sympathetic to and possibly relate to. When I was 18, I was repeatedly sexually assaulted by my at the time boyfriend. He told me on many occasions that if I were to become pregnant, he would force me to have an abortion. Not only would he not be in my babies life, but he would not allow that baby to have a life. I would not get a say in it. He was verbally abusive and shamed me for not wanting to have an abortion. Ultimately, I did not become pregnant and thus was not forced into an abortion but I was terrified. Abortion is illegal where I am, so I was also afraid if he could not force me to go elsewhere to get an abortion he would take physical measures to ensure I would miscarry. I finally left him and I have only seen him around twice since, but it has had a lasting impact. One of the first things my current partner and I discussed was what we would do if I became pregnant. I’m happy to say we immediately agreed I would go through with the pregnancy, should it occur.

[u/FaceMasks-Masquerade]

Your abuser is a horrible human being and I' so glad that you're far away from him now. He's human scum.

I'm glad that you're out of that situation. Forced/pressured abortions aren't taked about much but they do happen and it's a shame that most people don't even think about that. I'm glad that this ultimately didn't happen in your case. You're a really brave person, wish you only happy things going forward

[u/melachdam → u/FaceMasks-Masquerade]

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[u/Successful_Leek_6338]

I'm Sorry You Went Through That What Happened To You Was Unfair I Hope You Get Justice For What Happen To You And I Hope You Recover

[u/melachdam → u/Successful_Leek_6338]

Thank you <33

[u/askmenicely_]

I'm very sorry you were sexually assaulted and am glad you got out of the situation.

With regard to your claim that you're Christian, you cannot be a Christian and supportive of child sacrifice. I hope you will repent and come to know Christ for your sake.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

I very much can be a Christian, thanks. I support the right to choose, God gave us free will that for the most part I don’t believe the government should restrict. I would not have an abortion & I deeply desire to be a mother, I just also think I have no place forcing someone to do something. Proverbs 21:2-3 is my favorite, and I feel it applies in any scenario so I’m gonna drop it here too! <3

[u/askmenicely_ → u/melachdam]

So, you’re also against criminalizing the rape and murder of born people? Or, at least according to your logic, as long as you don’t personally commit rape or murder, a Christian can support the legality of those acts. Why should you be allowed to force anyone not to rape or murder someone?

Let me guess—you would consider supporting the rape and murder of born people to be antithetical to Christianity. You’re simply partial to preborn babies, whom you believe have no right not to be murdered by their mothers.

Side note: What do you think the Bible says about fornicators (1 Corinthians 6:9) and those who make a practice of sinning (1 John 3:8)? Repent and flee from sin—or continue worshiping your idol. The choice is yours.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

I’m not the sinner here 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’d see my baby as my baby from the moment I found out I was pregnant, but not everyone sees it that way and what they do is not my business. Idk where rape is coming from in this discussion but mkay.

[u/askmenicely_ → u/melachdam]

It is still antithetical to Christianity to support mothers murdering their children. I brought up rape as an analogy—because just as it is a sin to support the rape of anyone, it is a sin and antithetical to Christianity to support the murder of preborn people. The fact that you recognize your own child should not be murdered shows that you are apathetic toward preborn people who are your neighbors. In case it hasn’t occurred to you, your child (if you had one) is no more valuable than the child in your neighbor’s womb—neither deserves to be murdered by his or her mother. Yet you support murdering all preborn children who are not your own.

You are a sinner, and unrepentant sinner at that.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

My post about being sexually assaulted and abused is definitely not the place to attack my religion, btw.

[u/askmenicely_ → u/melachdam]

If you weren’t claiming to be a Christian, I wouldn’t have said anything about your religion. But the fact that you were allegedly sexually assaulted does not change the fact that you are claiming to be a Christian in the same breath that you are supporting the genocide of millions of preborn people each year.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

“Allegedly” mmm, I’m done speaking with you.

[u/askmenicely_ → u/melachdam]

Anyone can read the post you made eight days ago and come to their own conclusions. Bottom line: you had sex with a boy who was using you, and after the breakup—when you realized he didn’t love you—you started to question whether his pressuring you into sex, which you consented to, amounted to sexual assault.

Take it from someone who’s been a prosecutor—you weren’t sexually assaulted. You were used. And while getting used is painful, it’s also something you had agency in. Stop making false accusations.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

“Prosecutor” buddy, coercion is sexual assault and it is illegal. Holding someone down and penetrating them against their will is rape. Saying no over and over until he decides a shrug is a yes is not consent. You’re a pervy creep hiding behind your faith, perhaps you should repent.

[u/melachdam → u/askmenicely_]

Yaaaawn.

[u/Elf0304 → u/melachdam]

I’d see my baby as my baby from the moment I found out I was pregnant, but not everyone sees it that way and what they do is not my business.

So is a baby only a baby if the mother sees him/her as one?

[u/melachdam → u/Elf0304]

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