r/rs_x • u/LaughEasy9612 • 3d ago
Schizo Posting I hate how sad everyone is
Everyone (me inclusive) is so sad all the time. can't we all just be happy??? What happened to happy go lucky people and how do you become one
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u/No_Appearance_9486 3d ago
Being in America has a lot to do with this (for me)ā¦ when Iām in my small family hometown in Jamaica where most people donāt even have electricity itās still so lively and everyoneās always laughing and cracking jokes. I think itās the community aspect a lot of us are missing. Things are so isolating now.
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u/Repulsive_Corner6807 2d ago
It is 100% this. Everyone is so isolated and then when people do get together, no one knows how to act or say
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u/Sorry_Deer_8323 3d ago
āWhen they (Matthau and Lemmon) were doingĀ Buddy, Buddy, Walter took a perilous fall and was knocked out. (Lemmon) ran over and folded up his coat and gently lifted Walterās head and placed it underneath. Walterās eyes fluttered open. He said, āWalt, Walt, are you comfortable?ā Walt looked up at him and said, āI make a living.āā
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u/TormentEnjoyer 3d ago
Funny you picked an old Asian man. I went to the dry cleaners to pick up some clothes last week. The owner is an older Asian man named Mr. Kim, as generic as it may sound. When I dropped off the clothes, he wasnāt there which was unusual in itself. He and his wife were always there five days a week and every time I chatted with him, he was always in a cheery mood. I loved the opportunity to chitchat with him about the most surface level stuff
When I picked up my clothes, he was back but walking around with a crutch. I said my hiās and handed him my ticket. He walked away to start looking through clothes for my ticket.
I saw a picture of him and his wife in Hawaii. I thought itād be a fun topic to bring up since I was just there. I asked him about his trip and he went into a story about how great it was for him as it was his last vacation.
When he was gone when I dropped off my shirts and jackets, he said he was out getting surgery for a cancer they just found and they were hoping they got it early. He told me how great that vacation was and how much it meant for him to have it. I could hear him starting to get emotional
I was starting to get a little emotional too. Iāve never had him talk to me like this outside the niceties we always had. āHaving something like this happen to me, it really made me stop and think about what Iāve done with my life. What Iām doing with it. I lost my older sister to cancer and to have this happen to me too, itās been a lot. I really understand it now and how it changes not only my family but what itās done to me too. Iām going to turn a new leaf. Iām going to enjoy myself more. I canāt spend my entire life working like this if it doesnāt mean I get to enjoy my time with loved ones. Iām going to go back to Hawaii, Iām going to back to California, Iām going to go back to China. Life is too shortā
Obviously not verbatim but as close as I could get the message. It really opened my eyes hearing something like this from a total stranger who I only knew in a professional sense; where we didnāt exchange much beyond the weather and how work has been.
I really wish the best for him but to see somebody who is really going through something in realtime and relay it to me, whoāll just be a miserable curmudgeon for whatever reason kinda resonated with me. Gratitude for what you, even if just health or to get up in the morning, is enough to make it all the worthwhile
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u/thrwaway0101010101 3d ago
i feel incapable of loving the people in my life, my family, my partner. i do not know what to do with myself.
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u/Equivalent_Kiwi_1876 3d ago
do you feel capable of loving yourself?
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u/collegetest35 3d ago
Iāve never understood what this means
Iāve never āloved myselfā the same way I love my parents, loved ones, or friends. Thatās not to say I hate myself, I have confidence in myself and I think Iām good at certain things and what not, I just donāt āloveā myself in the same way as I love other people. Are you supposed to feel that way about yourself ?
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u/Aware_Situation_2545 3d ago
I guess it means that you treat yourself in a way as you do with your loved ones. You are forgiving and self-compassionate. Feel good in your own company. You give yourself compliments and get happy about them. You listen to your own needs and don't need to justify your presence and being with external validation. I don't think it is like an intense feeling towards yourself, but that these things are spontaneous in a natural flow of living.
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u/collegetest35 3d ago
This still doesnāt make sense. I am my own company how would I feel good in it. It just āis.ā I donāt justify my existence because I already know I exist. I donāt feel bad about it, but I donāt feel the same way I feel around loved ones or friends. I just āamā
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u/intolerables 3d ago
I donāt really any more but I used to, before life got to me. I genuinely felt love towards myself, when I was alone it felt special, like I was hanging out with my best friend. I was my own best friend and Iād write a lot of diary entries just talking about everything. It made just existing rich and meaningful, even the little things.. going for a walk or listening to a beautiful song. I miss it so much
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u/nosleeptillbrklyn25 3d ago
I feel you. I don't have a partner. Incapable is a good but. It's not that I (maybe you too) don't love the people in our loves per se, but just feel incapable to do the loving.
Funny enough I often think if I do get with someone, I'd try to love everything about them and they'd be kind of that one person who I really do love and show my love.
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3d ago
Positive thinking creates realities but people donāt engage in it until they truly are forced to
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u/LiminallyLimerent 3d ago
I try to live this way and it seems to offend people sometimes! Like youāre supposed to be performantly sad about the state of the world or something. I feel sad like everyone else but thereās so much joy and beauty to appreciate too and the more you look for it, the more you project it, and the more it spreads. Pretty cool.
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u/collegetest35 3d ago
I think itās because some people feel envious of people who are happier than they are and want to tear them down to feel better about themselves
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u/DefinitelyNotGWBush 3d ago
Im so happy, just as happy as can be! The woman that I love just told me she loves me. There might be a million people but shes the only one I can see. Oh, I love her so
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u/LaughEasy9612 3d ago
I wish people would speak in rhymes more
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u/DefinitelyNotGWBush 3d ago
Its a song by Lewis Lymon. I dont speak in rhymes; moreso a sequence of gutteral utterances
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u/Pale_Veterinarian626 3d ago
Huh this explains a lot. My doc gave me script for prescription meth and I have never felt more dissociated.
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u/Ok_Figure7858 3d ago
Itās a dark time to be alive. Itās essentially a microcosm of spiritual, mental dark ages. Itās psychologically taxing. Thatās why.
Itās tough. Iām not sure.
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u/LaughEasy9612 3d ago
ppl always say this and it's valid but I also feel like there were worse times or places to be but people weren't so malaise stricken (maybe wrong since I wasn't there). regardless it feels like a self-fulfilling prophecy. from now on I'm positivity-maxing, going to start speaking in rhymes and smiling as much as I can
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u/Objective-Target5437 3d ago
probably not times as devoid of community with as many addictive vices and distractions at every persons disposal
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u/KantCancelMe 3d ago
It's weird because on the surface of it we have all these conveniences and technology no one could have dreamed of a hundred years ago, but everyone is so stretched-thin in a state of hyper-competition and fear that it seems inevitable that it will all come crashing down and soon.
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u/Ok_Figure7858 3d ago
The wrong set of people are tastemakers. Spiritually ill people are the ones steering the cultural ship and of course muh capitalism. low common denominator slop is what thrives. Political polarization of the sexes drives a further wedge. Technology is far outpacing what our minds were meant to comprehend. Whimsymaxx and be the change u want to see, with good luck you may find your fellows. But the cultural illness remains and at best your Indian whimsymaxxing is a paltry supplement for a real cultural zest and happiness.
I think we must accept that we have been burdened with living through ill times. Our progeny may have it better, eventually. I mean not if globalists succeed in making the entire planet africa and kalergiing whites and secondarily Asians. But if that can be prevented our progeny may have it better. I am sure that our task in this time is to hold on. Do not expect a time of joy, this will be a time of malaise. Make peace with that and find your tribe.
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u/IamLordKlangHimself 3d ago
There was never a brighter time to be alive. Stop falling for social media.
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u/PoisonMikey 3d ago
It's like that song in Beauty and the Beast. I want adventure in the great wide somewhere, I want it more than I can tell. The vivacious primitive drive and strive
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u/brigdoinkus 3d ago
ive adopted the mentality of if youre not gonna make life easier or better get out of my way, im tired of the pity parties and i will try my best to no longer attend them. this all starts with showing up for yourself, no matter what. good luck.
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u/DxeLIT 3d ago
social media (including reddit). fill your day with habits that don't include being on your phone. sounds cliche nowadays but it's worked for me. i'm still finding myself sad some days, including now lol, but not as much. sadness doesn't have to be a negative thing though, you can identify with your emotions without feeling like they are what define you.
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u/continuetolove 3d ago
I was chronically depressed from age 9 to like 25. Iām not sad anymore. Yeah still have trauma and flashbacks to certain stuff but itās not an over arching sadness anymore. Quit the drugs and ditched hanging out with people who put me down. Found a wonderful man and decided to raise babies and love Jesus and travel and hike and eat good food. Also moved to a warm climate which helped a lot. Fuck the snow. Not everyoneās sad, you might be experiencing confirmation bias.
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u/Fuzzy-Act443 3d ago
I want everyone else to be happy! I just donāt always think I deserve to be happy but working on that. Iād also like to know how you become a happy go lucky person.
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u/IWillAlwaysReplyBack 3d ago
i am actually very happy, the happiest i've been in a long time. sending you a hug
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u/kitty60s 3d ago
Iām one of those happy ones. Iām generally happy and carefree until I remember the dystopia we are living through, then I cry and stress out for a while before returning to my happy state. Repeat.
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u/Exciting_Couple446 3d ago
I live in a suburban area that is designed around cars. It is impossible to do go anywhere or do anything unless you have a car. Sucks the soul out of me while Iām living here. Thankfully moving out of country soon to be close with family (the area is slightly less car dependent at least)
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u/benharrington9 3d ago
Spread joy and be kind when we can. You never know who needs to hear kind words. It can make a difference and influence others to do the same
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u/Rupperrt 3d ago
I am pretty happy I think. But I canāt remember my other lives so I have nothing to compare it to.
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u/starsign33 3d ago
i feel like i really alternateā¦ mostly in the summer im very optimistic but rn its too cold to feel happiness
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u/Friendly-Team-8120 3d ago
unfortunately depressive moods can be pervasive in society because our mental health is often a result of the world we inhabit. there are big reasons to be sad. there are many ways to find joy, but in an alienating sad world it is just not the default
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u/Soft_Yak6501 3d ago
Iām a pretty happy guy ! Tend to see the positives, but when Iām very stressed and work a lot I get irritated more easily :(
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u/SuspiciousPotato6288 2d ago
Thank God you woke up this morning once you do, think about how good it feels to not be sick. Exercise and be thankful that you're able to do it. Eat and remember when you couldn't.
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u/rainbowbloodbath 3d ago
I am not sad (:
Most days I am pretty happy. I think itās because I am in love and planning wedding and generally excited for future
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3d ago
Iām not sure either. How can someone be happy when we can hardly afford basic necessities while trying to survive in a fascist country run by oligarchs? Trying to be positive only does so much when everything around us is falling apart.
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u/pishywishy 3d ago
Something that helps me be happy go lucky is imagining myself as different things like a big horse or a dog. Also something that helps is imagining everything that is outside of me being super still and packed away not moving in tupperwares or something
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u/einwachmann 2d ago
We live in a dopamine overdosed loner society, it's easy to see how everyone is miserable when everyone is frying their ability to feel joy and satisfaction while having no community
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u/Extension_Ad_7659 1d ago
Wake up and be happy you're alive. Start the day listing 3 things you're grateful for.
I've had a few experiences where I could have, or maybe even should have, not lived.
I wake up and I'm happy I'm breathing. Start there. Start small. Focus on the good. Brush off the bad.
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u/amborg 1d ago
Iāve been a very sad person in the past. I am a generally happy person now, and I think that the main thing that changed was understanding that other people have their own lives and their own things going on. Iāve actually made a LOT of friends with this change of mindset. Kind of like āHI Iām happy youāre here right now, maybe we will have another experience sometime againā. If they come back, fine. If they donāt, also fine. Life is just a moment, really.
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u/wheremylaserzat 23h ago
For me its a weird combo of nihilism, optimism, and Zoloft. I make up little songs here n there
š¶ life sux, but I don't fuckin care Cuz none of this shit matters I dont give a fuck about anythiiiiiiiing
AT ALL š¶
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u/hungrychopper 3d ago
iām like the only happy person at my job and it really pisses off my coworkers sometimes i pretend to be in a bad mood so they can relate to me more easily
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u/LaughEasy9612 3d ago
Trying to attach a stock photo of a happy elderly Asian man to illustrate my point but chrome won't let me ..... I'm getting upset...