r/rs_x • u/franzkls • 1d ago
being at a bar alone is enlightening
was inspired by the poor sap who didn’t seem to have a good time alone. one must have the metaphysical constitution to withstand such an experience, not for everyone it’s okay. i haven’t spoken to my dad in over four years. my parents almost got divorced six months ago but my mom eventually caved, at least what it seems like from the outside. it makes her weaker than i want her to be; and i get my strength from her, so if shes weaker maybe so am i;
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u/thomastypewriter 1d ago
Going to a bar alone is a relaxing and deeply personal experience, and so anyone who is not okay with being by themselves in general or who is so hyper-image obsessed they fear being labeled an alcoholic is probably not going to enjoy it. It’s great though! No one to bother you (may be more difficult as a woman), no one to drag you somewhere you don’t want to go afterward, no pressure to keep talking, just your thoughts, which will become more interesting to you after 2-3 drinks. After that it can go either way. If you’re desperate for interaction, there’s always the bartender (that’s literally why they’re there- to make drinks and to talk to patrons) and probably a guest or two. You can always make friends that way. You can also even read a book if you really like and it isn’t crowded, and you can leave when you want. You can do whatever you want! You’re an adult! There aren’t any rules about going to the bar except don’t get sloppy (and tip in the U.S.).
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u/djslugoablunt 1d ago
damnit now i’m wishing i stopped by the bar for some pints on my bike ride home from the store tonight
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u/BananeWane 1d ago
Relaxing? We as people are all so very different. The bar environment has got to be one of the least relaxing places for me. You say you read books there? It’s so noisy tho? Wouldn’t your house be better for relaxing with your thoughts? I’m sorry I don’t get it.
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u/MennoniteMassMedia 1d ago
You nailed it it's soothing for the soul. Miss going by myself when I was new in the city, now I have a gf and friends and little time so it feels selfish to spend one of few nights out alone.
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u/Septembersvodkabomb 1d ago
My fiance and i went to a bar this past weekend with her sister and there was a dude there with a permanent scowl on his face, sunglasses inside, leather jacket, one earbud in like fucking baby driver. I just know dude was having the time of his life.
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u/Ghostbreathinneck 1d ago
what’s the verdict on reading at a bar these days. I don’t have a smartphone anymore and it’s weird to stare off into space
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u/volodka9 1d ago
Personally I like it…I live a decent distance outside of the town I live near, so I’m alone a lot. Sometimes I just want to get a drink or two and read a book. Depends on the bar, time of day, etc.
Love a good outdoor seating area with a book & a drink.
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u/prettygoblinrat How did I get here? 1d ago
If my dad goes to the bar alone every week, so can you! ✨✨✨
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u/duly-goated303 1d ago edited 1d ago
I’ve never been at a bar alone and not have at least had some decent small talk about whatever sport or horse race is on the telly. Bar flys still exists they’ll literally ask you for a lighter and tell you their entire life story as if you’re their best mate. People over think this shit way to much. You leave the house things happen pretty simple.
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u/Itchy-Sea9491 1d ago
Listening to Grateful Dead rn and this post made me feel some typa way. Thanks bro ❤️
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u/morgann_taylorr 1d ago
can someone please explain what this sub is bc it’s on my main page so often and i have no clue why
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u/Septembersvodkabomb 1d ago
Idrk either because they barely ever talk about the podcast but i stay for the pseudo intellectual posts and catty interactions
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u/BorgeHastrup 23h ago
The algorithm knows the right people to feed this sub to out of the blue.
You've been marked. Might as well let it in.
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u/soup_iteration777 1d ago
offshoot of a sub about the red scare podcast i think? randomly appeared on my page as well
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u/ggchicken7 1d ago
Went to Boston this week for work. Spent the evenings in random dives/pubs. Blacked out on a Monday. There’s a bottle in your hand just use it if you feel socially anxious. It rocks. Also we’re in the age of screens look at your phone or watch a random NIT basketball game that’s on if it’s that bad.
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u/cinnamongirl444 1d ago
I’ve only done this once, and a middle aged guy started talking to me in a way that made me think he was hitting on me. Then he started telling me how much I look like his cousin. I’m still not sure what to make of that.
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u/FuzzyBallz666 22h ago
The trick is to bring a book and sit at the bar. The moment someone sits next to you alone you start chatting with them. If you do it 2 or 3 times people will recognize you and be more open to talking to you.
That has worked for me at least so it may work for you too!
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u/SadMouse410 6h ago
Americans need to be exposed to British pub culture. Treat the pub like it’s an extension of your living room. Read, play board games, do whatever
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u/agnusmei 1d ago
Every week one of you goes outside for the first time and has some enlightenment as a result