r/rs_x • u/Active-Head4154 • 19h ago
C U L T U R E Some classical music and some tinder.
I want love. I want to love, I want to be loved, I want to be one with someone. I just went to the theatre, the programm was an interesting sonata for violin and piano by Leos Janacek (I especially liked the 2nd movement), Mozart k376 (nice), Scherzo in Dmin by Bhrams (really funny), some other pieces and Ravel Tzigane, which was crazy good. There were also 3 encore! Again very good music by Ravel, the violinist was so delicate, everyone was captivated.
But there is no one I can look into the eyes and feel even more connected to just because we experienced that same beautiful music. It was still nice, but a bit for its own sake.
Should I go back to the apps? I read some time ago something here about falling in love by chance vs meeting someone from the apps, and I agree with that post about the second method being pretty much an impossible way to find true love (especially maybe for a guy), for the very reason that love can't be chosen like you choose your favourite cereal brand at the grocery store. But I feel lonely, and with the apps seems so much easier.
Anyway, anyone else in Milan?
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u/ultraepicthrowaway 17h ago
The apps are an easy form of "passive income" - if you approach them with the right amount of active distance they can potentially open you up to new situations and at the very least get more experience and awareness of your own dating habits. Can't give them very much stock though and you have to be wary of how much people game them.
That said, I'm skeptical of their ability to create lasting love, the kind of love that transforms you. If you can choose and filter for every parameter you think you want, then you'll miss out on the parts of love that you might only realize you want after the fact. I have no real advice for you, I hope you find what you seek. Just have to keep living and keep being social and meet as many new people as you can. 🎲
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u/Active-Head4154 17h ago
I agree on pretty much all you said.
Just have to keep living and keep being social and meet as many new people as you can.
oof, that's the hard part, also because at the moment my two closest friend are two girls, which would seem ideal, but they don't have single friends to introduce to me and we usually just hang out at home
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u/lev_lafayette 16h ago
How about joining a classical-baroque-neoclassical music appreciation group in Milan? There's probably one online that organises concert visits.
The chances are that you will find someone there who has the same appreciation of this fine and beautiful art as you do.
The best app is being with a community of shared interests.
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u/ButterFingerzMCPE tomcat feelings/alleycat morals 15h ago
I just want to appreciate things with someone, show them things I appreciate, and have them show me things they appreciate. all I really ask for
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u/bambi_eyed_ faildaughterposting 58m ago
I was single for five years, ended up downloading an app, and then out of nowhere matched with the love of my life. The truth is that life and love are two very unpredictable mistresses and the key is to keep your eyes and heart open so that when love finds you, you’ll be ready to receive it, no matter which path you take to get there.
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u/gerard_debreu1 17h ago
"But there is no one I can look into the eyes and feel even more connected to just because we experienced that same beautiful music. It was still nice, but a bit for its own sake."
damn that's kind of an underappreciated aspect of literally everything lol. probably why i feel like everything is a bit meh when experienced alone (or with people i don't care about)