Please help me to decide

[u/mr_Horny99]

Bit off-topic, but I could use some guidance. Recently, I decided to move abroad for better opportunities. However, my parents are strongly against it because I’m their only child. They got really emotional and said things like, ‘We’ll die in India, we don’t like it abroad,’ etc.

I tried explaining that once I get settled, I’ll call them to live with me, but they’re completely against the idea. It’s frustrating because I know how difficult cracking government exams here can be, and honestly, I’m losing hope.

I genuinely feel that living in India is becoming tougher—especially with increasing crime, corruption, and the growing influence of goons in everyday life. I don’t vibe with that kind of environment, and I just want to live peacefully, work hard, and grow.

I know this might sound selfish to some, but I feel stuck. I respect my parents deeply, but I also want a life that feels safe and fulfilling. Has anyone here faced a similar situation? How did you deal with it? I’d really appreciate any genuine advice.

[u/manga_maniac_me]

You can't expect your parents to move for your sake and your parents should not expect to keep you bound for their own peace of mind.

And it's not like living in the same country would mean that you will be next to them on their deathbed. It is about time they understood that they can not modulate your life according to them, and for you to understand that 'moving abroad' is not a ticket to an easy, safe and prosperous life. This whole idea of 'i will work hard and grow' is often hollow.