r/thanksimcured • u/Such-Time-3072 • 5d ago
Social Media "Just eat it🤓☝️"
These were on an Instagram reel where a girl was celebrating the fact she got over her ED.The fact that people can be this ignorant is beyond me
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u/Good_Fennel_1461 5d ago
"Hey, I just wanted to share that I go over this thing that keeps me from eating normally :D"
"Just eat normally"
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u/ASweetTweetRose 5d ago
There’s a girl on Instagram who has ARFID and gets comments like this. Some people often blame her mom, that her mom must be a bad cook for her daughter to not want to eat. People have commented saying to starve her and then she’ll eat. It totally doesn’t work like that!!
Zero understanding for ED!!
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5d ago
if a parent starved their kid with an eating disorder the kid would just continue to starve themselves even further
source: have an ed and parents who always said "if u don't wanna eat then starve"
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u/ASweetTweetRose 5d ago
100%
I don’t consider myself to have an ED but I (feel like) I understand ARFID — eating isn’t always enjoyable for me. It’s a chore. And when my Crohn’s is flared it’s even worse.
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5d ago
Tbh I don't think I have anything severe like anorexia because I have periods when I eat normally and periods when I won't eat on purpose.
I guess people fucked me up by comparing me to my underweight sister my whole childhood, now we look basically the same yet I still feel like I'm not as skinny as her, even though I literally am.
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u/designated_weirdo 4d ago
I don't have an eating disorder but I do have a history of disordered eating. It sounds similar to your experience - periods of eating normally and then choosing not to for however long. I have times where I will choose to go hungry because nothing is "interesting" enough to eat. Or just no appetite and I'll get sick if I try. Then back to regularly scheduled eating like normal. It usually happens when I'm stressed or going through different phases in my energy.
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u/Such-Time-3072 5d ago
I never heard it before , if you don't mind me asking what is AFRID? Is it a type of ED?
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u/ASweetTweetRose 5d ago
It is.
Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder is a feeding or eating disorder.
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/avoidant-restrictive-food-intake-disorder-arfid/
I learned about it last year and it’s kind of fascinating in that I can relate.
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u/demon_fae 5d ago
Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder
It superficially resembles extremely pick eating, but (from what I understand) it’s more like problem foods don’t even register as food. They might register as being somehow toxic or repulsive, but no matter how they’re presented the patient will not view it as edible.
Someone with ARFID has the same ability to eat a problem food as you have to eat your doorknob.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 5d ago
Or like that other post where the person has a phobia of balloons and everyone is just yelling at them to get over and move the balloon.
Yelling at someone with ARFID to just eat it is as helpful.
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u/Such-Time-3072 5d ago
Ohhh I know which post you are talking about yeah that person's roommate was an asshole
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u/Splatfan1 4d ago
is like if someone put dogshit on your plate. youd sooner eat the fork than the food youre meant to eat it with. its a pain in the ass to live with, even if youre in understanding company you still have to endure the smells. there are some common foods that just smell like rot or farts to me. it wouldnt be fair to have everyone stop eating and after so many years i know how to deal with it but man it sucks. and thats the good variant of being with understanding company, if youre with people who hate picky eaters youre just shit out of luck
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u/ASweetTweetRose 4d ago
After learning about it I positively hate the term “picky eater” … My brain now makes it out to be like calling someone allergic to peanuts to be a “picky eater” … I hate it!!
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u/Splatfan1 3d ago
i dont. being a "normal" picky eater vs having arfid or any other eating condition like an allergy are visually identical and i think the world would be a lot kinder to us if we didnt stigmatise picky eating itself because in the 21st century theres no reason to do so. ive heard of cases of family members dismissing an allergy as picky eating or a personal choice and that ending up in disaster (like that one grandma who killed her granddaughter by putting coconut oil in her hair, but family members sneaking allergens into meals is sadly way too common)
if people were just more accepting of whatever non harmful personal choices a person wished to make it would be better for everyone. us with food conditions wouldnt have to fear being seen as just some picky eaters because whether we would be seen as them or not we would still be respected. if you see a person at a restaurant telling the waiter they dont want this and that in their food can you instantly tell whether theyre picky vs have an allergy or arfid? i cant. which is why its important to just be accepting
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u/RunicFr0st 4d ago
To my understanding that’s one of the ways AFRID can manifest but there’s others like fear of eating because of choking or really bad sensory issues, and you can have more than one of them at once
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u/Snoo-88741 5d ago
It's basically an extreme version of being a picky eater, to the point where it causes health issues because there's so few things the person can eat.
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u/LiveTart6130 4d ago
I've gotten to the point that I may have a mild eating disorder. I'll go days where I can't eat except when I force myself to choke down plain bread, and the pool of what I can eat is incredibly small in the first place.
I've been told to "get over" being a picky eater, but as part of a health condition I have, my sense of touch is very sensitive, so texture is something that has to be gotten just right for me to not gag when I try to eat. having something I even mildly dislike in my mouth is a physically painful experience for me.
it's like a mental block in my head can get triggered where I just won't feel hungry until it's so bad that I'm dizzy and in pain. the only reason my nutrition isn't suffering severely is the multiple vitamins I take.
there's no understanding and even less sympathy. every idiot with the ability to see can get onto the internet without any actual practice at being a human being and it's done shit to us as a society.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 4d ago
Definitely sounds like ARFID. The girl on Instagram (Hannah is her name) has those same problems. (She goes to therapy to help overcome her fears and get used to some textures in a safe place.)
She also has this, like, repeated reaction or something (there is a medical term) to vomiting, where when she starts she can’t stop. And it’s painful. She’ll just dry heave because there’s nothing left but her body just keeps going on the action on throwing up. (Duh!!) Having this condition makes her NOT want to eat because she doesn’t want to gag and have it get worse (TOTALLY RELATABLE!!)
And, yeah, like you said people just ripe her apart and tell her (her mom) to get over it and it’s child abuse and all the rest.
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u/Evening-Dizzy 4d ago
I have a story that explains arfid well, as something beyond my control. Anyway, so I was 16 and my crush finally asked me on a date. When we arrived at the restaurant we got a free appetizer. Melon and prosciutto. At that point neither were safe foods. But I had been shamed my entire life for being picky and didn't want him to think about me that same way so I forced myself to eat it, despite my brain going "no no no! Inedible! INEDIBLE I SAID!" and somewhere halfway through, my stomach turned so suddenly and violently, I didn't even have time to turn my head and everything came back out, excorcist style. All over the table, including in my date's plate. If I ever had any control over being "a picky eater" this would not have happened. It was and still is the most embarrassing moment in my entire life, 25y later. For people who are curious, my date did not even flinch. I helped the waitstaff clean up the mess and I couldn't look him in the eye. He went to pay and I thought that was it. So we walked outside silently. I figured he would just escort me home, but no. He took my hand and we walked around the city in silence for hours and at the end of the night he kissed me. Didn't even care I barfed. We dated for 3 months. I don't think we ever said 10 sentences to each other. Lol. We would just walk hand in hand in silence and then kiss for a bit. We never even officially broke up. I still never talk to him sometimes.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 4d ago
🥰 That sounds like a TERRIBLE experience but I love how he reacted. I hope you’ve found the same people in your life now(?), that are supportive and understanding 🫣
Having invisible disabilities are terrible/tough …
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u/Evening-Dizzy 4d ago
I found an even better dude. He also has arfid. But different things than me. We have like 5 shared foods we like lol. But at least this guy talks.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 4d ago
😂 Oo yeah. The talking. Conversation is helpful in a relationship. I think I’ve read that somewhere 😂
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u/okcanIgohome 5d ago
Whenever I feel like an absolute dumbass, I just go on the internet and feel like a genius.
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u/Quirky-Local-3563 5d ago
Glad I’m not the only one. Also works for when I feel like I’m a terrible person for something dumb like forgetting to recycle.
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u/AbductingBigfoot 5d ago
I'm a large woman, and I suffer with anorexia. No one takes it seriously. I get told that clearly I'm not anorexic because just look at me. I've also been told to restrict more than I currently do, and maybe I can finally be attractive. I don't wish an ED on anyone of any size. It's a nightmare. I'm afraid of foods I used to love. I only see a perfect circle when I see myself in a mirror. I'm constantly trying to make myself as small as possible around my friends, try to take up as little room as possible.
I'm so proud of people who recover. They deserve to be happy, they deserve to enjoy food. They deserve to LOVE themselves.
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u/Such-Time-3072 5d ago
I never had Ed so I can't say I fully understand the experience someone has to go through but I still hope that you can overcome this and recover from it. It doesn't matter if you are large or not you are valid ED is still ED and everyone's experience should be respected <3
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u/AbductingBigfoot 5d ago
I really appreciate it 🩷 I work on it every day, and some days are easier than others, but what matters is I'm making an effort. You have a wonderful day friend, and never forget you're beautiful the way you are (I love to tell myself that affirmation, and I hope you like it too :) )
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u/Quirky-Local-3563 5d ago
You also deserve to enjoy food, love yourself and recover! I’m awful at encouragement but I believe in you! 🙏🫶
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u/PinkOneHasBeenChosen 4d ago
I’ve also been told to restrict more than I currently do
Well, that’s a problem. And I’m saying that as someone with no idea what your current eating habits are.
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u/AbductingBigfoot 4d ago
Currently the most calories I get in a day is under 1k, a lot of times it's less than that. It's mostly fruits and veggies, low calorie but nutrient dense. I don't want a vitamin deficiency so I do what I can, I eat healthy (even though it's not a lot of calories) and I take a multivitamin and calcium supplement every day. A lot of my weight problem stems from PCOS. I've done everything I medically can do (minus some things my insurance doesn't cover) and I just felt like restricting was a good way to drop the weight. It led to extremely disordered eating and now I've got the full blown ana. (Also didn't help that I dated a total piece of shit who would break me down every time I felt cute in something. A comment I heard from him just made me spiral "yeah that outfit was super cute. Until you put it on". So glad I'm done with that asshole. Now I just have to work on my recovery. Every day gets a little better.
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u/TheFunkyWood 5d ago
If I got comments like this especially earlier in recovery I'd actually relapse oh my god
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u/HoneyswirlTheWarrior 5d ago
Honestly the best thing you can do when you are in a vulnerable situation is to just not interact with the internet. People can be so cruel when anonymous. Lolcows is an entire internet subculture that consists of just finding mentally ill people to bully and harass and make their issues worse
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u/quay-cur 5d ago
At this point they have to just be reveling in being cruel. They can’t be that dumb
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u/DWYNZ 5d ago
I thought this was a r/comedynecrophilia post at first, the whole world lately seems like a post from there
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u/thatsuperRuDeguy 5d ago
Tell me you have no empathy without saying you have no empathy
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u/Such-Time-3072 5d ago
That's basically half of the comments in Instagram and the worst thing is that they can be even more cruel than these
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u/Velocityraptor28 5d ago
and this is why i dont do social media... just a cesspool of morons and malice spawn
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u/Ok_Cardiologist3642 5d ago
yeah so I have a phobia and I'm scared of some food. I definitely can't ''just eat normally'' cuz it would send me into a panic attack. I don't want to imagine how people with EDs feel. imagine telling someone with a disorder that you have no idea about how they should behave. EDs wouldn't exist if they could ''just eat normally''. tf?
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u/Seastar_Lakestar 5d ago
"I don't understand why is she celebrating eating food."
I don't know if this implies a belief that eating is too 'normal' to be worth celebrating, or a belief that eating is bad and people -- especially women -- should be ashamed about it, not 'bragging.'
Probably the former, but the latter came to my mind because it's a message I took from diet culture. Before I started speaking up about my shame around food, I thought that being told to 'eat more' was an impossible fantasy in this world where food is treated as a guilty indulgence or something that only good, helpful people 'deserve.'
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u/ConcertAgreeable1348 5d ago
so tired of people not understanding mental health. I don't personally struggle with ARFID but I know plenty of people that do
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u/MiciaRokiri 5d ago
I used to follow, but I haven't seen posts from her in a while, a woman who had a tin can full of her horror foods from her Ed and shoot randomly draw one out and eat them. Every time I saw her something that was a struggle for her I was so proud of her. I didn't have to experience the same fear and revulsion she did I didn't have to have her Ed to be able to see that it was upsetting for her and that it was hard for her. I can't help but think these kinds of assholes half the time no exactly what's going on and they just want to hurt someone
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u/Milkmans_tastymilk 4d ago
When i have to to explain to people that ARFID isnt just 'being picky' and that i dont actually like having autism i just try to cope with it, they tell me to calm down as if they didn't gas light me into this scenario
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u/Maleficent_Orchid181 4d ago
the middle girl seems supportive. But be real, this is instagram, they know what an ed is, they’re being dicks.
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u/ajuiceyboxboi 5d ago
Dumbass comment sections like these where everyone repeats the same goddamn thing for likes make me think dead Internet theory might be real
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u/soulstrike2022 4d ago
I’m glad this girl managed to over come it but when it said ED I honestly had no idea what it meant like the weird side of my brain took it somewhere and I’m like nope and had to do a full reboot took me like 3 minutes to understand
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u/Zealousideal_Long253 5d ago
similar to hyper vigilance. ''just don't be afraid''.