r/thanksimcured • u/-Living-Dead-Girl- • 5d ago
Social Media WhErE tHeReS a WiLl ThErEs A wAy
apparently having severe social issues/truama/disabilities cant possibly prevent anyone from making friends, because this guy saw a disabled person at a rave đ«
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u/Murky-South9706 5d ago
"nonverbal guy"
"Spoke with him later"
đ„Ž A who in the what now?
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u/silverthorn7 5d ago
I had the same reaction. I guess he had some kind of AAC device (like Stephen Hawking)? It mentions he couldnât speak without a machine.
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u/Neither_Emu_4008 5d ago
"or move" yeah this sounds made up.
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u/silverthorn7 5d ago
Maybe, but this guy (imaginary or not) having an electric wheelchair and AAC technology does make sense.
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u/demon_fae 5d ago
No it doesnât actually, that shit is heavy and delicate and expensive and he was apparently somehow crowd surfing in it.
Thatâs just not possible. Like, if the entire crowd were dedicated bodybuilders maybe. But a normal crowd isnât lifting that chair.
Itâs fake.
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u/silverthorn7 5d ago
I donât mean it makes sense that he crowdsurfed in his powerchair, rather that it does make sense a severely disabled person might need equipment to move and talk.
I agree that the whole story is implausible - just not because of that part.
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u/demon_fae 5d ago
The OP explicitly says he was crowdsurfing âin his chairâ.
A quadriplegic will require some amount of life support. They will likely have a power chair. They 100% will not be able to transfer out of it without extensive preparation.
It is impossible to crowdsurf in a power chair. Literally not possible to do.
There is no point picking at the rest of the story: sentence one is an outright lie. The premise is false, therefore the little details do not matter.
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u/Murky-South9706 5d ago
he's allegedly quadriplegic, how is he using any of this alleged technology with no arms or legs to guide it? How did he buy concert tickets? How did he agree to crowd surf? Obviously the whole character is made up, and not even in a realistic way. Just another idiot trying to excuse their idiocy by offering some ludicrous anecdote đ€Ł people like this disgust me tbh
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u/Aromatic-Discount381 4d ago
Regardless of whether the commenter is annoying and or lying, youâŠâŠ can talk to people who are non verbalâŠ. Have you guys actually never worked with anyone who has disabilities that affect their ability to communicate verbally?? Not everyone who is non verbal is deaf, blind, and mute.
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u/omswain 5d ago
Neurobiologists - from genetic factors to severe trauma there are many factors affecting human behaviour in many ways. Anxiety and depression are physiological problems which can be brought on by a mixture of countless factors. Nonetheless it's important to note they are physiological problems
Dude in comments - just go outside just be a person.
I hate that I have prove I'm sick
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u/ajuiceyboxboi 5d ago
I know what you mean it's so annoying. If they were in the same situation as us they wouldn't find it so easy. Meanwhile they still complain how hard their life is despite having no mental or physical disability.
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u/zephyrmont 5d ago
Agreed⊠itâs a constant in my life to âproveâ that I actually have illness. Some things diagnosed, some not, so some physical needs I canât even officially ask from a job (and be protected by ADA). Ugh đ
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u/stingwhale 5d ago
How much yâall wanna bet this person has a bunch of people at work theyâre convinced are friends because they push conversations onto them but people actually find their smug attitude really irritating
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u/Tangled_Clouds 5d ago
Had a coworker that technically got fired because of this. Like not just this because among other things her way of âsocializingâ was trying to incite fights and boss around people with more experience than her, but she was annoying for being âoverly friendlyâ that put off everyone. You can do âfriendlyâ wrong if youâre forcing people into interacting with you without leaving them an âoutâ in the situation. She took away time from my shift on her lunch break to show me every pictures on her phone.
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u/stingwhale 4d ago
Yeah and some people who decide youâre friends without your input just say wildly personal things that are so uncomfortable.
Like stop telling me all your political and religious beliefs, I donât want to know this much about you. Why are you trauma dumping at 2 pm when Iâm clearly busy? Iâm not gossiping with you about other coworkers get out of here!
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u/Woodpecker-Forsaken 3d ago
I mean, ADHDer here, definitely done inappropriate trauma dump at 2pm before. đ sorry about that.
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u/stingwhale 3d ago
I mean same tbh but after I do it I regret it and donât assume this person is my friend just because I pushed this on them.
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u/ajuiceyboxboi 5d ago
"where there's a will there's a way"
Person with no will to live or do anything: "Makes sense to me"
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u/Neither_Emu_4008 5d ago
Gives "i ment a dude who's legs were cut off, and later we went on a walk"
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u/Snoo-88741 5d ago
I'm calling BS on the quadriplegic guy story. A motorized wheelchair is like 300lbs, no way a crowd picked that up so casually.Â
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u/ASweetTweetRose 5d ago
Ecstasy for everyone!!! đđŠ
Also, just because you say âGood morningâ to your coworkers DOES NOT make them friends.
I have a coworker who seems to believe this. I think she comes into work to just socialize because she doesnât do any work. No one is friends with her here.
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u/SelectionHour5763 5d ago
I think it's more of a probbing thing rather than a rapport building thing. By saying good morning to someone you can quickly see how the feel towards you by observing their reaction.
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u/the_radic0le 4d ago
Itâs so difficult because on one hand, yeah, putting yourself out of your comfort zone and making an effort to engage with the world around you does actually do wonders for making friends and connecting to people, but almost every single person that gets told those things already does and is trying, but theyâre disability is making it inordinately hard. Like people tell me all the time that exercising will make me feel better and, yeah dude, no duh. In the long run exercise will keep my body from falling apart, but funnily enough, itâs difficult for me to exercise when I can feel all my bones scraping against each other.
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u/-Living-Dead-Girl- 4d ago
literally. its like they dont think we've thought about trying đ im so sick of being told "well maybe you should try" like its some grand revelation and im living a miserable life by choice.
yeah bro maybe when you try your best it works, but your ability isn't universal and some peoples best just isnt enough. and to treat those people like theyre simply not trying is ignorant as fuck.
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u/the_radic0le 4d ago
Itâs not even that I donât like getting advice on how to better handle being disabled. Iâm just so sick and tired of hearing the same advice over and over, that Iâve TRIED over and over. Drink water, go outside, exercise, take a multivitamin. If they want to give advice maybe they should think outside the box. That lady that recommended a pint of chocolate milk for a migraine comes to mind.
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u/Woodpecker-Forsaken 3d ago
Christ, yes, this. No a planner will not help my ADHD, no I canât embrace the âstrengthsâ of ADHD â itâs literally a neurological disability, yes obviously Iâve tried fucking hydrating myself to get rid of chronic migraines, thatâs great that your cousin Billy cured his migraines by seeing a chiropractor â itâs done nothing for me. Maybe Iâm just not trying hard enough? Get. In. The. Bin.
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u/Brilliant_Towel2727 5d ago
Setting aside the crowd-surfing quadriplegic for a moment, does anyone else thing "You are at the lemon tree, start squeezing," is kind of a mixed metaphor or something?
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u/Seastar_Lakestar 4d ago
Meaning "Life has given you lemons, so start making lemonade."
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u/Brilliant_Towel2727 4d ago
I think they're mixing that with the idea of 'shaking the tree.' You don't need to be at a lemon tree to make lemonade
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u/Seastar_Lakestar 4d ago
I didn't know there was an idiom about "shaking the tree." Having looked it up, I think it might or might not be part of the OOP's intended meaning. Being at a lemon tree isn't the only way to be 'given' lemons, but it is one way.
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u/Zealousideal_Long253 4d ago
Co workers arent friends (i learned that the hard way).
Also comparing suffering, this isnt the suffering olympics, also just because the other person is fine doesnt mean you have to be
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u/L0nlySt0nr 5d ago
They hadn't me in the first half.
I mean, it wasn't a nice way to say it, but the message to me seemed like it was at least from a well-meaning place. Sorta.
And then we jumped a couple sharks.
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u/frosty_aligator-993 1d ago
you are at hte lemon tree start squeezing
sir you do realise that lemonade is not just lemon juice no really what the fuck do i do with so much lemon juice
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u/DueBackground7945 5d ago
Yall love to stay in your misery. This subreddit is so sad, any type of encouragement or advice is met with negativity.
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u/Akiro_Sakuragi 5d ago edited 4d ago
Swipe right and see what he had to write to a mute person. I see no encouragement there - only a bigoted pos that has never tried to understand someone less privileged than himself.
Imagine telling a disabled person that he doesn't have it that hard because there's someone more disabled than him. What kind of person does that?
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u/Better_Barracuda_787 5d ago
"I'm mute"
"Just talk to people it's not that hard"