r/thanksimcured • u/tanithjackal • 2d ago

Satire/meme More victim blaming wooo

I keep seeing shit like this from r/cool guides even more so lately. Like yeah I totally chose to feel this way /s.

Edit: my dumb ass thought I posted with the link lol https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/s/pk9Oi6jhnF

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u/AcadianViking 1d ago

r/Adulting is also being inundated with this kind of invalidating stuff.

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

Ugh, seriously? What is wrong with some people

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u/AcadianViking 1d ago

people act like its impossible to work 40 hours a week, do chores, and find the time to enjoy life and it’s just absolutely ridiculous. if that’s the case then it’s probably down to your lifestyle.

also, I feel like the people who experience this “after work I’m too tired to do anything” thing also have this myth that doing nothing (and probably doomscrolling) for a full day equals “recharging” when it’s just an extreme level of avoidant behavior. Going out in nature is recharging, going for a nice long walk or bike ride is recharging, laying in bed all day doesn’t mean you spend the next day full of energy.

Literally 2nd to top comment in a post. That sub is full of people giving this kind of shitty, ableist "life advice"

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

That's so disgusting. I'm willing to bet they haven't experienced how debilitating invisible disabilities are.

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u/AcadianViking 1d ago

And people wonder why there is a mental health epidemic.... Oh wait no they don't, they just blame the victims and perpetuate the crisis

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

No kidding. I got told many times that I should happy for what I have and I have no reason to be depressed ever since I was a kid. Clearly no one knew what I went through nor did I receive any help. I had every reason to be depressed.

It's extremely ableist for people to assume what unwell means.

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u/cool-person-96 2d ago

What was the image that was supposed to be here?

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u/TricksterWolf 1d ago

I love the "people are unhappy because they please others rather than themselves" one. Thinking empathy causes depression tells you all you need to know about the author, and makes the motivation for shitting on people with MDD crystal.

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

Yeah, one of those "empathy is weakness" mfs

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u/Caesar_Passing 2d ago

Reddit was flooded with thousands of bots leading up to and following the election. Thousands more, I mean. They're all trying to rack up karma so they look legit, and can then be sold to sketchy political astroturfers.

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u/Significant-Gap-6891 2d ago

There's no image

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u/SpiritedAd4339 2d ago

Have you tried feeling a different way?

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u/beetlegirl- 1d ago

i think i might be unhappy due to multiple incurable diseases but yk

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

Chronic illnesses and the state of the world don't help at all.

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u/wetbones_ 2d ago

I’ve noticed it too

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u/paintmered2024 2d ago

I just scrolled through the subreddit and really see anything that stuck out to me as bad? Am I missing something?

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

Posted link in the edit

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u/MyStepAccount1234 2d ago

Maybe they're deleted now?

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u/I_Dream_Of_Oranges 5h ago

I have yet to be impressed with any of the ‘cool guides’ posts. At least the people in the comments on this one seem to realize it’s total garbage.

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u/manusiapurba 1d ago

To be fair, it's titled "how to be unhappy" and "guide to become unhappy", which is technically correct. As in, if you do these habits, regardless choosing yourself or environment driven, you'd more likely be unhappy. I think this gets a pass since the pic itself isn't claiming it's self chosen and doesn't tell anyone to stop being unhappy.

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u/tanithjackal 1d ago

It's titled Why People Become Unhappy, so I don't understand your point.

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u/Cantaloupe4Sale 45m ago

That’s not victim blaming lmao. You can’t change your life without a great amount of effort, and you personally can’t change the world. Most people don’t even possess the capability to change their lives at least not very quickly.

But what you can do is change your perspective. It isn’t wrong for people to be upset with their circumstances. However, what post like this presume is a worldview where you admit to yourself that stirring over things negatively is not going to ameliorate your present circumstances.

Do you know that some people are poorer than dirt but they’re still happy bc they don’t define themselves by their circumstances but by the things that bring them joy and love?

You can choose to live that way. There are some people who, despite their best efforts are always feeling down. It could be a neurological problem, trauma-related, related to their environment or circumstances or it could be completely psychological. But at the end of the day, this post is addressing the greatest proportion of people. Those that don’t realize letting your spirit low is half the battle one for the system.