r/thanksimcured • u/ASweetTweetRose • 2d ago
Story Just don’t worry about it …
I’m getting dinner with my brother/family and my brother says that “I’ve stopped worrying about things. I remember Warren Buffett saying that when finances are bad focus on yourself, so that’s what I’m telling myself, to focus on myself.”
And I’m saying to myself as he’s saying this “Must be nice to have that mindset, not having to worry about the cost of things skyrocketing. Fucking asshole.”
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u/paintmered2024 2d ago
Am I reading this wrong, or are you mad at your brother for something that helped him? He wasn't telling you to just not worry about it? If he's telling his account of something that helped him who are we to invalidate that?
Again, maybe I'm reading it incorrectly? Maybe there is missing context or something
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u/DwarfStar21 2d ago
Nah I'm with you on this one. As written, OP's post sounds like their brother shared something that helped him without the intent of preaching to OP, but they privately got bitter about it anyway
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
He’s preaching it to others, that’s what pisses me off. He has money.
People have valid reason to be upset right now about their finances/the future. Telling them “Don’t worry!!” is, in my opinion, ignorant.
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u/paintmered2024 1d ago
Was it unsolicited advice or was the rest of the family asking? If it wasn't unsolicited I don't really see the issue.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
Unsolicited. He brought up the stock market and so politics and then shared this advice. Said a lot of people on his FB were stressing so he shared this valuable advice …
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u/Savings_Vermicelli39 1d ago
I'm glad you kept that to yourself. Good job.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
Thank you?
I do that a lot with my brother because I can’t relate to him at all.
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u/paintmered2024 1d ago edited 1d ago
Just because something doesn't relate to you doesn't mean it's inherently bad. We don't have to relate to everyone and everything. It's very possible that someone can struggle more financially when they're not taking care of themselves mentally and emotionally. I know when I'm struggling mentally I spend more on booze, ordering in, etc. When I start making my mental health a priority my finances definitely benefit.
Obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, but it could be very good advice for certain people. Not being able to center yourself doesn't make something bad.
If he's just sharing his own experience no one really has the right to invalidate that.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
🤔 In that case, this finance shit show could really help him. Maybe he does need this opportunity to realize he doesn’t need something just because he can afford it.
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u/paintmered2024 1d ago edited 1d ago
I could be way off here, tone and intent can be hard to distinguish online, so forgive me if I'm off, but you just sound kinda bitter that he's better off than you. Nothing you have mentioned sounds harmful. People are allowed to share their own testimonies. If it's what helped him, why would anyone else feel like they have the right invalidate it?
From your own account he didn't say "just don't worry" he said he refocuses his anxiety to himself to work on himself. And I said before, can be helpful for some people as some people do tend to struggle financially when they're not prioritizing their mental health.
It's his money. Why is it any of your business what he buys that you feel like he doesn't need it. If he's wealthy and everyone in your family else isn't as you said, doesn't really sound like he needs anyone else's input.
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u/raven-of-the-sea 1d ago
Warren Buffett has money, he can afford to not worry.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
PRECISELY!!
That’s what pisses me off about my brother thinking this advice is something mind-blowing that someone without money can just hold on to/follow.
“Don’t worry about it!!”
Don’t worry about how I’m going to afford groceries? Pay rent? Afford gas for my car? Cool. Solid advice.
Like telling a cancer patient to just chill!
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u/Fresh-Pangolin3432 4h ago
You're so mad that your BROTHER is taking the advice to worry about himself when having issues with money? So mad and bitter, that you feel like HE'S the ahole? Sorry, but you are sorely mistaken. Not only that, you're jealous, bitter, and bad with money. Get over yourself and stop a. Having kids b. Living above your means c. Avoiding going back to school Orrr maybe worry about yourself like he is then you won't be so triggered
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u/ASweetTweetRose 2h ago
Thankfully, I’ve never had kids and don’t want kids so that’s not a problem. 🤷🏼♀️
And, yeah, I’m trying to take his advice and focus on myself. I wish I could have better ignored him and he didn’t get to me like he does.
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u/manusiapurba 1d ago
I dont think hes saying to be cured, just "i can't control what i cant control" stuff.
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
And I just hear it as “I don’t have to worry because I have plenty of money 🤷🏼♀️” and I just think that’s so tone deaf …
🤷🏼♀️
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u/manusiapurba 1d ago
Oh he's richer guy? Well that changes everything then. How insensitive of him
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u/ASweetTweetRose 1d ago
YES!! He easily makes 100K more than me. He doesn’t have to worry at all about anything. The start of this he was just, “I’m just staying in my 3 foot circle and not worrying about anyone or anything else!!” And I’m, like, “I have to know my community because it may come a point where I’m going to need to rely on them.”
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u/manusiapurba 1d ago
Awful. No empathy manners at all
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u/ASweetTweetRose 21h ago
NONE!!
He tips based on how good the service was and will tip under 20% and never over.
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u/CloudyStarsInTheSky 16h ago
He tips based on how good the service was
Wait, what else are you factoring in? That's what a tip is. Also, 20%? That's insanely high already, what do you expect?
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u/Evening-Dizzy 1d ago
Are you mad your brother is doing well? It sounds like he shifted his focus from financial growth to emotional growth, not bragging about being rich.