r/thanksimcured • u/Consistent-Power1722 • 1d ago
Social Media Blaming myself for being depressed or traumatized, gonna help me improve from there
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u/mocarone 1d ago
Bro they are right, blame others from the shit they did to you, recognize yourself for the growth you did despite that.
Make their message based
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u/HesitantBrobecks 12h ago
In absolutely no interpretation of the English language could that "meme" be encouraging blaming others for what they did to you...
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u/SydneySoAndSo 9h ago
I'm gonna be so real, I thought it said, "blaming others for self-improvement," and I'm pretty sure that's what they read, too.
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u/puro_the_protogen67 16h ago
The person who made this has clearly not read or watched Vinland saga
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u/BoxMain451 17h ago
I think it’d be more accurate to say “holding yourself accountable for your self improvement”
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u/SydneySoAndSo 9h ago
Yeah, but then they don't get to act like they're tough and edgy for it. Then it's actually about growth rather than blame.
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u/He_Never_Helps_01 21h ago
This is for incels and shit. It's about blaming other people for your problems. Taking it personally is not a good look.
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u/Far-Tap6478 21h ago
Yeah I see this as more of a relatable/inspirational post for someone who finally learned to take accountability for their own mistakes. It’s not claiming or attempting to help people who internalize what others do to them. We can’t expect everyone who makes an edit/meme/image like this to consider every possible niche audience and how it might affect every last one of them—we don’t expect that level of (sub)cultural competency from anyone in society. That would be superhuman.
I think a lot of people on this subreddit struggle with distorted, often very polarized thinking. That’s not meant to be insulting, I just think it’s true.
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u/He_Never_Helps_01 15h ago
This used to be a place where we called out assholes and morons for invalidating mental illness and for offering easy cures for things that have no easy cure. The "anxiety doesn't exist" people.
But These days 80% of the stuff that shows up here is people farming internet points by taking inspirational content and personal success stories as a personal insult, and it's reflects really poorly on people who suffer from chronic mental illness.
There's already this destructive stereotype that people like us are all just self involved fakers who are just milking sympathy and don't wanna help ourselves and are blaming a self-disgnosis for everything wrong in our lives. being aggressively offended by anything that makes any effort to be helpful or hopeful plays right into that harmful lie.
It's gone from a place that genuinely tries to educate anti-science weirdos into one that actively confirms the sterotype.
And what's worse is that sometimes we end up basically bullying the people who made these posts to begin with, casting their personal success stories and their desire to share some of their own newly discovered hope as something harmful. People who could very well be part of this community.
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u/Far-Tap6478 14h ago
I agree with everything you said.
One thing that came to mind after reading what you wrote, the people here are generally here because they’re struggling in some way. I know I am. Rage- and anxiety-baiting are already wrong, but coming here and intentionally baiting vulnerable people, including mentally/emotionally vulnerable people, all for some Reddit karma…That’s just extra slimy. These kinds of posts, whether this is their goal or not, are priming people’s minds to be more reactive—that is, anxious, fearful, and more easily triggered/upset.
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u/LogicalJudgement 16h ago
What is it with people misconstruing the messages in these memes. A lot of them are about how self improvement helps you overcome CERTAIN issues. I wallowed in my depression for nearly a decade and it wasn’t until I took control of my life and got help that I did start to improve. It’s not like when people tell you to try a weird diet to get rid of cancer. Obviously you can’t take care of all ailments with a positive mindset, but there are a LOT of things where ownership can really help pave the way to better health.
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u/Mein_Name_ist_falsch 19h ago
Guys, is it maybe just time to leave this subreddit? I think it's dead.
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u/bitxhbag 10h ago
“Hey maybe you should not lay around all day and try going outside” is bad advice on this sub and that’s all you need to know
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u/MultinamedKK 9h ago
Ah yes, blaming myself for my sister abusing me and my dad allowing it, just like I always do.
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u/Dazziboi 1d ago
You are always the reason for your problems. We see a grain a of sand and turn it into a beach. You’re mad because this meme is speaking to you. Take some accountability
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u/NPC_Tundra 10h ago
Nah, the world I've been forced to live in is the main source of my problems
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u/Dazziboi 9h ago
No dude, it’s you. Stay in that mentality though, see how far it gets you
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u/NPC_Tundra 8h ago
Got me farther than blaming myself for everything, i wouldn't be here without it
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u/MultinamedKK 9h ago
I'm being abused because of me? Wow! Thanks a lot, bozo.
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u/Dazziboi 8h ago
The key to resolving trauma is realizing you have control how you process it. That’s all I’m going to say. And I’m sorry for what you had to go through.
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u/He_Never_Helps_01 21h ago
It ain't about anything to do with this sub. It's about blaming other people for your problems. OP is just farming for internet points.
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u/RatOfBooks 22h ago
Funny how I started to improve the moment I stopped blaming myself for my sister's death