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r/PakLounge • u/VividPlane1455 • Apr 09 '24
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r/PakLounge • u/SchoolOk9625 • 20h ago
I dont get it?
why would pakistan ever send their own troops on Palestinian lands to fight a war that is not of our COUNTRY’s own. what is this propaganda?
r/PakLounge • u/Sea_Satisfaction2171 • 4h ago
What has happened to r/pakistan, it used to be so positive and expressive few years back
You could make a few jokes here and there, we had to be respectful but now it has gone crazy. Banning for silly little things people say to each other all the time and it's part of the normal conversation. And it's not even disrespectful.
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 7h ago
Water level in key dams rises slightly after rainfall
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 4h ago
Around 90,000 pilgrims to perform Haj under govt scheme: report
r/PakLounge • u/Silver_Grapefruit226 • 9h ago
First Positive News I've Read In A Long Time.
On solar systems in Pakistan.
r/PakLounge • u/New-Sand-4608 • 15h ago
Divorce Stigma in Pakistani Society – Even Men Face It
Assalamu Alaikum everyone,
I’ve been searching for a rishta for about 1.5 years now, and it’s been tougher than I expected. I’m a decent guy – stable job, good family, practicing Muslim – but the moment people hear I was married before, they back off. It doesn’t seem to matter that there’s a genuine reason behind it; the stigma in our society just takes over.
Back in May 2023, I had a short marriage that lasted only a few months. It ended because the girl and her family didn’t disclose some serious health issues she had. These weren’t minor problems – they were conditions that made a future together impossible, especially since they chose to hide them instead of being honest. In Islam, trust and transparency are so important, and when that wasn’t there, I couldn’t continue.
Now, whenever I share this with a potential match or their family, it’s like an instant dealbreaker. I get that divorce carries a stigma, especially in Pakistani culture, and I’ve seen how hard it is for women. But I didn’t realize men would face it too – even with a valid reason. It’s frustrating because I’m upfront about it, yet people judge without understanding.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you navigate the rishta process when society’s so quick to label you? I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences – whether it’s advice from an Islamic perspective, cultural insights, or just how you’ve handled the arranged marriage scene. Feels like I’m stuck, and I could use some wisdom!
JazakAllah Khair.
Edit (1): You're missing the point guys — it was undisclosed. I'm not someone who would walk away just because of a health condition. But hiding something that important is dishonest, and that kind of deception is completely unethical, don't you think?
Besides, I found out about it just two days before we were supposed to leave for Umrah — barely a week after the wedding. My family wanted to send her back, but I stood by her side and didn’t let that happen, even though I was only 25 at the time. I don’t let pressure dictate my decisions. After we returned, I made sure she got the best medical care in Lahore — both through doctors and rohani ilaj. There were other factors involved as well, but I choose not to go into them as that would border on gheebah, which I want to avoid.
r/PakLounge • u/UrWait • 1m ago
Took mushrooms few days ago for 1st time
20 F, just started medical school (yay stress!), and I’ve always been curious about magic mushrooms. Growing up, I heard all these mystical stories about God, the universe, and the Sufi poets my mom loves—Rumi, Hafiz, Bulleh Shah. I’m not super religious, but I’ve always wondered if there’s more to life than textbooks and caffeine. So, during Eid holidays, I decided to dive in. I got my hands on 5 grams of Jedi Mind Fuck—yeah, I know, heavy for a first-timer, but I’m a go big or go home kinda gal. I did it alone at night. Set up some fairy lights, a playlist with qawwali and NFAK beats, and just… let go. Holy crap, guys. It was like my brain got hijacked by the universe, and I met Him , the Divine, whatever you wanna call it. I posted this unhinged rant on Reddit mid-trip (pasted below), and reading it back now, I sound like a lunatic, but it felt so real. Here’s what I wrote while peaking Mid-Trip Rant it is very raw and i don't remember writing half of it. Now reading it back made even me surprised . After reading it most of the people called me names so proceed on your own discretion :)
https://www.reddit.com/r/IslamabadSocial/comments/1jq296t/i_found_him_finally/
So yeah, that was me at like at night crying, laughing, and typing like a possessed poet. The trip itself was intense, JMF lives up to its name. The visuals were insane, like fractals dancing in my room, but the real kicker was this overwhelming sense of connection. I felt God—not some distant figure, but this living, breathing presence in me and everything. It was like all the Sufi poetry I’d heard as a kid suddenly made sense. Now,few days after, I’m still processing it. I didn’t turn into some enlightened guru overnight, but there are these subtle shifts. I’m less anxious about med school—still stressed, but it’s like I know there’s a bigger picture. I’ve been nicer to people, too. Like, I smiled at this grumpy cashier yesterday instead of getting annoyed, and it felt good. I even started journaling again, something I’d dropped since high school. Would I do it again? Maybe, but not 5 grams taht too all alone. that was a lot. I’m curious what you all think. Has anyone else had a trip that rewired how they see the world? Or am I just a newbie tripping over my own brain? Either way, I’m kinda grateful for that chaotic night.Peace and love to you all!
Note1 : I am receiving lot of messages from lot of lovely people asking all kind of questions. My humble request is to please ask openly under this post so everybody can see questions and their answers. Thank you
Note 2: There is no duality about God in true sense. Multiple existance of Gods is our perspective. To see or feel the true God, you must deny your existence. That is what happened during my experience, i stopped to exist for little time, i.e ego dissolution and in that moment of bliss my consciousness expanded and merged into universal consciousness and i saw empire and power of the God thru his eyes, that is what it meant to feel God or see God. You become all and you become one with the all, you become the wind, you become the fie, you become creation and you become creator. In nutshell you experience all the emotions and experiences there are in the universe.
r/PakLounge • u/Hurridown • 1h ago
"Unfair College Policy: No Roll Number Slip Without a Fine?"
I study at a branch of one of the biggest colleges in Punjab, Pakistan, & I am currently in 11th grade.
Our college has a very absurd policy that if a student fails the phase test or pre-board exams, they are 'fined 1k per subject'.
The roll number slip is only issued once the fine is paid; otherwise, it is not given.
So, my question is: If someone fails & can't afford to pay the fine, what should they do?
Is there any other way to get the roll number slip?
(Many students are fined at least 3-4k.)
r/PakLounge • u/LowBudgetVillain • 5h ago
How do I start selling my paintings?
Okay, so it's for the artists and people who buy art.
Someone asked me the other day if my paintings are for sale, and I’ve never sold anything before. I usually just post them on Instagram for fun, but now I’m thinking of actually selling them.
The thing is, I have no idea how to go about it. How do you decide on pricing? (I need details. Everyone says you gotta choose, but how do I know it's worth it? For me, it's precious, of course.) Also, varnish, framing, delivery, and other stuff.
If anyone has tips or has been in the same situation, please share! Would really appreciate the help. ✨
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 1d ago
At least 100 children killed or injured daily in Gaza since truce ended: UNRWA
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 7h ago
Senior batters need to improve in chase, admits Rizwan
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 7h ago
Major operation against marchers ‘imminent’, says BNP’s Mengal
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 7h ago
Beautiful poetry
مل کے بچھڑے ہو تم ہر خوشی چھن گئی
آ رزوں کا سارا جہاں لٹ گیا
میں نے تیرے اشارے کا رکھا بھرم
تو نے چاہا جہاں میں وہاں لٹ گیا
Mil ke bichray ho tum har khushi chin gai
Aarzoon ka sara jahan lut gaya
Meinay teray Isharay ka rakha bharam
Tu ne chaha jahan mien wahan lut gaya..
--Unknown
r/PakLounge • u/insanelyrotten • 20h ago
Safe space for teens
Hi guys. Fellow teenager here. I have noticed that the IndianTeenager subreddit has such an active community of teens, and quite frankly im jealous. About 300k. Like they are united.
Just a request, if any pakteenagers are lingering around here, give r/TeenPakistani a chance
r/PakLounge • u/inoo2006 • 20h ago
5 tickets available for Kaavish concert
6th april PNCA ISLAMABAD. dm for details
r/PakLounge • u/Interlocutor1980 • 1d ago
People should benefit from lower inflation: Aurangzeb
r/PakLounge • u/aoharu_sama279 • 21h ago
Where can I find this with a reasonable price.
This is way expensive, where can I find such grooming kit for affordable price.
r/PakLounge • u/Alternative_Ease5892 • 22h ago
Urgently need 100k, Here are my skill set.
I am in need of some money and was hoping I could get paid for some work that I could do. My skill set: - Tutoring students from grade 4 to 10. - Offering English reinforcement lessons. - Content Writing. - Help with homework and stuff. - Can make decent stuff in Graphic Designing on Canva.
If anyone is interested in offering me some work, they can contact me on my personal phone number. Just DM me on Reddit and I'll give you the number.
r/PakLounge • u/Dry_Jury7394 • 20h ago
So, i have been thinking about this a lot lately
How would you react after finding out that your spouse used to self-harm?
I know islam encourages transparency in marriage but being a Pakistani AND a woman, it's almost impossible to discuss these things before marriage without being shamed. Do deep keloid scars and history of depression make women unattractive.
What would be your course of action?
r/PakLounge • u/islamabadie • 1d ago
Chat, should I give this guy a chance?
So there's a guy in my uni. He spoke to me once about exams and on the second convo he proposed me, that he seriously likes me. Like why tf does he like me?? He doesn't even know me yet. Anyways in class he started sitting close to me, I called him out for it publicly but he still used to sit there. He sends unnecessary videos, messages, and stickers in class whatsapp groups to get my attention maybe. What do you guys think of him?? Seems like he's obsessed even tho I haven't really give him any direct attention