r/ADHD • u/TeaComplex947 • 1d ago

Questions/Advice why can’t I do literally anything?

I can go to work and do what I have to do there (thank you meds) but that it’s quite literally the extent of it. I get home, can’t clean or cook or do uni, but I also can’t do anything that I actually enjoy? I love to read, crochet, play computer games, watch my favourite shows and youtubers, ect. It’s somehow worse on weekends - I wake up so excited that I have a whole day to do all of my favourite things and just relax, but 9/10 times i end up doing nothing but scroll on my phone and waste the entire day.

Most of the time i think it’s a guilt/shame thing because the house is so messy and i can’t do anything else out of guilt - but today we had to clean the whole house for visitors and after they left, I STILL spent hours doing absolutely nothing when I had planned to do some fun things/hobbies today.

Has anyone else been through this? why does this happen? any tips for breaking out of this cycle?

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u/Raketjohnny 1d ago

You are not alone, feels like everyday thing for me too. And worst is when ppl ask you: What did you do during your weekend or whats your weekend plans? The shame.. Its just a stab in the guts, cus i know what i will do every weekend. Nothing. Hang in there my man.

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u/Upbeat_Measurement_9 1d ago

I know the feel oh too well. The last several years however I've changed to brutally honest answers. "I don't have any plans" "I actually don't like even making plans. " I did nothing this weekend, absolutely nothing" like they say in office space. " I didn't do shit, all weekend and I loved it"

I get funny looks, and someone might say " no wonder why you're single. " I love being single too

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u/Raketjohnny 1d ago

Yeah, these answers are good and i agree! But deep down it hurts and i some what feel shame. I know i shouldnt feel shame, cus why.. but the ADHD dont help here. I wish i could stop caring. It all feels like a mask ontop of the ADHD-Mask.

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u/PerseveringPanda 1d ago

No 'Shoulds' when it comes to adhd and feelings. Recognizing and acknowledging that you are feeling hurt and shame is the hardest part and you're doing that!!!

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

It really does feel the most peaceful though!

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u/hachicorp 1d ago

same

it doesn't help that it feels like the weekends are going faster and faster too. it's already 6pm on Saturday where I am and I didn't do much anything today and the day is almost over. tomorrow will be equally fast and then it's Monday

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u/scissorsensei 1d ago

I saw your comment in another reddit. Message me pls.