r/ADHD • u/TeaComplex947 • 1d ago
Questions/Advice why can’t I do literally anything?
I can go to work and do what I have to do there (thank you meds) but that it’s quite literally the extent of it. I get home, can’t clean or cook or do uni, but I also can’t do anything that I actually enjoy? I love to read, crochet, play computer games, watch my favourite shows and youtubers, ect. It’s somehow worse on weekends - I wake up so excited that I have a whole day to do all of my favourite things and just relax, but 9/10 times i end up doing nothing but scroll on my phone and waste the entire day.
Most of the time i think it’s a guilt/shame thing because the house is so messy and i can’t do anything else out of guilt - but today we had to clean the whole house for visitors and after they left, I STILL spent hours doing absolutely nothing when I had planned to do some fun things/hobbies today.
Has anyone else been through this? why does this happen? any tips for breaking out of this cycle?
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u/LeKingStone 1d ago
The big thing that has worked for me is treating my bed as a location that I may only be in for sleep. Thus, can’t bed rot if I’m not in a bed. Another step is to make the rotting location uncomfortable. So for me, I got rid of my bed and started sleeping on the hard floor
Also getting another person with you for stuff, whether they be kith, kin, or support worker. It takes me weeks to finally start and finish an even a tiny project. But give me a whiteboard and a friend who says “huh?” whenever I constantly speak paradoxically, and all 2,000 words will be done within the next 20 minutes
For tidying, I force myself to reinterpret it all as something fun. I fixated upon interior design and cleaning, thus whenever I had a hint of energy to tidying, I launched into it, then that snowballed into my entire living space
i try to ensure that whenever I use technology/the internet, I have a purpose for it. If there is an end goal for scrolling through Reddit, such as sparking interest in a topic or novel to analyse and then write what I learned, then whence I’ve done that, I’ve satisfied my desire, y’know. I move on and feel accomplished, instead of woeful
consultation with your psychiatrist to improve your medication routine
Improve sleep, diet, water, exercise, emotional security, stress; the usual, y’know. And yes, catch 22, but any little thing can make a massive difference