Yeah...lol it's kind of invalidating. I kinda hate this kind of fake positivity, like the only way to address sth is to ...deny it? Diminish it? And it kind of imposes and spreads a narrative that is really just tone person's experience and doesn't reflect all the hardship that it truly is. As for society, well, it does suck so 🌚
Ikr? How come it is a superpower when we cannot do the things we need and the things we enjoy?.. Others can't relate because they just do what they want and need..
Yep, if I am grateful not to have some other kind of evident disability (down syndrome, severe non-"high-functioning" autism or wtv), the fact of ADHD being invisible, non credible or fully acceptable makes it so hard. You are normal, you look normal and even mostly behave sort of normal.... I don't like feeling hopeless but it's also maddening having to deny the struggle. Indeed if you were down or visibly autistic you'd be limited in several areas and opportunities, which you're not if you're ADHD or the like, but it also means you have to face the same "normal" expectations and not just from others but from yourself. It's this constant pull between "fuck, but I can/could have this" and "it seems like it, it looks even like it, but I can't..."
It's being fully aware of how stunted you are while not seeing it: a weird dualism. And somehow seeing other ADHD people making it makes you wonder. Though the trap may be that just like autism and whatever, any other mind, no two minds and no two conditions are the same - and by a laaaarge degree. Sorry, oversharing much?! Aye?
No worries, share as much as you want.
We need to remember that not only two minds are not the same but also people have different environments around them. Someone might have good support (academic, financial, emotional), be in their element from the start, etc etc. Even something like a sense of self-worth - so much depends on it in my life and I have to fight for it daily with myself but there are people who were born with a strong sense of self-worth.
This is why we need to learn how to be kind to ourselves, be there for ourselves when it is hard. We already try to do our best - and our best is not the same with others, even not the same every day. ❤️
What I have been doing is trying to trust the process. Tiny bit today, little bit next time. Maybe it feels like there is no progress but we don't see the full picture from where we are in the timeline. With time the results will be more noticeable, you will notice improvement, you will feel it. Good luck!
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u/SebinSun 9d ago
"ADHD is a superpower." or "You struggle because the systems weren't designed for you, it's all society's fault, it is not a disability." 🤡