I wish I could scream this at people sometimes. Having a few of the symptoms some of the time is not the same as having them to a debilitating degree, all of the time!!!!
But unfortunately I already have too much of a reputation for being tediously argumentative in years gone by (always in a friendly/smartass way though, never angry or anything).
When younger was probably not selective enough in who/when that was appropriate. But being older now I don't subject anyone to it, unless they're just as much up for it too, or they're speaking complete excrement that I need to get into some details on it with them.
But given my reputation & selectivity now, rarely get the chance to find willing challengers any more, haha.
Not that I even approach it like a debate/argument any more. Socratic method works so much better.
I too unfortunately have always had a reputation for being a bit argumentative or too "strongly" opinionated. I'm learning to just let things slide now, as much as it doesn't sit naturally with me at all 😂
Yeah I try to avoid "telling" people things now, and just respond with a few Socratic Method style questions.
It works better at getting both of us to listen to each other, and thing about our opinions. And makes me less annoying.
If I can't get a few answers or interest out of them on it, will usually just move on. Even when it only goes that far, I think sometimes it still gives a bit of a hint to them to think a bit more about what they're saying.
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