I get what you mean. The problem is that, even when giving an explanation people hit you (not always but often) with borderline passive aggressive comments like you are giving excuses.
I don't use it (or my bipolar) as excuses, I just give context on why I think X situation happened. But I don't bother anymore, those who are close and matter already know, those who aren't don't need to know, so I just apologize and correct my mistakes
Also there are levels of importance and levels or difficulty to tasks, you know? For lots of things, like important stuff, it’s my job to figure out how to do them with my disability or ask for help. But if there’s a low importance task that would take me exceedingly high effort to complete, yes, actually, I’ll not do it, because of my ADHD. Stupid examples, but the only ones I can think of right now: when incant focus on my very important college reading, I will figure out a way around it - read it out loud, read smaller sections, etc etc etc. but if I just can’t make myself sort out the laundry and finish the dishes because I keep walking off and not even noticing, instead of forcing myself to do that anyway, I’ll just put the laundry in with a colour catching towel and put everything in the dishwasher, because I COULD try to make myself handwash my semi delicate items or I could save myself the struggle
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u/RegularUser23 5d ago
Well, have you tried applying yourself?
How about putting an effort?
And what about not using your disorders as an excuse ?
Maybe, if you truly understood that we all don't want to work and do chores but we all do it anyways, you would do it right away, right?
Come on OP, we all forget things sometimes, we are all ADHD
I have heard all of the above, multiple times, it makes me want to go rampage on people