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u/ParisInFlames34 9d ago

Not gonna lie. I'm very concerned that you think cleaning a bathroom once a week is outrageous.

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u/Flimsy_Charity_2977 9d ago

Right?! Now Iā€™m questioning if Iā€™m weird for doing it every other day? Once a week is the least

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

I do a full scrub once a week and daily wipe of surfaces, sink, toilet including bowl, and mirror. I think that's normal?

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u/bdubblecu 9d ago

I am just realizing I might be disgusting lol

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u/SeventyThirtySplit 9d ago

Nah Iā€™m right there with you

Had not previously realized i was a pig

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u/fury420 8d ago

I've accepted that I have some piglike qualities, but there's no way that a "daily wipe of surfaces, sink, toilet including bowl, and mirror." is normal, that's cleanliness obsession territory.

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u/OMGCamCole 8d ago edited 8d ago

If I notice something is visibly dirty Iā€™ll wipe it. Like yah if thereā€™s piss splatter on the rim of the toilet bowl, or toothpaste in the sink, Iā€™m not gonna just look at it and walk away. But I wouldnā€™t really say I do a daily wipe down just to do it. If I just cleaned a couple days ago and go in the bathroom and everything looks fine, I ainā€™t doing shit to it. Once a week to clean a bathroom is reasonable though, and really all thatā€™s needed if youā€™re doing quick spot cleans throughout the week

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u/gayerthanmusicals 8d ago

that is good honestly, if you clean up after yourself as you go along your day 1) you wont even realize youre cleaning half the time 2) theres less to clean when it comes to cleaning day(s) 3) d o p a m i n e (from cleanliness edit: just now realizing some people may not get dopamine from that)

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u/OMGCamCole 8d ago

Point 3 is no joke. Doing even a small task is enough to make you feel better about relaxing and doing nothing.

Saw a thing once that said to just do ā€œ10 minutes every dayā€. Youā€™ve got a big list of random BS to do? That room needs organizing, that hook needs to be hung, garbage needs to go to the curb, the table is wobbly, etc etc. 10 minutes a day is all you need. Within 1-2 weeks that list of small BS items will be cleared out and youā€™ll feel gooooooood

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u/mldewer 8d ago

ADHD will disagree with you about this. I don't get dopamine at all, from doing shit I don't care about.

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u/DwellerofThings 8d ago

I think that 10 minutes a day is something I need to look into. I live alone in a small space so I ignore those small tasks bc ā€œnobodyā€™s gonna seeā€ but once I do a deep clean day I feel so good.

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u/gayerthanmusicals 8d ago

ahhhh yay!!! im glad im not the only one ^ my friends call me weird for it (though we arent much older than OP, im m20, living with m19 & m19 + his f19 gf comes over sometimes, which could be why) but it is truly cathartic, especially something like wiping the floors really helps (sometimes mops just dont get all it so i go over the bits with a rough sponge first then mop), or even tasks that do take a lot outta me can be cathartic if thats what i need- like today i vacuumed the whole apartment, and i mean whole, walls, lights, ceilings, extractor fan, pulled the oven out and tipped my refrigerator to get under there (its a small one that is very light, Bush brand)

and yeah!!!!!! 10 minutes technique is amazing or a small corner a day works too!!! start in one corner and slowly do a bit at a time per day, eventually you'll have a clean area while not burning out or exhausting yourself, and still having lots of time!!!! my therapist taught me this to help with my executive dysfunction (ironically), its easier to remember and easier to do when its such a small area, and often from there id snowball into cleaning the whole room, now i enjoy cleaning!!!! you can kinda just let ur mind melt n focus on getting that particular tricky spot, coming up with ways to get it like some sort of mad hygienist šŸ¤£šŸ¤£

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u/finfan44 8d ago

I'm the same. My wife and I own a huge old house. If we cleaned every surface even once a week, we'd be cleaning constantly. Fuck that shit. I just try to not make a mess and spot clean when I do. Then once a week or so we clean a room or two. The kitchen is not included in that, it requires daily maintenance.

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u/Old-Craft3689 8d ago

Cleaning the bathroom once a week is reasonable yeah, but whoever doing that needs a real fuckin hobby. Cleaning is not a hobby

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u/taintblister 8d ago

I feel like thatā€™s the minimum I have to do with 5 cats, a dog, and 5 ppl. Itā€™s insane how fast things get nasty

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u/HolyFuckImOldNow 8d ago

With that amount of warm bodies contributing to making a mess, it's reasonable to clean daily.

Just me & wife with no pets... there's no reason to daily clean a bathroom.

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u/liteowl 8d ago

Yeah I was gonna say it really depends on how many people/animals are living in the house. With a two kids, a husband, two dogs, and a cat I absolutely have to wipe things down everyday or it gets gross. If it was just me I could probably do a few times a week and be just fine.

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u/GeneralTasty4083 8d ago

Pigs have the longest lasting orgasms , so you've got that going for you.

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u/crusty_ice 8d ago

i unfortunately already know iā€™m a pig but im trying to fix it. that being said, itā€™s someone elseā€™s house and not at all outrageous.

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u/AzucarParaTi 8d ago

Are we supposed to be doing this every day? šŸ‘€

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u/Sirens-L-8916 9d ago

Same. I scrub once a week but I donā€™t do anything inbetween- Iā€™m too busy with work and life?

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u/ColdWarm10 8d ago

Remember its all relative, you might keep your washroom significantly cleaner than someone else throughout the week. Im a guy that lives alone, its very hard to tell if its the day before I clean my washroom or the day after I cleaned it, It simply does not get very dirty in a week. If you are similar to me in that regard you could easily get away with taking more than a week (2 but beyond that I think any regularily used washroom will show)

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u/Sirens-L-8916 8d ago

Trueeeeee. When I scrub, I scrub. You can eat off my floors. During the week I just donā€™t have the mental capacity for it.

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u/buttermymankey 8d ago

Same. I do a full clean once a week, other than that I wipe counters/sink if I make a mess shaving or accidently spit my toothpaste on the edge of the sink. Clean as you make a mess, and you dont need to do more than a weekly deep clean to scrub mirrors, toilets, etc.

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u/Wonderful-Impact5121 9d ago

According to the ā€œI deep clean my house once a weekā€ people, probably? Haha.

But according to most of humanity and that youā€™re concerned about being disgusting at all, youā€™re doing just fine Iā€™m sure.

Talk to anyone who has ever had to regularly go in peoples homes for work.

Most people are grosser than people generally think.

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u/stag1013 9d ago

Paramedic here. Can confirm

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u/Squifford 9d ago

Housecall private music teacher here. Can also confirm.

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u/stag1013 8d ago

See, that one scares me. My worst offenders are people who are also taking poor care of their health, with either reduced mobility or low income. Yours are... generally succeeding but can't clean? Wild

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u/Critical-Dig 8d ago

Yes, I came to say something similar. An unexpected paramedic visit to somebody who may not be in good health is one thing but somebody planning a music lesson canā€™t clean up before the teacher arrives? Thatā€™s kind of ew.

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u/Significant_Yam_3490 8d ago

I think that thereā€™s a lot to consider with hygiene habits. Someone tried to call me disgusting for not vacuuming daily, I sweep near the litter boxes daily and vacuum probably twice a week.

People who live alone, work a 9-5, and have hobbies, it is hard to keep things immaculate every day.

I make a conscious effort to clean the dishes at night, put them up in the morning, ect repeat.

I wipe counters whenever Iā€™m about to cook bc I have cats.

I clean the toilet once it starts looking gross, this might not be every week.

Iā€™m not the best at cleaning mirrors.

My desk is in a permanent state of dysfunction.

I make my bed every day. I have clothes in the floor most days though.

Idk people have to pick and choose what they want to prioritize. I prioritize having a clean kitchen sink and dishes. I prioritize sweeping litter daily and vacuuming twice a week bc I have two cats. But I also have a life, and Iā€™m only one person. My apartment will never be immaculate, because I spend time there and live in it. And Iā€™m okay with that. Everything goes to chaos eventually, fighting it to the point of insanity is not worth it imo.

It is weird that OP is freeloading and not doing extra chores. If I lived somewhere for free Iā€™d be cleaning everything and trying to make my presence as non-impactful as possible.

Thereā€™s a clear line between clean and filthy. But some people think that line isnā€™t where it is, ie more clean or more gross than where the true line falls.

But a lot of people on Reddit pretend to keep everything immaculate all the time. They are either stay at home wives or husbands, or literally clean every second they arenā€™t at work, or lie.

I prefer to enjoy my life and not clean 24/7. And I think itā€™s rude when people call you disgusting ect for not doing something they do.

not saying this in any way to attack you, just adding onto your points

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u/Ok_Salamander8850 8d ago

Vacuuming everyday is pointless and not good for carpet and if you have wooden floors or any kind of floor with a finish the bristles on the vacuum wears off the finish so your floor will look incredibly dull in no time.

Cleaning also stirs up dirt and filth that can become airborne so at a certain point youā€™re just making sure your air stays full of tiny particles.

Some places do require more cleaning due to things like being close to a dirt road but unless you live in a really dirty place then cleaning all the time just wears out your stuff for no good reason. Even then Iā€™d recommend getting an air purifier before Iā€™d recommend cleaning your whole house three times a week.

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u/tbb10 8d ago

Right! When I read that people are deep cleaning daily like how dirty are you that you have to do that? I vacuum maybe once every 2-3 weeks and sweep when needed my bathroom is cleaned once a month with exceptions of spot cleaning when needed. But Iā€™m almost never home so itā€™s not getting dirty.

I remember growing up and friends telling me they canā€™t hang out because they have to clean their room and it would be on a pretty consistent basis. I was so confused on why it took so long because are they just absolute slobs throughout the week that itā€™s gonna take hours to clean on one day? And Iā€™m over here ā€œcleaningā€ or not making a mess as I go.

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u/TheGoodWlfe 8d ago

OP is in highschool, so idk if I'd go as far as "freeloading".

Seems more like they just don't have many great role models to help them understand what is reasonable. Even their dad more or less said "idk ask your grandfather."

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u/OMGCamCole 8d ago edited 8d ago

If someone feels the need to vacuum their home every single day, Iā€™d ask why they themselves are so disgusting.

Theyā€™d probably be confused, but I know for damn sure my floor doesnā€™t need to be vacuumed everyday. Twice a week is more than reasonable, and really I could push it to once a week and just do a spot-sweep here and there if I wanted.

What are you doing in your home thatā€™s requiring you to vacuum daily? Like sure your home is clean but clearly you arenā€™t if you dirty it up that fast

My daily chores are pretty similar to yours: litter boxes / sweep near them, dishes/clean up kitchen, make bed/tidy up couches and coffee tables and other surfaces. Those are really the only things that I need to do every single day guaranteed. Vacuum probably 1-2 times a week, deep bathroom clean once a week (spot clean throughout), laundry once a week / as needed, dump garbage / green bin as needed, I dust shelving and surfaces probably only once a month. Idk itā€™s not that hard to just keep shit clean on a regular basis without needing to ā€œcleanā€ every day

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u/larsdan2 8d ago

I may be in the minority here, but it's really off putting when I walk into someone's house and it's surgically clean. It doesn't feel lived in. It doesn't feel like they have a life outside of cleaning.

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u/kgrimmburn 8d ago

My husband does construction and I've helped him move furniture and appliances before. Even those people who THINK their house is spotless and act like they're better then every one else? Even they don't pull out their stove and wipe the sides. Even they have dirt and dust and hair under their washer and dryer. And they had food under their fridge. And don't get me started on under dishwashers...

My husband's uncle came as moved my appliances once and was amazed it was clean under them and my husband was like "yeah, she's insane and moves them once a month to clean..." and then he went into the bathroom saw my bathroom squeegee and about died laughing. Now he calls me Sheldon and it's not funny.

But there's still litter next to my cats' litter boxes. I guarantee it's there right now because they're assholes. And if I hadn't just vacuummed 15 minutes ago, there'd have been fur on the rug.

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u/Addiixx 8d ago

Yep. I deliver furniture and 50% of my customers live in disgusting squalor. Makes my house seem spotless in comparison

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u/travelingtraveling_ 8d ago

I do't deep clean my house but.....kitchens and bathrooms are where germs especially like to live. These get cleaned spotless every day, floors once a week.

Just 2 elders here, no pets.

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u/caleb-wendt 8d ago

Former maintenance tech, can confirm

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u/OMGCamCole 8d ago

Someone who goes into peoples houses for work - yuuuuuup

Whenever Iā€™m feeling like my house is a little gross, I remember what the average persons home looks like, and realize I have nothing to worry about. I do make it a point to keep things clean / tidy. House gets tidied up and some amount of chores get done every day.

The average persons home has literal fucking pathways to walk through / between rooms. Just enough free space on the surfaces to do exactly what you need to do, the rest is just shit and clutter. Seriously blows my mind how like 60% of people live

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u/EcstaticAssistant279 8d ago

You donā€™t need to have a job, my ex would never let me go in her house and I never understood why. She stayed at my house for basically 99% of the relationship and the one time I did get to see her houseā€¦.. oh boy, really a ā€œdamn bitch you live like this?ā€ Moment

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u/flutteringfaeries 9d ago

This fucking comment took me out šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

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u/Wanlain 9d ago

Every other dayā€¦ I think maybe MAYBE once a month for deep clean and weekly wipe down. I must be a slob!

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u/mcchicken3030 9d ago

right?? i only deep clean my bathroom once every 1-2 months

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u/Wanlain 9d ago

Everyone must be super sloppy bathroom goers or germaphobes. I can be sloppy but I clean that mess myself right away.

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u/Common_Television601 8d ago

Fully agree, also I live alone. There just.. isn't a lot of mess around :D

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u/sammerguy76 9d ago

Yeah I think they must be just spraying piss and shit everywhere when the use the toilet.Ā 

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u/Wanlain 9d ago

Looks they murdered a shit person in the bowl.

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u/Krillkus 8d ago

Piss mist is real, even if you are an expert marksman. Thatā€™s why as a guy I sit down to piss in my own or someone elseā€™s bathroom.

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u/mrttam01 8d ago

You might also be fine. This kind of thread always brings out the most severely neurotic people.

Someone will say they clean once a week, the next once a day, then eventually someone raises the stakes saying you're disgusting trash unless you wipe yourself down hourly with bleach. šŸ˜…

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u/WobblyBlade 8d ago

Maybe, but if you live on your own you don't have as much to clean as a mother of 5.

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u/corrector300 8d ago

I mean I live by myself, most of my friends have bigger places than I do and so would rather host than come here, I do let stuff slide if no one is coming over because I don't personally care. I do take care of the outrageous stuff like there isn't old food laying around, I take out the garbage, I clean the toilet. but sure there's dust on my bookshelves and maybe an old contact lens on the bathroom floor that didn't make it to the trash when I took it out.

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u/maquekenzie 9d ago

Mood Why wipe the mirrors daily...

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u/Glass_11 9d ago

Because people value a clean and tidy space a lot, so they get into routines and rhythms and that way it's always clean without having to really think about it. If you wait for it to get dirty then it's dirty, isn't it. I wish I were more like that!

Also depends - putting one ass on the toilet is very different from putting three, four, five asses on the toilet.

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u/maquekenzie 8d ago

More i was perplexed because even when I wipe my mirror once a week it feels like there's no difference between the before and after - but it does make sense that people get into the habit and notice more than I do!

I wish I was more like the people who can daily clean their sink - doing a clean once a week is about all my brain can manage

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u/Nattywit_duh_fah_T40 8d ago

I have a grown son that must brush his teeth with his mouth wide open, hunched over and an inch from the mirror because every morning thereā€™s high-velocity toothpaste spatter all over the fuggin place! I ask him all the time to back up, close his gd mouth, or at the very least, wipe the mirror! This is the first time weā€™ve shared a bathroom in 11 years and it drives me nuts! So I end up wiping my mirror and sink daily. I also Clorox wipe the seat throughout the day because, men. šŸ˜³ We bleach and scrub our tub every other day because thereā€™s a toddler in the house that takes baths and my son is an iron worker. I deep clean as needed but I donā€™t think itā€™s weird to do daily cleaning things in a shared bathroom.

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u/Historical-Use-881 9d ago

This has me feeling like those people must have felt when it came out that they weren't washing their legs in the shower.

What is the normal frequency?

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u/fury420 8d ago

Wiping down your bathroom mirror every day is wildly abnormal, I can tell you that.

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u/sirgrassplot 8d ago

My golden rule of cleaning is saying that I clean twice as often as I usually do

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u/Frantzaway 8d ago

Nah don't worry, most Redditors are just liars.

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u/Candycanes02 8d ago

I knew I was disgusting even before this post, but being able to be disgusting is the perk of living alone imo

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u/Upbeat-Fondant9185 8d ago

Hire a housekeeper. Itā€™s life changing and itā€™s surprisingly inexpensive.

Iā€™m a slob and after working 12 hour days I just donā€™t feel like cleaning then or on my day off. It became a problem because eventually it would be overwhelming.

After hiring a housekeeper not only does my place get all the deep cleaning I tended to put off or miss entirely, but it also motivates me to keep it clean myself as I donā€™t want to be embarrassed when she comes over. All I really needed was knowing someone else would be seeing my place on a regular basis.

Itā€™s so much stress off, itā€™s worth every cent and more.

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u/stag1013 9d ago

I'm with you, bud. For the washroom, I did seasonal deeper cleans, and other than that, just clean what looks dirty.

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u/GrotesqueMuscles 9d ago

Eh as long as it smells good I don't clean it

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u/Skow1179 8d ago

Nah these people are not realistic. Cleaning your entire bathroom every day and deep cleaning it once a week? Give me a break

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u/Captain_uwu 8d ago

It really depends on how dirty of a person you are, where you live, how many people are using the space, and a big one being how much you do to main it throughout the week. I vacuum every week because I have cats and allergies, but i only deep clean the bathroom, kitchen, ect every other week and my place is perfectly clean.

I live in a 2 bedroom apartment with a roommate and a girlfriend who is over 5x a week. I'm also the only one that contributes to the cleaning outside gf occasionally helping tidy up after having people over. My girlfriend deep cleans her house once a week and there's really no difference in how clean either of our places are.

In between deep clean weeks I just do my best to maintain. Do dishes as I'm cooking, wiping counter after shaving, spraying bathtub walls when finishing a shower, ect.

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u/TheLastKirin 8d ago

It depends. If someone has 3 boys under 12, or three boys over 12, or 3 boys in any combination, you probably have to wipe down a bathroom every day.

If you're an adult who lives alone? That's different.

(disclaimer, I am not saying girls cant be nasty too, but growing up, any time my male cousins came to visit, there'd be yellow spots all over the toilet, floor, etc...)

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u/Ancient-Bowl462 9d ago

Yep. It gets cleaned when it's dirty. There are 5 bathrooms in my house.

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u/YellowstoneBitch 9d ago

This is what I do! I do a big clean once a week and then small maintenance cleans every other day, wiping down counters, the sink, the toilet, etc. Bathrooms can get so gross so fastā€¦..

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

And it's so much easier to keep it close to perfect all week to make it actually perfect on the weekend.

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u/YellowstoneBitch 9d ago

100% maintenance cleaning is so crucial. Like a deep clean is great and definitely needed time to time, but routine maintenance cleaning keeps you from having to do deep cleans in the first place

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

And for me it's essential to my mental well-being. Growing up, the cleaning style was let-it-slide followed by panic cleaning. Having a home that is nearly always guest-ready increases my daily happiness.

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u/DOOMFOOL 9d ago

Man I envy you, Iā€™m still trying to get there. I find it so hard to motivate myself to clean much during the week, I get so burnt out from my job and then feel stressed about it on the weekends

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u/SHIELDnotSCOTUS 9d ago

Having a spot for every item in your house is helpful! And itā€™s small things you can do while doing other things. Waiting for water to boil for dinner and youā€™re done chopping veggies? Wipe down the kitchen table/patio door/countertops, before washing your hands and getting back into cooking. On hold with customer support? Probably a few minutes to dust!

Also, sticking to a rule of ā€œI only want to touch this item onceā€ means youā€™ll stop picking stuff up and putting them down somewhere to ā€œdo them laterā€ (bc we all know we wonā€™t). Dirty dish from lunch? Take the five minutes to clean it now or to put it in the dishwasher instead of dropping it in the sink. Dishwasher is clean? Cool, now is a great time to empty it, so that way I can put my dirty plate away!

A lot of it is finding ways to make your cleaning efficient and as painless as possible for you. It takes a while! You wonā€™t be able to start fresh immediately and youā€™ll make mistakes. The most important part is not letting those mistakes fester. A couple bad days wonā€™t ruin your progress, but failing to get back into the rhythm bc you feel like a failure will. You got this!!

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u/DOOMFOOL 8d ago

Idk if itā€™s my ADHD but I definitely have an issue with the picking stuff up and putting it down somewhere else thing. You can sometimes follow my exact path through the house by observing my trail of random items -_- definitely something Iā€™m working on

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u/YellowstoneBitch 8d ago

Here are the two phrases that have helped me the most with staying clean and organized

1) donā€™t just put stuff down put it away.

Donā€™t set your groceries down and then go do something else, unload your groceries and put them away. If youā€™re eating on your couch donā€™t set your empty Pepsi can down on the coffee table or your empty pizza box just get up and put them in the trash/recycling. Donā€™t set your mail down, look through it, chuck the junk mail, and put the important stuff in a pile with all the other important documents. Donā€™t just put your clean clothes in your laundry hamper, take an extra ten minutes and hang up/fold your clean clothes and put them away.

2) ā€œcleaning a little bit everyday is a gift you give your future selfā€-Pete Holmes said this in a monologue back when he had his own show(I tried to find the monologue on YouTube but I couldnā€™t sorry)

When you do your dishes everyday thatā€™s a gigantic pile of gross dishes you donā€™t have to do on your day off. It applies to literally every chore though, when you do your laundry and put it away on the same day thatā€™s a big pile of laundry that you donā€™t have to sort through to find something to wear when youā€™re late for work, when you spray down your shower once a week thatā€™s an two hour long clean that you donā€™t have to do once a month.

Maintenance cleaning is a gift you give to your future self.

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u/DOOMFOOL 8d ago

Yeah your number 1 is honestly my biggest issue, I need to do better about not leaving crap sitting out throughout the week

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

It helps that I'm hybrid and work from home 2-3 days most weeks. When I need a break I listen to a few songs on blast and do some light cleaning.

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u/Jomiha11 8d ago

This is the key detail here. Daily cleaning is not feasible for most people who have to leave the house for work 10-12 hours each day. But yeah if I was wfh Iā€™d probably do a daily wipe down as well

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u/FungusIsOurFriend 9d ago

After reading a few more of your posts I understand more now and might actually agree with you.

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u/YellowstoneBitch 9d ago

Oh dude absolutely! I have a hard time being able to fully relax if my living space is dirty/messy. When I clean itā€™s like I can breathe better and focus more.

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u/MartinisnMurder 8d ago

100% this! For my mental health I need to live in a clean home environment, or my depression and anxiety spike. I grew up in a home that was pretty much immaculate and there was a lot of structure. I honestly wouldnā€™t be able to sleep with anxiety knowing there was a sink full of dishes etc (And yes Iā€™m in therapy and on meds šŸ˜…)

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u/Icy_Willingness_9041 8d ago edited 8d ago

Spot on! I donā€™t understand the gross people justifying not cleaning because ā€œthey have a life to liveā€ when maintenance cleans are actually less time consuming! I take 5 to 10 mins max on a small preventative task, but I do it several times a day. Sometimes itā€™s in passing up the stairs to get something, put something else away. That means my deep cleans are much faster as well.

Itā€™s not an unrealistic standard to always have a tidy house. I can at any point receive a visitor without having to do a panic clean. At worst, a good 10 min tidying and my entire place is presentable.

Itā€™s so beneficial to mental health to live in a calming and orderly space.

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u/kadyg 9d ago

Clean the clean and you wonā€™t have to scrub the dirty!

A chef of mine told me that when I was around 18-19 years old. At the time, I was all ā€œwhatever, old manā€ and as I got older, I realized he was throwing down some wisdom.

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

Omg, yes! My clean-as-you-go habit was deeply imprinted in me when I was in culinary school and became almost compulsive during my years in professional kitchens.

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u/breadplane 9d ago

See now Iā€™m feeling gross for just wiping down surfaces when I notice it (so like 1-2x a week) and deep cleaning once a monthā€¦

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u/SaaryBaby 8d ago

If you live alone and have a new bathroom that might be enough. Depends if stuff gets mouldy, if u wee on the floor, etcetera

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u/breadplane 8d ago

Older bathroom for sure, but Iā€™m the only one who uses it. And I sure as hell donā€™t wee on the floor lol

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u/YellowstoneBitch 8d ago

I have a small bathroom, so it takes me like five minutes to wipe down counters and the sink and an extra five minutes to throw some comet in my toilet and scrub it down with the toilet brush. If you really donā€™t like cleaning your toilet Clorox makes these great solid bleach tablets that dissolve with each flush and fill the toilet bowl with clean water. Next time you give your toilet bowl a really good clean pop one of those tablets in the back of your toilet and your toilet bowl will be clean and fresh for weeks.

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

A toilet can grow a beard in a weekā€¦

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u/YoinkRaccoon 9d ago

I'm an actually messy person and I still do baseline bathroom cleaning everyday. I live like a damn rat when my mental health gets bad but that's where I draw the line. Toilet and sink especially feel so icky if they go days without cleaning.

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u/Undervated 9d ago

I can't accept that cleaning your mirror every single day is normal. I get that I am lazier than most people, but seriously? This is getting lots of upvotes. You all clean your mirror every day? Why? How is it getting so dirty and why does it need to be so sparkling clean?

Adrian Monk would clean his mirror every day

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

I have some anxiety about letting little things slip and having things get messy. So I notice if there's a speck of dried water or a finger print on the mirror. Cleaning it once a day gives me peace. I am realizing not that it might not be normal.

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u/Generic118 9d ago

Brushing teeth win a small sink and electric toothbrush

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u/Raptor_197 8d ago

Clean freaks, people with kids, and people that stay at home all day are going to throw off the norm.

In reality there are just many norms. Just clean your bathroom so it isnā€™t gross for your specific situation.

I do agree though, what are people doing to get their mirror dirty enough that itā€™s dirty every day lol.

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u/Ragfell 9d ago

I clean mine about every other week.

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u/dolphin37 9d ago

surfaces daily? idk I live alone and that seems like a complete waste of time personally, I canā€™t even tell the difference of a few days, like what are you even putting on the surfaces lol

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

I live alone too. It just bothers me to have a random hair in the sink or a thumb print on the mirror. If I do a quick wipe of everything, which takes 2 minutes, I don't have to think about it.

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u/dolphin37 9d ago

yeah I mean that sounds kinda mad to me, no offenseā€¦ if you went round a guys place and their sink had a single hair in it would you think they were dirty?

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u/res06myi 9d ago

This is how I kept up my house when I had a normal 9-5. I think a daily wipe is a little more than necessary, but itā€™s certainly not excessive.

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

I definitely skip a day if it doesn't really need it, like if I'm out of the house for most of it.

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u/fetus_mcbeatus 9d ago

Itā€™s definitely not what the ā€œmajorityā€ of people do so if thatā€™s your definition of normal I would say no. Itā€™s not.

In saying that, being clean is a good thing that should be normalised.

But yeah, donā€™t have expectations everyone else is cleaning their bathroom daily and youā€™ll be fine.

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

Honestly, just basic levels of cleanliness in other people's bathrooms is fine. I just like mine very clean because it makes me feel good.

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u/Wonderful-Impact5121 9d ago

This is the funny thing about people who clean a lot, theyā€™re wildly ignorant of how most people live, statistically.

Thatā€™s the opposite of an insult, Iā€™m much closer to you than most people. I may not do a full deep clean of the bathroom once a week but closer to that than once a month, and before any people come over of course.

But yeah most people donā€™t do anywhere near this level of cleaning.

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 9d ago

My shower got bad. I had a cleaning co come in and deep clean to reset my mind. Now I have a dish wand that I use to clean part of the shower every day or every other day.

I keep Lysol wipes in the bathroom to do a quick wipe of the toilet or surfaces every few days or more like once a week or so. My toilet and counter stay very clean.

The thing I am bad at staying on top of is the hard water ring in the bowl

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u/anonymgrl 9d ago

I like a deep clean one or twice a year. I'm always sure there's something I'm missing, so I like fresh eyes to clean what I might not be able to see.

I occasionally put toilet cleaner, the kind you squeeze under the rim, in my toilet just before bed and then scrub it in the morning. It keeps the ring from forming.

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u/DuoNem 9d ago

I donā€™t really manage a thorough daily wipe of all those surfaces, itā€™s more like a ā€whenever I canā€ and also ā€whenever itā€™s dirtyā€ (often spot cleaning). I have young kids. Itā€™s hard to clean the toilet (daily) when my youngest wants to smooch the toilet brushā€¦

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u/AgentJackpots 8d ago

It is not, unless you have explosive diarrhea constantly

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u/Turbulent_Ask4878 8d ago

You clean your toilet daily?

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u/Civil_Confidence5844 8d ago

A daily wipe of surfaces?! Am I gross?! Lmao. I do a deep-ish clean weekly lol. If it looks visibly dirty before then, I'll clean as needed lol.

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u/Ok_Matter_2617 8d ago

No, this is not normal. It may be cleanly but certainly not the norm

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u/Ok_Treacle7935 8d ago

It's not exactly common, actually. It's not weird, persay, but not really normal either. You don't really need to clean unless it's dirty.

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u/wetrysohard 8d ago

A little OCD, yes.

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u/knoguera 8d ago

Seems like a lot to me but you do you lol

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u/Hello_Gorgeous1985 8d ago

That's not normal in any world I've lived in, except in public places. Once a week clean is normal.

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u/bellj1210 8d ago

once a month is the longest imo, but brushing the toilet is an as needed thing. A wipe down is weekly (And gauge if more is needed)

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u/Sweaty_Rent_3780 8d ago

šŸ«” Got no time for all that sorry to say šŸ˜…

But that sounds like a really clean bathroom šŸ˜Œ

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u/IcyCorgi9 9d ago

I dont think it is. I've lived with a dozen or so roommates, seen bathrooms of friends and family. Aint nobody cleaning their bathroom every single week.

Do you have no fuckin life???

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u/missmeowwww 9d ago

This is what I do! My husband does this too so our bathroom frequently gets wiped down twice per day! Granted, both of us are weird about germs so it works out well.

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u/Darkdragoon324 9d ago

It seems like a lot just reading it listed out, but then I remember "bathrooms have literal shit flying everywhere, every day" and it sounds perfectly reasonable lol. And it's only really a few minutes of work a day to wipe everything down.

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u/Cosmickev1086 9d ago

If you want to keep sickness out of the house, this is a good practice.

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u/Time-Accountant1992 9d ago

You all have OCD. It's not a bad thing until other people have to put up with your quirks.

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u/alokasia 8d ago

Same.

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u/Awkward-Dig4674 8d ago

I clean it once a month. Besides showering my wife and I don't really use the bathroom for anything other than shitting and pissing.Ā 

She will sometimes clean it in-between out of boredom and while cleaning the whole house already.

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u/DethMetlDerf 8d ago

It's every two or three days for me, unless I noticed something got very messy since the last cleaning I did. Then I need to take care of it right away.

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u/Immediate-Relief-248 8d ago

Itā€™s really not normal to be wiping things down daily lol. Counters and such yes but like actual deep cleaning everyday no one does that

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u/looneylefty92 8d ago

It's normal if you have time AND energy. I only get 1x a week...the daily cleans are impossible for me besides dishes and counters. No time and no energy when there is. Gotta have a certain day.

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u/Bless_u-babe 8d ago

lol. I once stayed overnight with a relationship guy and I couldnā€™t see my face in the bathroom mirror! Iā€™ve never forgotten that. šŸ˜–

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u/DowntownBugSoup 8d ago

Daily wipe of mirror, sink, shower et cetera seems like overkill if youā€™re doing a weekly clean as well. I get a midweek wipe but every day, unless a lot of people use this bathroom, is more than necessary.

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u/BornMaybe9902 8d ago

No way most people are doing any sort of cleaning every day in the bathroom. That might be normal on Reddit, but not in real life.

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u/SpuriousCowboy 8d ago

You guys are cleaning your bathrooms?

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u/SaaryBaby 8d ago

Depends how much time u have, if u have kids, who uses the bathroom etc.

I do proper clean weekly. Other stuff as I go.

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u/FunAd5449 8d ago

I'm sorry but in what world is wiping down the toilet and mirror every single day normal lol It may be your normal but that's a little excessive

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u/Zortesh 8d ago

I clean the toilet like once a week but the rest of the surfaces are like a monthly, or when it looks dirty for me. I might be a slob I guess.

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u/etaylor1345 8d ago

I think the daily wipe might be more than what most people do but a weekly deep clean? Any less often and the bathroom gets grubby fast especially if a lot of people use it

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u/bigbutterbuffalo 8d ago

Thatā€™s not at all normal but it is very responsible

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u/SuperSatanOverdrive 8d ago

I donā€™t think thatā€™s normal. But the important part is that it works for you

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u/EatShitBish 8d ago

This is exactly what i do! The bathroom is where we deposit biological waste and clean our dirty selves, it needs to be cleaned often or ill feel disgusting being inside it.

Also, depending in the amount of people using that toilet it should be cleaned at LEAST every other day.

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u/allisaidwasshoot 9d ago

Call me crazy, but the bathroom is my favorite room to clean.

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u/Somepotato 9d ago

I'm a bit of a slob (problematic, probably my ADHD), but the bathroom? I load that room up with soaps, cleaners and keep it sparkling clean. No idea why. I don't even use half of it. But I love it.

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u/Ok-Stress-3570 9d ago

I donā€™t do it every day, but thatā€™s in part because of my work schedule (often 3 night shifts in a row.) Iā€™m also single and not a complete slob, soā€¦ šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļø

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u/The_guy_that_tries 9d ago

Every other day? Yeah this is weird. Have you not other pursuit to follow in your life?

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u/BananaHead853147 9d ago

Every other day? That is weird. How do you have the time for that?

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u/uzdp 9d ago

šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ everyday? Maybe, depending on how dirty it gets. I live on my own and do it 2 times a week. 1 deep. 1 basic

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u/Ambitious_Froyo31 9d ago

waitā€¦. my MOTHER doesnā€™t have me clean my bathroom until the CLEANERS so every 2 monthsā€¦. PLEASE I NEED BETTER CLEANING SUPPLIES THAN HER MUMBO JUMBO HOMEOPATHIC STUFFF

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u/drewb870 8d ago

It's wild how many folks don't realize 15 min of cleaning a day almost eliminates the need for lengthy deep cleaning, and when you do need to it's a breeze compared to a month long mess of grime and other yuckies.

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u/alokasia 8d ago

I mean the note is a bit aggressive and Daniel needs to learn how to spell and use correct grammar, BUT the requests are actually quite reasonable - especially considering OP lives there rent free.

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u/Large_Reindeer_7328 8d ago edited 8d ago

Yes, the attitude in the note would irk me too, but something gives me the feeling that thereā€™s a reason itā€™s written this way (meaning the attitude, not the spelling and grammarā€¦). I get the sense that OP has driven them to the point that theyā€™re writing a list of whatā€™s expected, most of which is really the bare minimum, and making it a very clear ultimatum!

I see a lot of people talking about the hoovering being excessive, and I do agree; as a fairly lazy person living with a chronic condition and struggling to keep on top of the bare minimum myself, I get it, but perhaps OPā€™s aunt or the bf have OCD about the carpet being vacuumed, or maybe they just thought the list looked too easy so added a few extra bits, but you know what? Even if they wanted it doing twice a day, OP should get on with it and be grateful that theyā€™re living rent free in someone elseā€™s home! I mean, I assume OP isnā€™t being held captive, whatā€™s stopping them from going and finding their own place and working to pay rent every month?

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u/NoMap7102 8d ago

OP has a couple of dogs. It probably does need vacuuming every day. I vacuum my small apartment 2x a day because: 1. I'm allergic to dogs, and 2. our benign overlords are a German Shepherd x Husky mix and I'd sooner not choke to death on their fur.

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u/NotGreatAtGames 8d ago

From previous posts, OP has dogs that they don't clean up after, so the vacuuming is probably because they're sick of dog fur being everywhere.

Previous post history also explains the aggressive tone. Getting OP to clean up after themselves is apparently an ongoing issue. It sounds like Aunt and Aunt's BF are just fed up with OP not doing their part and are laying down some boundaries. And frankly this isn't an unreasonable amount of chores considering OP doesn't pay any rent.

Edit: grammar

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u/2010_12_24 8d ago

This sounds like an official final warning

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u/Napoleons_Peen 8d ago

Nah OP is such a lazy shit they do a terrible job vacuuming so now they have to do it multiple times just to get it ā€œrightā€

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u/SqueakySniper 8d ago

and Daniel needs to learn how to spell and use correct grammar,

So does OP tbf. Its advice, not advise, in the context they used it in.

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u/ArticulateRhinoceros 8d ago

Yeah, what I'm getting from this is a boyfriend who is sick of watching his girlfriend get walked all over by a spoiled brat and is trying to get the teen to stand up and stop taking advantage.

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u/Different_Present314 8d ago

But from what's in OPs statement, Daniel does not clean up after himself either, correct? In case it must also suck for the aunt to have a grown man in the house who thinks he's exempt from contributing to maintaining a clean home.

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u/The-Coolest-Of-Cats 9d ago

The only one that sounded remotely unreasonable is the vacuuming the whole house every other day. You can definitely get away with only doing that once a week or so, not sure what they'd be doing in their house to require so much vacuuming lol

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u/hiprine 9d ago

Maybe if they wear shoes in the house, or if they have animals in the house. I keep shoes off and don't have pets and vacuum once a week, but if I had a pet I'd need to every other day, letting hair settle into rugs and carpets makes your house smell like you have pets

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u/TheElementofIrony 8d ago

I have a dog and I vacuum twice a week, not every other day. But, admittedly, I hate vacuuming, lol. It just saps a lot of my energy, time (that I could spend better working or studying, is what my brain tells me), and hurts my back, so 2 x week is currently the maximum I can force myself to do.

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u/speck_tater 8d ago

Get one of those robot vacuums for in between vacuuming. Theyā€™re great

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 9d ago

I've got 3 animals and I typically vacuum once a week. Every other day is wild, but to be fair the note writer probably isn't expecting him to do all of this they're hoping he meets in the middle and gets like 50-70% of this stuff done regularly.

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u/Ok_Ice_1669 8d ago

Iā€™ve got a husky and vacuuming every day isnā€™t enough. When the robots take over, my roomba will have its revenge.Ā 

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u/CarbieNOTaBarbie 8d ago

This made me laugh!

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u/purplepluppy 8d ago

Yep even just with my two dogs I run our robot vacuum almost every day in the rooms they spend most of their time in. The rest of the house can be less frequent, but those rooms even immediately after vacuuming you see the fur start falling again...

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u/East_Reading_3164 8d ago

I have a 150-lb Newfoundland, and I vacuum every day, and the Roomba goes every night, too. I also brush her every day. It doesn't take very long; I have it down to a science. Having pets takes some work. I don't want to live in a stinky dump.

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u/The_OtherDouche 9d ago

True, but unless itā€™s a very large home thatā€™s like 15 minutes of work.

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u/justpornvids 9d ago

I imagine it takes 10-15 minutes to vacuum the whole house.

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u/dontpretendtoknowme 8d ago

I spend that long vacuuming my one bedroom apt lmao

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u/dontpretendtoknowme 8d ago

If they have any pets, every other day isnā€™t unreasonable. I sometimes vacuum daily because I hate when kitty litter sticks to my feet lol

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u/FireFoxQuattro 8d ago

I vacuum once a day cause it takes like 5-10 minutes max so why not.

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u/Epsonality 8d ago

I agreed at first, but honestly if you're vacuuming every day, each vacuum session would be super short compared to weekly, or in his case, monthly vacuuming

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u/Ok-Catch-1983 8d ago

According to post history, the op has messy dogs. Makes sense they're tired of cleaning up after them for OP.

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u/xtina42 8d ago

We vacuum daily at my house. When you have pets with double coats, it's necessary because even though they only shed twice a year, it's for 6 months in the spring and 6 months in the fall šŸ˜†

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u/hijackedbraincells 8d ago

They have 2 dogs, so probably fur everywhere

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u/Affinity-Charms 9d ago

I thought vacuuming every other day is a bit much though.

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u/InvisblGarbageTruk 9d ago

Why are they vacuuming a bathroom and a kitchen? Is there carpet in the bathroom and the kitchen???? Ugh! If not, how about sweeping or mopping the kitchen floor daily alternating with the uncle and aunt so everyone does it every three days. As for the bathroom floor, I donā€™t understand why that would need to be washed more than once a week?

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u/Dannydevitz 9d ago

Not just a bathroom OPs bathroom.

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u/New-Entrepreneur4132 9d ago

Seems like just simple cleaning up after yourself.

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u/oriannanaannannanan 9d ago

Do people really vacuum every other day though? How is it getting so dirty?

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u/jcaashby 8d ago

Thank you. I read the list waiting to see something OUTRAGEOUS and all I saw was normal shit one would be expected to do.

OP is living RENT FREE and over reacting for being asked to do basic household chores.

I suspect this list was made because OP has been verbally asked numerous times to clean up and has not done much.

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u/L-Capitan1 9d ago

Presumably a bathroom youā€™re using. Even cleaning common areas isnā€™t unreasonable considering youā€™re probably using the spaces.

Also just because your aunts boyfriend gave the note doesnā€™t mean that she doesnā€™t endorse the ideas in it. Iā€™m guessing sheā€™s at her wits end and doesnā€™t know what to do and has discussed it with the bf and heā€™s offered as a caring companion to try to fix the problem.

I could be wrong but thatā€™s my read on this list of completely reasonable cleaning asks for a place you live for free.

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u/According-Debate-265 9d ago

Once a week is great, but I'm a once a month guy, not gonna lie.

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u/Maximum-Confusion644 8d ago

Well maybe once every couple of weeks is fine right? Itā€™s not like Iā€™m shitting on the mirror or the tub or walls.

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u/MaybeSad6350 8d ago

Idk OPs history. But my parents never taught me how to clean anything. My mom also wasnā€™t taught herself either which I think is part of. Iā€™m still trying to learn how to properly clean things and how often to so. I live on my own now and have to do all the cleaning myself and oof it is a lot šŸ˜… so yeah OP this is a good learning experience and itā€™s good they are expecting this if you. None of it was ever expected or taught to me tbh. Also I appreciate this knowledge to be honest because I didnā€™t know this.

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u/Otaku69420 9d ago

I know people who clean it once a month. And to be fair. Whenever one comes over itā€™s actually still decently clean.

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u/evoleye13 9d ago

They let their dog piss inside the aunts house.. imagine what the bathroom is like.. Look at their post history

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u/After_Tap_2150 9d ago

You would not believe the amount of men out there not cleaning once a month. Living in their filth.

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u/Spooktato 8d ago

Im sorry but if you just do a little cleaning every single day and look after yourself you shouldnā€™t be Ā«Ā deep cleaningĀ Ā» everywhere lol

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u/Jackstack6 9d ago

I donā€™t get the laundry rule though, is it A) The op has to do it once a week. B) Itā€™s limited to once a week. C) The aunt and auntā€™s bf will do it once a week.

If itā€™s A) why do they care? If the op doesnā€™t want clean clothes, so be it. B) I guess thatā€™s reasonable, since it can take lots of water. C) highly doubtful.

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u/Potatoskins937492 9d ago

Dirty clothes and bedding smell bad. Plus if it's the aunt's mattress, it'll make the mattress smell bad if the bedding isn't cleaned regularly.

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u/basicbitch823 9d ago

no fr i have my own bathroom (literally just cause everyone else in my family is too lazy to walk downstairs to use it) and once a week cleaning is so easy spray some stuff in the toilet lil scrubby same for surfaces/shower it not getting crazy dirty unless ur actually a slob

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u/zSprawl 9d ago

Yeah this isn't a "buttload of chores".

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u/Commercial-Pin6086 9d ago

Yeah. I caught that too. The only thing that seems a little much is vacuuming all that every other day but hey, should be quick if youā€™re doing it that often as it shouldnā€™t get that dirty.

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u/young_horhey 9d ago

It sounds like itā€™s even cleaning her own bathroom, not a shared one. So much of these ā€˜choresā€™ are just making OP clean up after themselvesā€¦

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u/Fehridee 9d ago

Only thing I find kinda much is the vacuuming every other day, but Iā€™m biased because at my place, I keep shoes by the door and only have to sweep/vacuum once a week. Everything else is actually standard if not low maintenance. I was filling out a list like this with weekly mowing, weeding, and cooking added to it by 11. If OP wants to succeed as an adult, they should look at the list as the bare minimum and try to do a little more every day.

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u/___mithrandir_ 8d ago

I knew a girl in high school who constantly complained her parents were using her as "unpaid labor", and wanted her to use "harsh chemicals" to clean the bathroom and kitchen once every two weeks.

I visited her after high school once. The place smelled like the trash hadn't been taken out in two weeks, and her idea of "cleaning up" was to just shove everything against the walls. This is why you make your kids do chores. Not only does it teach them responsibility (you share a space with others, you need to pull your weight) it also instills habits in them. If I forget to do certain chores once a week my brain nags me until I do.

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u/Gape_Me_Dad-e 8d ago edited 8d ago

The note says ā€œYour bathroomā€. So I assume itā€™s also just a bathroom op mostly uses. Ok after reading through some OP post history I can presume He/She has many underlying mental health problems and conditions aswell as some developmental disorders. OP really needs a therapist and a psychiatrist.

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