r/AskDocs 6d ago

Weekly Discussion/General Questions Thread - March 31, 2025

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This is a weekly general discussion and general questions thread for the AskDocs community to discuss medicine, health, careers in medicine, etc. Here you have the opportunity to communicate with AskDocs' doctors, medical professionals and general community even if you do not have a specific medical question! You can also use this as a meta thread for the subreddit, giving feedback on changes to the subreddit, suggestions for new features, etc.

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r/AskDocs 9h ago

Physician Responded Can pretending to have anorexia make you actually get it

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My (16m) little sister (14f) has been claiming she has anorexia for two and a half years. She doesn’t. Her weight has never changed and she lies about it a lot. She claims she’s 70 pounds online and to other people (she’s not. her track physical from the doctor said 5’3 and 125lbs). She does a lot of obvious type behaviors trying to look nervous when she’s eating like cutting stuff up and pushing food around. But she does it in a way that it’s like she wants it to be noticed. She’ll refuse to eat around other people and make a deal about how she’s not eating and she can’t and loudly tell other people when they don’t ask that she ate earlier so she’s not going to eat. But then she eats a lot when no one sees because the food still goes missing and there’s wrappers all over room. She’ll claim she’s lightheaded and make a big scene of feeling like she’s gonna faint semi regularly. I was looking through her backpack for my phone charger a few days ago because she always takes it and I found more wrappers, plus a notebook where she writes down calories she eats and her goal weight and size and diary entries about wanting to be anorexic and how she reads books about it to trigger herself. There’s a page of a list of books with some crossed out. Plus I know she’s on a whole bunch of anorexia communities on TikTok, Reddit, discord, insta, and twitter. She’s not discrete about it at all and uses the same username for everything so I found it all.

She’s like obsessed, and she’s been doing this for 2 and a half years. And I’m worried about her obviously but also it’s really annoying because I don’t get why she would be trying to get a disease on purpose. Our parents know she’s doing it and threaten to put her in therapy but she begs them not to and since she’s not actually losing weight I think they’re just hoping she gets over this? They think she’s doing it because she wants attention so my mom tries to take her for girls days.

Anyway I’m just worried this could turn into actual anorexia eventually. Like is that possible? Or is pretending to have it or wanting to have it a different disorder? Is there some way I can help her? I never know how to respond. I usually just ignore it. I dont call her out or anything and I try to just treat her normal.

Thanks for yalls help


r/AskDocs 2h ago

Request for Medical Advice for My Son

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Dear Doctors,

I am reaching out to seek your advice regarding my son, who has been experiencing some concerns on his health. Since he was two weeks old, we have noted the formation of small lesions on his fingers and legs. Despite seeking medical intervention at the hospital, his condition has unfortunately deteriorated. I will provide photographs documenting the progression of these lesions from the age of three weeks to his current age of one year and three months. Since he was six months old, he has been undergoing a treatment regimen that has shown some efficacy in slowing the recurrence of these lesions; however, it has not succeeded in eliminating them entirely, as they continue to manifest intermittently. Currently, he is reliant on a feeding tube and is undergoing frequent diagnostic tests. If anyone has encountered a similar condition, possesses knowledge about it, or has experience in managing such cases, I would greatly appreciate your insights and guidance.

Thank you in advance for the help


r/AskDocs 3h ago

I am spiralling because of my mother's health

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Me (27M) and my mum (54F) have been through a lot, she raised me alone, she’s my rock and my best friend. She’s been taking care of me all my life, and it’s only in recent years that I’ve been self sufficient enough to take care of her now.

Lately, I’ve been noticing some alarming things, first general fatigue, and then a lump in her armpit

She sleeps a lot more now, and is more tired frequently, I used to think it was normal, maybe she’s just getting older, but now it’s worrying

And then the lump, she called me to tell me, in the night, it’s towards the back of her armpit, it’s red, extremely painful, huge (about the size of a ping pong ball), and texture wise it seems Firm, like flesh, not extremely hard, but not soft either, just Firm

It doesn’t move around either. She says she felt it about a week ago, hard but not that painful, but it got really painful when she started pressing on it.

It also seems to have some sort of dimple at the middle, like a place where hair should (like a follicle )grow, but larger.

I had a friend of mine studying to be a doctor look at it, and he says he’s not sure. It might be a lymph node, which location wise could be a sign of breast cancer

I’m so Afraid. That woman deserves the best in this world I give her and I don’t want this to happen. My country (Nigeria) healthcare is really terrible so it’s also a fear

I have reached to two hospitals for an Ultrasound. I hope to get a response soon.

I am just venting I guess, She's my rock


r/AskDocs 3h ago

my friend is possibly showing signs of psychosis and unstable thoughts

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My friend (31M/ White)- we'll call him M and I (29F) hung out for the first time in many years. M has always been one of my closest friends. I will note that he does smoke cannabis (as do I), and he's done a number of recreational drugs since he was a teen.

It started with him watching a certain fear monger on YouTube. He was kicked off the platform and is being sued. I'm sure you can guess the one. M was 19 when he started watching this (pre trump era), and I always expressed concern about him watching this. M believed every thing this nut job would say. I moved away and we lost contact for about 10 years. M also had a major drinking problem, but has now been sober for a few years.

We were having a good time catching up, and then things took a weird turn...

He started telling me electrical magnetic waves hurt him. he wears a baseball hat with foil inside of it. He went on multiple rants about how evil jews are and showed me a video of two jewish men saying they kill babies and put the meat in mcdonald’s burgers. He was also spewing total nonsense about multiple hateful conspiracy theories. He is taking an array of sketchy supplements to "eliminate heavy metals from his body)

The thing is, M wasn't always like this. Before watching that YouTube personality, M wasn't hateful, and he definitely didn't say shit like this. It made me really uncomfortable; I do not condone hate, and everything M was saying was the wildest shit I've ever heard. I ended up calling it a night shortly after.

M's mother has bipolar disorder with manic and schizoaffective tendencies.

Normally, I would just move on. I don't want to hear stuff like that. I don't want to associate with nazis. I can't help but think M is developing bipolar disorder (or another mental illness), with signs of psychosis. This is just not the friend I remember, and I'm very concerned for his mental health.

I don't know what to do- he doesn't have family or many friends at all. Always been a loner, with me being the exception.

Maybe he's just thoroughly brainwashed, but any advice on how to get him help would be greatly appreciated.


r/AskDocs 11h ago

Physician Responded There’s something in my ear..

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I’m a 31 year old male seeking advice on something I found in my ear with an ear wax camera.

Recently, I flew back from vacation and suffered severe ear pain in my left ear on descent. I have had muffled hearing for about 11 days although it has recently improved significantly. I visited an urgent care and was told that my ears were too clogged with wax to take a look, but likely just had some fluid buildup. I started using Debrox to soften the wax and irrigating at home to clear it out. I ordered an ear wax camera for fun to take a look.

The morning that my ear wax camera arrived, I also had an unrelated MRI scheduled that discovered a macro adenoma on my pituitary gland. In addition to the tumor, it discovered a middle ear effusion.

When I made it home from the MRI, I tested out the new ear wax camera and found this… what the heck am I looking at? It’s all the way down near my ear drum. Nothing I’ve found online looks anything like this.

https://postimg.cc/gallery/BFcVZSp


r/AskDocs 37m ago

severe pain in my ear

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Female (19 & 5’4, ~120lbs) Last night around 11:00pm (US) I was purposely hit by my little brother (15, 5’6, ~135) in the ear after asking him to turn his music down. When he hit me in the ear it first started off as my ear was muffled, as the adrenaline wore off I can only start to feel the severe pain my ear is in. I was bleeding a tiny little bit at first but enough to be able to actually see blood and have it dry up somewhat, it stopped bleeding but now i'm experiencing other symptoms like jaw pain, headache on my right side (same ear i was punched on) which feels like a huge brain freeze, a warm sensation in my ear, ringing here and there, and what feels like the pain JI felt when I had a sinus infection, sort of in my throat too, I don't have symptoms of a concussion but i'm wondering if I should still get this checked out or if I am okay to let it just heal on its own. I did talk to the cops about this but they didn’t do anything because “there is no video evidence” But i’m hurting so bad i’ve been up all night due to this.


r/AskDocs 13h ago

Physician Responded Is it normal for life to feel so hard?

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After work, I have a hard time getting up to go to the bathroom so I’m peeing in containers. I spend almost every free moment just lying in bed. I keep up with people socially ocassionally but it is so dreadful and takes so much energy that I just lay in bed after.

I have stopped eating very much since I’m just in bed. I can’t stand as long as my coworkers can at work and even just saying hi to coworkers around the office makes me want to quit.

Groceries are another challenge. If I grocery shop it is the single thing I do during the weekend otherwise I’m too tired.

I can’t seem to find the point to doing anything but I feel too tired to do anything about it. I’ve been treated for a recent b12 deficiency, so now I’ve lost all excuses. I tried to ask for something for sleep from my pcp but she thinks this is just normal depression.

Should adult life feel like such a slog? Is this just adjusting to normal adult life?

F22 5’3 108lbs


r/AskDocs 1h ago

Black dermatologists here?

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Hi I‘m a 22 year old black male. There aren’t any black dermatologists in Europe. I have this huge problem with my scalp and I have had it for years. It has gotten worse now and it’s lowkey depressing. The dermatologist I went to (who happens to be white) said that it’s seborrheic dermatitis. He prescribed me a medical shampoo which I have used once you I will have to wait and see but as of now, my scalp is still badly inflamed. I’m not sure if it’s seborrheic dermatitis… Is it really that or am I allergic to all hair products? If yes, that’s so annoying. The pictures I took with a mini microscope are a not very appetizing. I could share them via chat.


r/AskDocs 16h ago

Physician Responded Any psychiatrists here?

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Hello Doctors, I am on 30mg Abilify and 200mg Seroquel. 25 male. Smoker.

Please if you don't want to read this whole thing just refer to the questions in the end.

I may have a wrong diagnosis for my mental health.

First of all I need to start with a question. Why do psychiatrists stay silent when I ask them what's wrong and what's my diagnosis?

I've only knew my diagnosis when I was hospitalized for alcohol abuse. My psychiatrist wrote a letter to my university stating that I have to take a semester off because I have a relapse with delusions and hallucinations. I remember those days clearly I did not have any kind of hallucinations nor delusions. My dad had some kind of mental health issue when I was a kid and I was just dwelling on that that was the whole thing. My mother is a schizophrenic. But you have to hear me out I am not. Last time I stopped cold turkey I had a strong feeling of depression and basically just negative symptoms, I stopped the meds for 58 days that time.

I don't get delusions just thoughts that may make sense. "They are laughing at me" or "they think I'm incompetent at this thing I'm doing." They can be true not like "FBI is after me" and I don't hear vo Believe me I don't.

I've been off my medication for two days. It's because of a bad reaction. No doctor wants me to stop. I'm done with these medications. I'm fat I used to be in shape like really good shape. I'm stupid, I dropped out of engineering school. I have no friends. I believe this is because of my medication.

Can I be schizophrenic and not know about it??

How to know if I am in an episode??


r/AskDocs 18h ago

Physician Responded My mom, 50F, took 16mg of clonidine total throughout the night.

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She’s sleeping pretty hard right now but seems okay. I’m just worried, but she said it wasn’t all in one dose but instead separated throughout the night because she couldn’t sleep. Is this an alarming amount, or should I just let her rest?


r/AskDocs 16h ago

Physician Responded Worried I have measles

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F, 27, 5’4 and 245lbs. Located in MN, USA. Medications: verapamil, birth control pills, famotidine. No recent travel. Fully vaccinated as a child. Please help! I have been to both urgent care and my local ER. I woke up yesterday morning with a full body rash covering me head to toe. I have a headache, sore throat, low grade fever (100.5 taken by mouth), and fatigue. Also my eyes keep feeling dry and burning. I went to urgent care and they said it’s an allergic reaction and gave me prednisone. I later went to the ER as I felt sick and they tested for strep, flu, Covid, RSV, blood infections and everything was negative. They did a CRP inflammation test which was high at 36.20. WBC and RBC were slightly elevated. The hospital told me it’s likely something viral and sent me home. The rash keeps getting worse and worse. I have two little kids under the age of 4. I am so worried it’s the measles as I know there’s an outbreak. What do I do please help! 😭


r/AskDocs 3h ago

Struggling to get a diagnosis

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Hi there. I am a 31 year old female with 2 kids. 14 and 8. For the last six tot eight weeks i have struggled with pain in my right breast and armpit. There is also a hard lump that feels like bone under my armpit and a hard region all the way the the underside of my breast. Shoulder pain that comes and goes. Clean mammo and ultrasound. Birads 2 with extremely dense breast tissue. Shooting pain in my underarm and breast. Extremely tender and swollen breast, no rash but the veins have become very visible under the skin and nipple (example in comments). I've been on antibiotics and anti-inflammatories, no improvement. Next step would be MRI but I am looking for all and any theories. I've been to 3 different doctors and no one can diagnose me at this point. I am frustated and exhausted from all this.


r/AskDocs 21h ago

Physician Responded Female 54. After a year of having a stable colostomy bag for a fistula, the

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Title got cut off but should say they the bag stopped filling and instead poop is coming out of her vagina.

elative has colostomy bag to fix a firstula. Bag stopped filling up after working for a year. Fecal matter now coming from vagina again. How is this possible. Surgeons said it would not be possible for a new fistula to form above the colostomy bag to bypass it. Her bag suddenly stopped filling at all, and her vagina is again filling with poop. How could this have happened again? Doctor staff is suggesting to wait for a CT scan to be available in several days instead of going to the ER and getting one now. If we are waiting several days should we ask for an MRI instead?

Update: surgeon seems unconcerned. Says another fistula is highly unlikely. Has no explanation on why there is poop in the vagina and none in the bag. Says to avoid ER and just wait for next available CT scan in a few days. Patient experiencing steady but not increasing burning pain in the vaginal area.


r/AskDocs 10h ago

Physician Responded Is hearing things that other people don't hear a typical part of autism?

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I was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder as a teenager. Beginning when I was 23, my thoughts escaped from my head and turned into their own entities and whispered into my right ear. They whisper almost every day. I am curious to find out whether other autistic people experience this too.

Female, 25


r/AskDocs 6m ago

Advice for myself regarding my grandma

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Hi everyone. My grandma has been getting hypoxia / anoxia for the past month or two i want to say. She is about 90 years old and it has happened a a couple of times. She claims to see like a thick fog. Realistically how long does she have?😞😞 i live about two hours away and i cant be there all the time and just wanna be prepared. I love her so much but i know this cant be anything good. Im a medical student and ive just been thinking about her a lot and want to make the necessary time for her. Thank you in advance


r/AskDocs 11m ago

Blood pressure 128/82 when usual is 100/60 consistently. Should I be concerned?

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Female 33, height 165cm, weight 142 lbs. Have asthma, on Flutiform 250mg 2x a day and salbutamol when required.

My blood pressure is usually normal/ on the lower side and it’s pretty consistent, even throughout pregnancy. Averaging around 100/60, sometimes a little below 60, and a little above 100.

I’ve had the flu and been on prednisolone 40mg a day for 4 days so far for asthma (finishing tomorrow). It’s not helped as much as usual. I haven’t checked blood pressure for months but I had no reason to think it was any different, and if anything it’s been on the lower side at points as I get certain symptoms like light headedness/ dizziness which I know are related to that.

Just taken blood pressure and it’s 128/82. This is the highest it’s ever been. Is this normal because of the steroids or something? Or should I be concerned?