I’m honestly just trying to make sense of this. Me and my girl were together for almost two years. Everything felt solid—we had our ups and downs, but nothing that seemed relationship-ending. Recently, I found out she cheated on me… with my homeboy. Someone I’ve known for years and trusted like a brother.

I feel betrayed on both ends, and I can’t wrap my head around why either of them would do this. Was I missing signs? Is this more about me, or just about who they are? Has anyone else gone through something like this and made sense of it?

I’m not even sure what kind of advice I need, I’m just stuck between angry, confused, and heartbroken.

Am 28M who started seeing someone a few weeks ago. I've been focusing on career and just now getting back into dating, so it started off a little rough, but we kept at it and I think we're going places.

Where the trouble starts is the more places we go, the more things I see her in and out of, and the harder it is to ignore how effortlessly attractive she is. Even if she wasn't built like a goddess, she's goofy, smart, and driven. I didn't know "makes more than me" was even a checkbox I was looking for.

I wish I was just bragging but the issue is one or more of these things has me down tremendous whenever we're together. We'll be talking and all it takes is a touch to effectively immobilize me in a chair for a few minutes. Today we went dress shopping and I had to strategically hold the shopping bag going between changing rooms. I feel like I'm in high school again.

I think being attracted to a partner is a generally a net good, but frankly I'm embarrassed, and I'm worried I'll embarrass her if this keeps happening in the wrong places. What are some techniques to calm the hell down quick or prevent the lower decks from taking control in the first place?

I wanted to watch a movie recently with a male friend . We are both 32 years old. He seems reluctant to watch it if its just with one guy . He says he prefers more than 1 guy to go with him , like a group of guys ... when did everything get so homophobic ?. Its just two grown men watching a movie , that's all

My husband gets angry and defensive about everything I say that isn’t pleasant. He got so angry recently that he punched a wall so hard he dislocated his shoulder. Last night he got so angry he punched and shattered an end table. He’s done that before. He hit my phone with my hand on top. He knocked my phone out of my hand. He’s thrown my phone against a wall before. He broke a little statue my dead aunt gave me. He broke our bedroom door. He’s accidentally hurt me in his anger. There are so many holes in walls and broken things in my house now….I don’t really care about stuff but he’s not a safe person to talk to. Last night I was listening to his side while he swore at me, called me crazy, and all I asked, in a calm tone was, “please don’t swear at me”. And his response was that I wasn’t listening and I kept interrupting so how could he talk to someone that won’t listen and constantly interrupts. He was yelling, I never lost my cool. I was calm the whole time. He left the house at one point. Eventually came back and I asked him if he wanted to get ready for bed with me. I didn’t feel like talking about it anymore because I knew it was hopeless. But he asked, in an angry tone if I wanted to talk about it so we could be done with it. So I said ok and sat down and waited to listen to him. He then said, “what do you want to talk about? You had so much to say earlier.” In an angry tone. So, I started to talk and, of course, it spiraled into him yelling again and refusing to talk. It doesn’t even matter what it was about because he does this all the time. Mere questions feel like attacks to him. He has ADHD and RSD. I don’t even know what to do. I can’t talk to him about anything. He’s incapable of a calm discussion. What do I do??? Is it all hopeless??? Why is he doing this??? What do I do???

I’ve been with my gf for 6 years. Our sex life is pretty much on the rocks for 3 years. We have sex on her terms, she always makes faces of not feeling it if I initiate and for a long time, the rejection of sex got my confidence pretty low. It feels like we are friends with a monthly benefit.

For this past 3 weeks approx, I’ve been taken a step back from being so upfront about my physical attraction to her and I can feel her trying to engage with me sexually. So why does my girlfriend want me when i pull back? Is it an attention seeking behavior?

I guess specifically are you okay with your wife masturbating to porn, maybe even thinking of those guys having sex with her while she finishes.

And if this is okay in your relationship, to what extent, where is the boundary drawn. How many times a week are you okay with her doing this? Can she turn you down to do this by herself? Can she watch it on the tv while you sleep? Idk just asking what would make it not okay yk. Not judgment BTW just curious.

maybe it’s just me but whenever i put an effort into dressing up and doing my hair and stuff i only get stared at and neverrr approached like ever. i was starting to think i was just ugly asf and didn’t realise but whenever i have seminars and stuff and idc what i’m wearing i get approached by guys in class even though i have seen them at parties like why not talk to me then ? is there a reason for this or am i looking into nothing 🥲

Why don't you go to the relationship advice sub reddit, why tf is 90% of the posts here now just relationship posts and cucks just ass kissing girls on here and being white knights.

GO TO THIS SUB REDDIT HOME PAGE, press "new posts" and scroll down and see how many relationship posts there are... almost all the posts are just relationship posts.

Something has to be done about this. I'm sure it wasn't this bad last year

I watched a show and a man said he loved his wife, but didn’t like his wife. It seems like an odd concept to me, but when we are talking about like brother or sister or like parent/child I can understand that somewhat. But what makes someone want to be with a partner they don’t like? Why stay married? And those that don’t, have you found women you love and like on the side? No judgements, just genuinely curious.

Used to dating apps back in 2018. Then in 2019 I ended up giving up on them as the results just weren't that good. Ended up approaching women in public, got some good results early on then boom covid so back on the apps. The results ended up being the same as before but because of covid I literally couldn't go outside to meet people.

Fast forward to post covid ~2024ish I started approaching women again and this time it somehow was significantly easier than before. Results were also just as good as before if not better. Women now are more open to meeting someone organically and "in the wild" than in the apps. I've heard of many men and women deleting dating apps and trying different methods. Even the stocks of a lot of these apps have seen a tumble in the past year with hundreds of thousands of users becoming inactive or deleted.

To me it's like nature is returning back to how it was before. I know this is reddit but a lot of men and even women are going outside and approaching people in public in droves. I've had a few girls approach me in public as well.

When I've talked to all the women I've had some sort of relationship or bond with via meeting IRL they have complimented my approaching as they have been exhausted by dating apps. I think everyone should meeting someone in a public setting as I feel like a lot of people are missing out on many opportunities on these dating apps that use math to pick who is allowed for you to see based on your looks and how much you pay them.

I found my gf’s reddit page and I seen that she said she thinks she was drugged by a friend . She said that she would go out with him and get drunk and wake up in his bed regretting thing because she didn’t want to sleep with him.

This friend was also dating her cousin on and off at the same time I believe which was just before. I met and was friends with this guy for like 2 years afterwards and I don’t understand why she lied when asked directly. And the to say that she was date raped by him in a comment on Reddit, wtf do I do with this?

I remember back in hs I was bummed out about a breakup. And what my dad said stuck with me to this day. After seeing me sulking he said “

“how would you feel if you saw your son not being able to enjoy another day alive because of a failed relationship? All the years spent raising him, seeing his potential, knowing what he can accomplish. All of it come crashing down cause of a breakup. Don’t be in a relationship if you can’t handle your emotions. Take a step back, asses the situation and come to terms with it. Besides girls aren’t attracted to the victim, woe is me guy.”

Not exactly word for word but close enough. Stay cool everyone

I’m a guy in my late 20s, , and honestly… dating is starting to feel like a dead end. Like, the older you get, the harder it becomes to meet someone you genuinely click with.

But beyond that, it feels like dating has lost all the spark. I miss that “early 20s” kind of love, when it wasn’t about checklists, or ticking boxes, or negotiating prenups on the first date (yes, that actually happened..).

What happened to romance? Or just slowly getting to know someone and letting things happen naturally? I miss that kind of vibe you had in your early 20s, when things were messy but exciting and full of feeling. Now it feels like everyone’s either jaded, hyper-practical, or just looking for a safe bet.

I don’t know if it’s just me being in a big city like Paris or if it’s the age or maybe I’m just not built for modern dating. But it’s starting to feel like falling in love like really falling is something that only happens once in your life, if you’re lucky. And after that, it’s just… logistics.

Would love to hear from your guys, how are you experiencing dating in your late 20s or 30s? Do you still believe in love or is everyone just... settling?

Looking for non-sexual ways to make my SO feel more loved and supported. I’ve asked, but he’s not great at verbalizing things. What makes you guys feel great in your relationships? I already do small thoughtful gifts and plan date nights. I think I need to get better with verbalizing compliments. Is there something your SO has said or done that has really made your day? Again, not looking for sexual stuff, I’m well versed in that department. I don’t think love and support is particularly lacking in our relationship, but he has a very emotionally taxing and stressful job, so I want to mentally and emotionally support him as much as possible.

Edit 1: thank you for all the heartfelt advice! I’ve written down a lot of things I can do, and some I’m already doing but can definitely do more of. It’s good to hear what matters to you guys. Yes, I’ve talked to him about this, and he’s asked for some time to think on it because he didn’t know at the time, so I’m jumping the gun and asking here hoping I can propose things he may not have thought of. He’s in the medical/trauma field and we talk often after his shifts so he can vent openly. His field has a high risk of mental health issues so I want to provide as much support as I can. I’m reading through all the responses and I really appreciate them.

Edit 2: Wow, there’s a ton of answers and more incoming. Thank you all so much for helping! I’m reading through the responses actively. I think I’ll post another edit with what I’ve heard from men and what they would like to see as far as love and support goes so partners can reference. Thanks again!

Mad respect to men who are happy to be alone, but for the lonely men who want a partner and are having a bit of bad luck on that front I ask you: what helps alleviate that feeling of sadness and (dare I say) agony you might get sometimes?

My partner and I have been together for 3 years now. For me, we have the best sex I’ve ever had. And he’s agreed. But, he’s always taken a long time to finish. He’s always really into it and is very sensual with me. I’ll usually finish 2-3 times before he finishes. Sometimes, he won’t even finish. I get worried that I’m not enough or that he doesn’t find me attractive. He says otherwise but I feel really insecure about this. I’ve brought it up before and he says that’s just how he’s always been.

Turned 30 this year, feeling like a total failure. Average looking, average height. Single for 9 years now. Work as a Doctor. Had no intimacy at all in those 9 years. Been busy with work so haven’t made enough time for others. Feel super abnormal like there’s something wrong with me. Been so long now that I have 0 confidence to start dating. I feel like I’m getting to an age where people just want to settle down (or have already settled down) so I’m past my sell by date. Some days I feel hopeless about life and a total loser.

Recently, a trans person asked how to attract a man and they said they would never disclose being trans if it's a one night stand. I told them they should disclose that even if it's one night because I see it as SA or at least taking advantage of the guy. Another person chimed in and said they are trans and don't disclose it either, but when they do, the guys are alright with it so trans people don't need to disclose it. They compared it to a woman hiding a birthmark with make up and that it shouldn't matter. Am I in the wrong?

I’m 27F and he is 34M. We both go to the same gym and see each other there all the time. We started out by shyly saying hi to eachother and then after seeing eachother there a lot we introduced ourselves and got to talking. We have a lot in common. I find him extremely attractive and I can just feel by the way we look at eachother and interact there’s an undeniable sexual chemistry. He is on my towns fire department and I know he has a girlfriend because I follow the town fire page on social media and I have seen pictures of ceremonies that are captioned “ fire fighter _____ and his girlfriend______.” As someone who as always been very very sexually reserved, I have always refused to make a move or get in between someone’s relationship. If they were married I wouldn’t even be on here talking about this. I have been ignoring all of my feelings in respect of the relationship. I guess all I’m asking is have you guys struggled with situations like that? What do you do to help yourself ignore your feelings when this happens? Any advice? I feel like this could be my person, but at the same time I don’t condone cheating.

My friend (5,4) just got rejected for being too short and I want to comfort him but I don’t really know what to say tbh.

And what made it so special?