r/AutismInWomen • u/torielise21 • 1d ago
General Discussion/Question Curious if everyone else is slower than neurotypicals
My whole life, it’s taken me much longer than other people to do just about anything. If I were going to wash the dishes that would take someone 20 minutes, it would take me an hour. I am intelligent and I did well in school (mostly), but I was almost always the last person to get up and turn their test in. I rarely did homework partially because I knew that it would take me hours. I tend to get places after other people despite feeling like I drive fast. I can’t even do the simplest of tasks with the efficiency of other people and I don’t even know why. Cooking is the worst— it takes me about 3 times longer than the recipe says it will. The only thing I can do faster than other people is read. Anyone else?
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u/coffunky 1d ago
Yes. I don’t feel like I’m slow, but I was always the last person still packing up at the end of a class, or the last person to finish labs in college. I’ve worked at a lot of fast food places and I was never fast enough to be the best person to work on the food line. Doomed to the drive through.
I mean, every work/school situation where there was some standardized thing everyone had to do I was always among the slowest unless I really really tried not to be. Except reading I guess. I read fast and tend to take (non math) tests fast. I’d be way last for any test involving math.
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u/NoButterscotch9240 1d ago
Yes! Those ‘20 min dinners’ take me… 2 hrs.
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u/incorrectlyironman 1d ago
FWIW nobody can make those in 20 minutes. The recipe authors leave out the time it takes to cut all your ingredients, boil your water, pre heat your oven, etc, because it sounds more appealing and makes people more likely to click your recipe/buy your book, etc.
They've also probably made the recipe over and over again to perfect it, and get more efficient every time they do so. I generally assume that a new recipe with 20 minutes of actual cooking time will take me 1.5 to 2 hours the first time I make it, slowly reduced to around an hour after making it over and over again.
I'm still slower than most people, I need more time to process things and my motor skills are meh so I will never be particularly fast at chopping an onion. But NOBODY makes those recipes in 20 minutes total.
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u/winterfern353 1d ago
This one specifically. Have no idea why it takes me so much longer when I generally tend to think and read quickly. Maybe I just need more practice lol
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u/lusterfibster 1d ago
I realized this about myself as well and I'd recommend comparing your performance to a real-time video of someone cooking the same recipe. For me, it came down to a combination of a preference for a slower speed in physical movement, and allotting longer time to fuss over perfectionistic details (I really like to chop my vegetables as uniformly as possible, for example.) I could improve on the latter, but I may be stuck with the former.
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u/AquaPurity 1d ago
Yes, that's one of the reasons I applied for ADHD testing. My attention is horrible.
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u/KarouAkiva 1d ago
I found out I have ADHD when I got my autism diagnosis. It was actually a complete surprise, I just thought I couldn't concentrate on things because I was lazy or something.
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u/ThrowAwayColor2023 1d ago
If I’m doing something unfamiliar or outside of my routine, I’m often slower than most people. Once I figure something out and have a routine, I can be one of the fastest people at that same thing - but caveat for burnout, which slows everything down, especially executive functioning.
The biggest hurdle for me is starting a new job. The process of learning a new team, new processes, new quirks, etc., is a slog for me. Once I have it down, I’ll be one of the fastest and most effective producers, but I feel INCREDIBLY self-conscious during that early learning phase, and the higher I climb, the more awkward that initial learning curve feels. I’m going through it now for the 3rd time in 15 years, and this time I have a diagnosis and could give my new manager some warning, but I’m still worried that I’ll be perceived as too slow for a senior role. Blech.
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u/RageWatermelon 1d ago
This is me too! It takes me longer to process everything in the beginning but once I know what I'm doing I'm one of the most efficient people (or THE most efficient person).
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u/Dragon_scrapbooker 1d ago
Not for every single task, but for more than a few. It’s one of the reasons I hate cleaning.
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u/VeryShyPanda 1d ago
Saaaaaame. It’s so frustrating. I have to be actively monitoring what I’m doing, like second by second, in order to get things done quickly. Like if I’m doing my full shower routine, “ok you’re wetting your hair, ok now you’re doing body wash, ok now shampoo, now shaving cream” etc etc or I’ll be in there for an hour! I truly move at the pace of a tortoise just pondering its own existence if I’m not paying attention.
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u/Longjumping-Top-488 1d ago
Yes! Long showers! And I'll get out and think, oh I got that one done pretty quickly -- what was it, like 15 minutes? And it's 45 and I haven't even shaved my legs.
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u/darkroomdweller 1d ago
Yep. I was always frantically trying to finish my lunch while my friends ran out to recess. I’m definitely slow at eating. For other things I COULD be faster, but I’m paying a lot more attention to detail than most people and trying harder to make things “perfect”. So, it takes me longer to do them. OR I need extra time to review my inventory and make sure I’m taking everything I need with me when I leave the house, or have it all gathered up to leave somewhere else.
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u/Longjumping-Top-488 1d ago
I get tired of eating in the middle of eating and want to be done even though I know I'm still hungry, and then I have to force myself to eat more because I know it's not good to let myself be hungry.
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u/darkroomdweller 1d ago
I totally hear you on this too. Sometimes I dream of subsisting on smoothies.
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u/AproposofNothing35 1d ago
Emotional processing takes me ages. For example, getting over a breakup takes years. Realizing a friend has hurt me and deciding to leave them takes a long time.
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u/torielise21 1d ago
Dealing with that too rn— it’s been a year since my breakup and I still am not over it at all!
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u/123-throwaway123 1d ago
No. I'm the exact opposite and putting up with slowness makes me want to tear my hair out. I read, type, think, talk, everything ridiculously fast.
My partner of a decade is the slowest, most chill soul. He's taught me the virtues of slowing down and has helped me understand it. I honestly didn't know people's minds actually worked that much slower than mine.
It seems great until I can't slow down, even when I want to or need to. I don't think the pros of brains being on high speed out weigh the cons, but I guess I've only ever known that, so I don't know for sure.
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u/mixedberrycoughdrop 1d ago
Same here. This is the #1 thing that makes me think I’m probably all ADHD and just have some autism-esque features from growing up with an autistic dad, because I literally have pulled my hair out when, say, I’m at work and I can’t get openly annoyed at how long it’s taking everyone to reach an obvious conclusion but have to express the frustration somehow! When I was reading Unmasking Autism and it was talking about processing speed, it was the only thing I didn’t relate to.
Being around my partner does help, though: he’s a much more mellow soul and also I just feel like a dick leaving him in the dust while we’re walking somewhere.
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u/Bajadasaurus 1d ago
Yes. In everything but reading, as well. An industrialized world does not allow people to exist in a way that humans adapted to the natural world to live.
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u/AkaiHidan 1d ago
Yeah. Everyone was always saying I was « slow » at everything. I never understood this but it seems my actions and gestures themselves are like in slow motion lol
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u/HoneyCombee 1d ago
Apparently when I'm stressed for time, I look frantic while still moving at a snail's pace. I always I assumed I moved faster but I've been told by multiple people that I don't, I just look more stressed out. I've learned to not stress over time so much - things will happen when they happen and my being stressed won't get things done any faster.
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u/fancyandfab 1d ago
I also have ADHD, so it does always take me much longer. I just try to be gentle with myself. I'm doing the best I can as I'm sure you are too
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u/thislittlemoon 1d ago
Yeah, I definitely run slower on most tasks. There are a few things I'm skilled and comfortable with that I do fairly quickly (I have a decent typing speed, I'm a good/quick problem solver if I have all the information I need, I can come up with a vocal harmony by halfway through a song I've never heard before and be performance ready in 1-2 more runs through, etc) but like, normal life things I feel like I take between 50% and 300% longer than anybody else. (aaaaaabsolutely agree on recipes. I get so mad when I order meal kits that say 10 minute prep and then I'm standing there washing/chopping veggies for20 minutes before I even get the meat out of the fridge.)
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u/gori_sanatani 1d ago
I'm the same way. It's always been a frustrating thing for me because I'm not doing it on purpose, but people often get annoyed at me for it.
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u/RandomStrangerN2 Self-diagnosed AuADHD 1d ago
I can partly relate. I'm usually the last person to finish eating a meal and had always been like that. I am the same as you with cooking, I think because I want to get it right and keep double-checking or just do things more carefully in general. But there are things I'm very efficient at. Nobody cleans faster (and still do a good job) than me. I'm quick to understand a subject of research, and I'm efficient in taking care of the children, which should require like 8 pairs of hands 😅.
I'm also slower to feel my feelings. Two days ago, something my husband did upset me, but only today I'm feeling all the emotions related to the incident. Not to mention the embarrassing long time I take to process stuff that happened 10 years ago.
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u/cowvocado AuDHD 🐌 1d ago
Unfortunately yes. But I can’t rush either, because when I try to move faster I end up dropping things and bumping into everything😅 So I just try to accept that I’m a slow person and need more time for everything.
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u/obiwantogooutside 1d ago
Not test taking but any task that means I have to go do something. I think it’s partly adhd time blindness and partly autism related issues around transitions.
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u/neurodivergent_poet 1d ago
Nope, everything I do is faster than others and I am not good with patiently waiting for the rest to keep up.
Safe to say, I did not have any friends as a kid and it took decades to learn how to accomodate slow people lol
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u/AdOk1965 1d ago
Oh yeah... I'm a weird combo of optimisation and slowness
So, I guess I should be extremely grateful for the optimisation part, since without it, I very much could still be emptying the dishwasher, three years ago x)
I move slowly
I really don't like to clatter things, so I always really pay attention to what I'm doing
And constantly consider the implications; my mind goes:
"given the weight of this, its barycenter and its texture, if I put that here, it will leave a mark on what's behind and eventually slip... okay, not there"
The silver lining is I'm not clumsy: it's extremely rare that I break anything
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u/Big-Security9322 1d ago
Yes!!! Omg yes!! And now my daughter is the same!
I have noticed though that practice has made many things go quite quick or at least caught me up to an average pace (like showering and basic cleaning). I’m still quite slow at some things - like mornings are brutal. It can take me a solid 2.5 (1.75 if I really race) hours to get myself and daughter awake, ready for the day, and in the car for school/work.
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u/Radiant-Nothing 1d ago
Yes but I drive ridiculously fast so I'm on time with that-- still a slow reader though. And slow everything else. A timed math test is one of the most efficient ways to break my spirit.
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u/parataxicdistortions 1d ago
Slower as in being a late bloomer for nearly all milestones like learning to drive and actually passing the driving test, learning to ride a bike, have a career, EVERY thing! In terms of tasks absolutely! Preparing for a trip can take weeks. Leaving home does too. Finishing any task that isn't a special interest is hard. I also have ADHD which means in school it took me so much time to accomplish what was completed in much less time for neurotypicals.
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u/PetrockX 1d ago
Yes, my reflexes are much slower than everyone else's. Can't complete timed anything on time without alot of practice. I can get really efficient at something, but I'm talking weeks to months of practicing the skill on a daily basis. I've learned to have a lot of patience when it comes to learning to do new things lol.
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u/FreeToBeMe13 1d ago
Starting a task is the biggest challenge for me. When I first became a CNA, I was slow AF and stressed out about how long it took me to finish helping everyone on my assignment. Now, 4 years later, I am much faster. Fast enough. But most everybody else is faster.
I finally came to understand it isn't about slow. I, of course, get my work done on time, but I own that I take longer. My patients frequently comment that they appreciate my gentleness and genuine care. I still try, daily to get better and better, but I can feel ok about taking longer (not being slower).
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u/Amazing-Essay7028 1d ago
Absolutely. Now I'm good at catching it. I joke that I move at a snail's pace. I probably look like I'm in slow motion. Can't forget the times I just zone out and freeze in place while my brain reboots. I always have to add time to my estimated times to complete things. This method has worked for me. I also try to do something while I'm waiting for something else, so I don't get stuck in "waiting mode". If I'm in waiting mode I'm basically stuck in mud until it's time
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u/BlackCatFurry 1d ago
Yeap. I have always been the last eating, last packing up after class, slow in basically everything.
The only thing i am not the last in is getting off public transport. I am so scared of getting stuck, that i am 15 minutes early on the door at trains and get to the bus door directly after the previous stop. This is most likely because i have trauma from seemingly being invisible and everyone "accidentally forgetting i was with them" so i am scared that the drivers ignore me trying to get off the vehicle so i am jumping off first just in case.
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u/ArbitraryContrarianX 1d ago
Nope. I'm the opposite. It takes me an extra minute to adjust to whatever the current situation is, but once I'm adjusted, I then respond significantly faster than most NTs at the thing. This is most notable with languages, where it takes me 10-15 min of reading to switch my brain into the language I'm supposed to be in, but also, if you address me in any language I speak, I will respond in the same language without even thinking about it. So... That's weird lol.
When I was in school, I was usually the first person to finish tests, but that might be a little biased, because I also gave absolutely zero fucks about the results of said tests. So me finishing first meant I was allowed to read my book for the rest of the class, so I was more than fine with getting a barely-above-failing-grade because I raced through it.
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u/toad_witch 1d ago
not me but this is absolutely my partner who has ADHD 😭 he takes 2x as long to do things, especially chores. it’s very hard for me as someone whose the opposite and likes to speed through everything
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u/Caspartia 1d ago
Yes. It takes me ages to get ready for work in the morning. I litterally can't get dressed and do my morning routine any faster and I HAVE tried so many times.
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u/effersquinn 1d ago
Honestly not really but this is 100% my severely ADHD husband. He's extremely smart but always late (somehow even if he calls on the way with an ETA), and cooking and cleaning tasks take much, much longer than what you'd expect. He had similar issues with school, but maybe worse than you. He's much smarter than me but I did well in grad school just because I can be good at organizing and churning out papers even if they're not great, and he's the exact opposite; the deficit is getting the thing done, even if he's good at the thing! Adderall can help :)
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u/ex-mortisIX 1d ago
OMG YES except for one detail, it's as though i could've written this post myself. the only difference is that i still did my homework because i was obsessed with perfect grades. there were months where i spent literally every moment i wasn't in class on my homework, to the point i was sleeping just 3 hours a night, and i Still ended up far behind. like 30 missing assignments behind.
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u/GneissGeologist3 1d ago
100000% yes. It definitely frustrates my loves ones sometimes (often). It takes me soo long to do anything or get anywhere. No idea why honestly. I feel like I’m always frantically rushing lol
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u/Careless-Awareness-4 1d ago
I don’t do things fast. I do them right—with accuracy, then I recheck. If it’s not perfect, I’ll do it again. My brain processes quickly. I’ve got more neural connections than my neurotypical coworkers. That doesn’t make me slow—it means I’m processing everything: fans, water, conversation, cooking sounds, buzzing lights. It’s all incoming data.
Many neurotypicals equate “best” with “fast.” But imagine if Nicola Tesla cared about NT time-frames. This is why I believe some of our disabilities are socially constructed. Sure, I struggle with speed. But precision? I’m exceptional. And when you remove neurotypical norms, my “disability” doesn’t look as disabling. Yes I still struggle with daily living things. Mostly the workplace struggle is because of the comparison being made between myself and NT coworkers.
Our minds don’t just work differently—they are different. Neurotypicals can run numbers or clean quickly. Me? I see the data that lives in people and spaces. I notice the person ruining your business, the pattern damaging your relationship, the tiny shift that could change everything. That’s my gift. That’s what I was built for. But most neurotypicals won’t take my advice. They’d rather assume I’m broken than consider I might be right. I’m not even frustrated anymore. It just is.
My husband always takes my advice. He’s not even surprised anymore when I’m right—again.
Now I use my data-collecting brain to write books. I sit at home, headphones on, at my desk, diving into my latest special interests and turning that info into something people actually buy. It took me 42 years to figure that out. I spent most of my life using my skill for everyone else, with no return on my investment. I wish I’d started using it for myself sooner.
So if you’re not the fastest, don’t worry. Find your strength and build toward a future that uses your natural strengths. Every job’s a stepping stone. Use them to get where you want to eventually go.
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u/alt_Kennedy 1d ago
Only throwing my voice in because it's in the minority. I am the complete opposite but I also come from complex trauma where figuring it out comes along with parental issues like punishment for failure or being slow.
You learn to be quick and worse - efficient.
These days at almost 40y - I'm learning to slow down through therapy and recognize and name the emotions that have been flooding and overwhelming me for years...and find that fear is driving a lot of my efficient perfectionism.
I can do whatever you need me to do, I'll take a small learning curve while I apply concepts of other processes to expedite the current learning process. Half of my family are engineer brained - I think that also comes into play here.
Autism doesn't make you slower...imo it makes you more detail oriented. The speed at which you process details personally will probably affect the overall process.
How overwhelming is hyper vigilance for those who are not traumatized?
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u/ex-mortisIX 1d ago
OMG YES except for one detail, it's as though i could've written this post myself. the only difference is that i still did my homework because i was obsessed with perfect grades. there were months where i spent literally every moment i wasn't in class on my homework, to the point i was sleeping just 3 hours a night, and i Still ended up far behind. like 30 missing assignments behind.
as a kid i was terrified to grow up because i knew the adult world moves so fast and i do not.
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u/cowvocado AuDHD 🐌 1d ago
Unfortunately yes. But I can’t rush either, because when I try to move faster I end up dropping things and bumping into everything😅 So I just try to accept that I’m a slow person and need more time for everything.
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u/Longjumping-Top-488 1d ago
Holy crap, are you me? Both my mom and my spouse have always complained about how slowly I do things. I keep telling them to complain to each other instead of me.
I am a faster reader than average but yes, in all the other things I'm slow. Other people seem to think that it's a problem that I'm slow but I don't.
Why does everything have to be done so fast anyway?
ETA: I start packing for trips about two weeks before I leave for this reason.
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u/katestatt 1d ago
all my life! as a kid, i was always the last one to be ready to go out for an activity. my mom and my aunt especially got really annoyed at me for that.
i'm really slow at peeling potatoes (I do 1 for every 3 my partner does)
when I worked as a nurse, it always took me much longer to prepare everything and I felt stressed a lot because a patient would already come in before I was ready! and my colleagues would sometimes be annoyed at how slow I was. but if I try to do it fast I actually and you being even slower because I just get clumsy!
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u/Lime89 1d ago
Yes to all of this. I see a lot of people commenting that they struggle with this because they have ADHD, but I «only» have ASD1. Been tested for both. But since I’m very calm and did great in school (not socially though, lol) I don’t feel like I fit either the hyperactive or the inattentive type, so I didn’t expect to be in the first place.
I guess it takes longer because I’m just slow in my movements in general. Maybe it’s the coordination of movements that makes me slower, or that I feel like it requires more focus than «normal people». I also struggle a lot with executive functioning in general (cooking entails a lot of switching between different tasks for example). Also get lost in daydreaming often.
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u/Noprisoners123 1d ago
OMG yes, I say this almost every day to my partner, if it takes him 30mins to do something- tidy the kitchen, fold laundry, etc - it takes me an hour. Thought it was me
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u/FarDaikon4708 1d ago
Yuuuuup Since I've started listening to audiobooks I always put them on 0.8 or 0.7 speed, and I feel like that applies to everything I do/process/feel. But learning to accept that is nice :)
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u/aryune 1d ago
My coordination is awful. When I was at school, I was terrible at sports and pe classes, but didn’t think too much of it, I just thought I wasn’t sporty, I liked all other school subjects and didn’t have any problems with them. But when I went to college… oh boy. I had laboratory classes for the first time in my life and I really struggled with them, always was last… I had a massive crisis back then, I couldn’t understand why all other people in my group also had these lab classes for the first time, yet they did good, and I did so horrible. I still remember the lab teacher saw me struggle and tried to cheer me up.
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u/Cautious_Cat_2377 1d ago
So many yeses to the cooking taking triple what the recipe says. I hate it. Cooking stresses me out and takes so long. I hate trying to get all the things ready at the same time. It’s the worst
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u/lelainek 1d ago
Yes absolutely, but I’m a lot better now! I’ve always had a tendency to either hyper-focus or lose focus/get easily distracted, both of which eat up so much more time than I know is justifiable in the workplace. I’m detail oriented, but then so was my coworker and she was getting the same results in half the time. I felt like I had to do things in a very particular order to get quality results, but she had an orderly routine too and did great! It was aggravating for me and I didn’t want to feel ashamed of myself for doing a good job so I knew I had to watch and learn. Ftr, we were bartenders and my experiences are about job duties unrelated to service. The first thing and most obvious difference I noticed was she completed one major task without getting sidetracked and starting another. She kept tasks linear, and if she’d have to pause to serve a guest or whatever, she’d return right back to it when she could. I practiced that by reminding myself to focus focus focus on task at hand, but not too much because I could come back for the details later after I’ve completed the bulk of the work. Over time and with mindful repetition I’ve found myself able to get more done in less time than a majority of people without overthinking it and without sacrificing quality.
I also started reading articles on how to deep clean a house really fast and that helped take a lot of the guess work out of how to complete tasks in an efficient order, which helped me at the bar. I still slip up a lot and can easily spend hours on a 30min task, especially at home. But since I’ve become more conscientious about it, I can keep my place clean for 4-5 days at a time and I can always see my floor. When it comes to dishes, I do everything but those bc I’m not trying to waste an entire day. My bf does those and I just unclog the dishwasher once a month. Much more efficient. Good luck.
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u/selenofile 1d ago
Yes! In so many ways. Takes me forever to clean something that my partner can do in 10 minutes. I'm way more thorough and have a lot of side quests. Getting out of the house takes forever. Literally every step in doing that takes longer. I have to watch time carefully because it slips away from me a lot. Waking up, eating, dressing, packing, cooking, my kids bedtime routine, travel time etc etc etc
Makes me think of an article I read recently about a new term for autism in New Zealand. "Takiwātanga is a recently developed Te Reo Māori term used to describe ASD in New Zealand. It derives from 'tōku/tōna anō takiwā' meaning 'in my/his or her own time and space'."
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u/itsadesertplant 1d ago
I think to some extent you’re focusing on this “slowness” and your brain is only remembering things that confirm it. The driving comment is what made me wonder about this.
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u/Significant-sunny33 1d ago
Me too. And I can't even say I read faster I just can focus on one thing for longer!!
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u/whoooodatt 1d ago
opposite. I am very fast, which then makes me wonder if I am sloppy or didn't understand something in the instructions, or if i missed subtext.
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u/CherryOnTopaz 1d ago
Yes, I’ve always been behind everyone else. Even in school, I was behind. I could never catch on like the other kids, so much so I needed extra help with tutors and was sent to a special school because I was failing middle school 😂 coworkers sometimes take over my task and do it faster than me. I know they gossip about me being slow. People perceive me as being mentally slow with every job I had. I think the first time I really noticed I was slower than everyone else was my first job at an amusement park, they had us try on the uniform in the locker rooms to make sure they fit then we could go home before starting the next day, I try mines on and come out and everyone is gone except for one person, there’s a guy waiting outside and I was like “where is everyone?” He said they already tried on their uniform and went home. I was so shock. Every time I think I’m being fast and efficient an NT does it 10 times better and 10 times faster than me.
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u/CherryOnTopaz 1d ago
Another time was in middle school, all the other kids memorized their schedule and I was still using the little map they gave us about a week or two in and some girl was like “she’s still using the map two weeks later?” Or when I worked as a sandwich maker and kept messing up the sandwiches putting the wrong ingredients on. I had to look at the sheet on how to make it and kept getting snide remarks about how I should’ve known how to do it by now from my coworkers.
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u/LogicalLetter7955 1d ago
I don't have an official diagnosis of autism because most doctors in my country seem to believe that if you have made it into adulthood without a diagnosis it means that there is no reason to get one now, but I have the exact same issues you describe. Almost everything I try to do takes me around 3x the amount of time it takes most other people. Except for reading, in which I also seem to be a little faster than most people. I don't even notice that I am doing something on a slower pace than others until someone comments on it. Various people have even told me that I talk in a slower pace, which I had no idea. I have tried to ask doctors about it (a neurologist and a psychiatrist) and they told me that a) maybe it is my subjective experience or b) anxiety causes me to be slower. I don't believe any of these two are correct, because a) according to my subjective experience I do things at a normal pace, it is others that point out that I am very slow at something and then I pay more attention and I realise that they are right and b) anxiety is the only thing that makes me move a little faster (for my own standards, not other people's). The more relaxed I am the more time I need to do something, whereas when I am really anxious, about catching a plane for example, I feel my body vibrating with more energy and I can take a shower in 30 minutes instead of 60. I also have to note that I have an official diagnosis of multiple sclerosis, which I am sure doesn't help with the speed, but I was slow all my life before my first ms symptoms at 17.
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u/Former_Specific1126 23h ago
I appreciate posts like this because they make me feel like, it’s okay. I’m okay. Even though nearly everyone my whole life has of course, told me the absolute opposite. I feel every bit of this. Daily, still I hear the voices in my head from childhood telling me to hurry up. Getting my schoolwork done. Finishing a test. Getting Anything done. You are not alone.
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u/JaguarOk8334 23h ago
Wow, I feel seen. It’s like I wrote this…. 😄.
Yes, everything takes me so much longer. Even if I sit and plan it out what I am going to do so that I save time, it still takes more time…. I don’t understand how… 🤷🏼♀️
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u/misslozzam 21h ago
I’m a bit of both! I do a lot of things really fast! I’m always being told to slow down. I talk fast, I walk fast. I’m just always in a rush to get the said task in hand done and dusted. However, when it comes to taking in information that is being said to me or starting a job in the first place, I’m very slow! I’m like a sloth who periodically takes speed!
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u/UVRaveFairy Transgender Woman - Fae - Hyperphantasia - Faceless Witch 21h ago
Dancing / Kung Fu changes physical pattern management, got for body awareness.
Sure things fall off with fatigue / loss of focus and taking just time out is always good, slowing this down isn't bad it's good.
Easier too have slow flow than none (none's ok too, when in that zone, if cooking, slow it all right down and enjoy it for what it is being softer and gentle).
Putting that discipline into just cutting vegetables and etc, all sorts of movements in life.
Physical input is allot easier too process and is more automated in our organism, with practice you feel the shapes, changes, sets and ways to be simpler (KISS Keep It Short Sweet).
Like physical refactoring, takes time, good news, neuroplasticity is on your side and in your corner.
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u/MayorWilkins_III 19h ago
Completely! With the slowness in which i do everything along with my sleep problems, I feel like I have absolutely no time in the day it sucks.
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u/punk-y_brewster 19h ago
Depends. When I get focused I can be super productive.
I read really fast. Always have. I have always been among the first students or the first student to hand in my test during school and university exams.
Finding the wherewithal to make myself do things is what is dwindling with age and the effects of CPTSD (in my 40s). my executive functioning is declining.
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u/faequeen123 18h ago
My mom thinks I’m fooling around all the time cause it can’t possibly take me more than ten minutes to get dressed 😭
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u/No_Pineapple5940 Self-diagnosed | Level 1 1d ago
YES TO ALL OF THIS! I'm in dental hygiene school right now, and there are a lot of things that require speed so it stresses me out quite a lot
Idk about you, but for me I think a large part of the problem is that I have to do things in the 'right' order and since everything is new to me, it takes a while to figure out what to do first/next, so I waste a lot of time thinking or running back and forth doing nothing basically
I can be fast (or a decent speed) only if the task is very familiar to me, AND I'm trying to be fast. Otherwise there's just no way it's happening lol