r/AutismInWomen • u/thereadingbee • 20h ago
General Discussion/Question Getting attached to people too easily?
A colleague at work ledt today and I'm seriously sad over it. Ive only been at this place about a year and a half and we really only started to speak over the last 7 months really and even then it wasn't on many days. But she left today and I feel super sad over it.
She was one of few nice people she didn't judge me or anyone she was very open minded and kind hearted and it's just weird that we won't see each other on Tuesday like normal.
But I know she probably wasn't that bothered like me. I def build things up to be more than they are. And it's weird a very weird feeling because I'm pretty devastated over it cried yesterday cried saying bye she did give me her snap but idk I feel like this is something I do in many different situations.
I fear that it's basically with anyone who gives me time of day🙃 which is pathetic.
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u/Philosophic111 Diagnosed 2024 at a mature age 19h ago
If you have her phone number maybe text her in a month or so and say 'Hey how's it going at your new job?'. She might reply and suggest a coffee and catch up - you never know. Always good to be friendly.
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u/NoMovie5797 19h ago
I'm sorry you're feeling so down about it, but I think it's natural to feel that way. I'm the same with some people and I am always surprised when I realise that just because I feel something, it doesn't mean the other person feels the exact same thing. I think her giving you her snap means that she does like you and would like to be friends :) you're not pathetic at all!
I have a friend that I met from work, we worked with each other 2 times, and I just loved her so much. We swapped socials and now we meet up regularly haha
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u/Icy-Purple4801 19h ago
I don’t know if this resonates… but in my experience it’s not just the loss of a person who was kind to you, it’s actually the loss of a safe person you could be yourself around. It’s the loss of a reliable pattern in your life that was positive and easy. And in this world, we all need more of that, it’s sad when we lose something good that works for us.
For me, when this happens, I’m often most sad that i’m losing the part of myself that had gotten to be more seen and free around them. I have to go back in my box and wait for the next person or opportunity that accepts me the way I am. That’s a real loss. It’s okay to be sad.